THE GARBAGE GENERATION :
THE CONSEQUENCES
OF THE DESTRUCTION OF THE TWO-PARENT FAMILY
AND THE NEED TO STABILIZE IT
BY STRENGTHENING ITS WEAKEST LINK,
THE FATHER'S ROLE
Daniel Amneus
CONTENTS
I. INTRODUCTION: THE PATHOLOGY OF THE FEMALE-HEADED
FAMILY.......................................
II. THE ONCE AND FUTURE MATRIARCHY: THE STONE AGE, THE
GHETTO,AND THE PROMISCUITY PRINCIPLE........
III. THE PATRIARCHAL SYSTEM: PUTTING SEX TO WORK.......
IV. SLEEPING BEAUTY FEMINISM VS. SLAUGHTERED SAINTS
FEMINISM...................................
V. THE MUTILATED BEGGAR ARGUMENT....................
VI. THE CUSTODY TRAP.................................
VII. THE GILDER FALLACY...............................
VIII. THE WEITZMAN FALLACY.............................
IX. HYPERGAMY........................................
X. OUR PAYCHECKS, OUR SELVES: WHY FATHERS MUST
DEMAND CUSTODY.............................
XI. THE HUMPHREY PRINCIPLE..........................
ANNEX TO CHAPTER I..............................
ADDITIONAL NOTE.................................
INTRODUCTION:
THE PATHOLOGY OF THE FEMALE-HEADED FAMILY
"Women," wrote Ramsey Clark in l970, in his celebrated book Crime in America, "are not a threat to the public."[1 But he also wrote, in discussing the male juvenile criminals who ]are a threat to the public, that "three-fourths came from broken homes."[2 That means mostly female-headed homes. That means that while the single mothers of these criminals do not themselves commit crimes and go to prison, the social]ization they give their children has an extraordinarily high correlation with the male crime of the next generation. This socialization, in fact, is the "root cause of crime" which Clark wrote his book to explore. He had found the explanation he sought and he didn't know it. It was concealed by the generation-long time-lag between cause and effect and by the sex-switch between generations: like hemophilia, crime is manifested in males but carried and transmitted by females--or rather by single females. Instead of seeing the true connection, Clark gave his readers this:
If we are to deal meaningfully with crime, what must be seen is the dehumanizing effect on the individual of slums, racism, ignorance and violence, of corruption and impotence to fulfill rights, of poverty and unemployment and idleness, of generations of malnutrition, of congenital brain damage and prenatal neglect, of sickness and disease, of pollution, of decrepit, dirty, ugly, unsafe, overcrowded housing, of alcoholism and narcotics addiction, of avarice, anxiety, fear, hatred, hopelessness and injustice. These are the fountainheads of crime.3
Not so. If we are to deal meaningfully with crime, what must be seen is its relationship with the female-headed family. Most criminals come from female-headed families. Most gang members come from female-headed families. Most addicts come from female-headed families. Most rapists come from female-headed families. Most educational failures come from female-headed families. Every presidential assassin before Hinckley came from a female-headed family or one in which he had an impossibly bad relationship with his father. Most illegitimate births occur to females who themselves grew up in female-headed families.
If we are to deal meaningfully with crime, what we must do is reduce the number of female-headed families; what we must do is prevent the divorce courts from expelling half of society's fathers from their homes; what we must do is terminate a welfare system which displaces millions of men from the principal male role, that of family-provider. What we must do is make the father the head of the family.
The female role, says Margaret Mead, is a biological fact; the male role is a
social creation.[4 This is the primary reality
concerning human society. Motherhood has been the dominant feature of
mammalian life since its beginning some two hundred million years ago, most
conspicuously since the great reptiles became extinct and the Age of Mammals
began sixty-five million years ago. Fatherhood in the sense of major male
participation in reproduction is only a few million years old. Fatherhood in
the sense of male headship of families is only a few thousand years old.
What is happening to our society is that it is discarding patriarchal sexual
regulation and reverting to the primeval mammalian pattern of a reproductive
unit consisting of the mother and her offspring, the male putting in an
appearance to perform his minuscule sexual function and then disappearing or
being hauled away to the sausage factory or being reduced to the role of stud
who can be discarded when his female tires of him. "Men and women," rejoices
feminist-anthropologist Helen ]
Biologically speaking, it is indeed a recent invention, scarcely older than
the civilization which it made possible and which emerged coevally with it and
created the wealth which reconciled women to accepting it. But women's new
economic independence is leading them to yearn for a return to the prehistoric
mammalian arrangement. "[W]herever women are economically powerful," says
Fisher, "divorce rates are high. You see it in the K]
Let's say, wherever women are economically powerful and there are no
social guarantees to ensure male headship of families, divorce rates are
high--such being the case among the Kung and the Americans. The Kung have no
social guarantees to ensure male headship of families because the Kung never
emerged from the Stone Age. The Americans have no social guarantees to ensure
male headship of families because there exists an elementary confusion in the
heads of policy makers, lawmakers and judges, who imagine that the obvious
strength of the biological tie between the mother and the infant (the
"biological fact" Margaret Mead refers to) means that it requires their
assistance. A biological fact does not require the services of the legal
system. What does require these services is the weakest biological link in the
family, the role of the father. It was the creation of this role--only a few
thousand years ago--which made patriarchal civilization possible. Prior to
that, mankind had to muddle through the million years of the Stone Age]
]
The Annex is an essential part of the argument of this book and logically belongs at this point in the text. To place it here, however, would be placing a stumbling block in front of the reader, asking him to plow through fifty pages of tedious documentation, filled with repetitious overkill, proving the assertions made in Chapter I. Like the textual notes in an edition of Shakespeare, which nobody reads and which only one reader in hundreds consults, it has to be in the book but it does not have to be read. It is enough that the reader should know that there exists (and can be consulted on pages 000-000) proof that the high-crime, low-achieving areas of society are those with the greatest numbers of families headed by women and that the low-crime, high-achieving groups in society are those with stable, patriarchal families- -that the feminist/sexual revolution and its attempt to impose a social organization based on female kinship is a failure and that it is necessary to return to a social organization based on male kinship.
II
THE ONCE AND FUTURE MATRIARCHY:
THE STONE AGE, THE GHETTO AND THE PROMISCUITY PRINCIPLE
In the Matriarchal System the reproductive unit consists of the mother and her offspring, the father playing a marginal role, wandering into and out of the "family," subject to dismissal at the mother's bidding. The central fact about this kind of family is its naturalness. Roman jurists spoke of maternity as a natural fact, "natura verum," and of paternity as merely a matter of civil law. "In all but a few species," writes Sarah Hrdy, "females are permanent residents in social groups, males mere transients."[8 This is the reproductive arrangement of all lower mammals. It has been the reproductive arrangement of the human race itself until recently. Its biological backup is awesome--what Margaret Mea]d meant by saying the female role is a "biological fact."
It is the reproductive pattern which re-emerges in times of social catastrophe. When men are killed on battlefields or cast into prisons, female-headed families carry on. When there is divorce, the mother takes custody of the children. When ghetto males sit on curbsides and get stoned, ghetto females and children stay home and watch T.V.
The matriarchal family may result from catastrophe, but it may also result from doing nothing, from biological and social drifting. It is always on standby, always waiting to resurface and re-establish itself. It is what society lapses into when the upkeep and maintenance of the patriarchal system is neglected. It is the pattern which is re-emerging at the present time under the aegis of the feminist/sexual revolution.
It is the pattern found in surviving Stone Age societies. A l9th century German ship's doctor described the situation in the German African colony of Cameroon thus:
With a large number of tribes, inheritance is based on maternity. Paternity
is immaterial. Brothers and sisters are only the children of one mother. A
man does not bequeath his property to his children, but to the children of his
sister, that is to say, to his nephews and nieces, as his nearest demonstrable
blood relatives. A chief of the Way people explained to me in horrible
English: "My sister and I are certainly blood relatives, consequently her son
is my heir; when I die, he will be the king of my town." "And your father?" I
inquired. "I don't know what that means, 'my father,' answered he. Upon my
putting to him the question whether he had no children, rolling on the ground
with laughter, he answered that, with them, men have no children, only women.[9
"Originally," writes W. Robertson Smi]
was by far the most successful form that human association has assumed--it
may indeed be said that it has been the only successful one....All human
associations that have subsequently arisen have been bound by loose and feeble
ties compared with the primitive maternal clan. Political organizations,
religious theocracies, States, nations, have endeavored in vain to achieve real
and complete social solidarity. They are artificial structures; social
humanity has never succeeded in adequately replacing the primitive bond to
which it owes its existence. Even those loyalties which took its place have
now to a large extent lost their reality, and individualistic interests rule
supreme. Human society finds itself in the precarious position of being no
longer held together by those bonds of sentiment which constitute the
distinction between a social group and an aggregate of individuals.[12
The term "family" properly refers to the male-headed patriarchal unit. "The
relations arising out of the reproductive functions, which constitute the only
analogue of social relations to be found in the animal world," says
Briffault,
differ conspicuously from those generally connoted by the term "family." That
term stands, in the tradition of civilised societies, for a group centering
round the interests, activities, and authority of a dominant male. The husband
is the head of the family; the other members of the group, wife and children,
are his dependents and subordinates. The corresponding group arising out of
the reproductive functions among animals presents no trace of that
constitution. It consists of the mother and her offspring. The male, instead
of being the head and supporter of the group, is not an essential member of it,
and more often than not is altogether absent from it. He may join the maternal
family, but commonly does not. When he attaches himself to the female's family
his association with it is loose and precarious. He has no functional place in
it. The parental relation is confined to that between mother and brood.
]
"In the great majority of uncultured societies," writes Arthur Ev]
had a very high status in the Stone Age, as we have seen. Archeology, myth
and comparison to still existing nature societies all point to their dominant
position.
He quotes Jacquetta Hawk]
There is every reason to suppose that under the life conditions of the primary
Neolithic way of life, mother-right and the clan system were still dominant [as
they had been in the paleolithic period], and land would generally have
descended through the female line. Indeed, it is tempting to be convinced that
the earliest Neolithic societies throughout their range in time and space gave
woman the highest status she has ever known.[15
The matriarchal family pattern is being restored by the welfare system, by the
feminist/sexual revolution, by women's growing economic independence and by the
legal preference for mother-custody following divorce. Writing of the educated
and economically independent women created by women's liberation, Elizabeth
Nick]
"In the coming matriarchy," continue Nickles and Ashcraft,
families will be thought of as sets of divers individuals rather than
homogeneous social clusters, and the definition of "family" will broaden to
include many kinds of living arrangements, as is happening now without
widespread social recognition. We may see the advent of the rotational family,
in which there is no single, stable cast of characters for a lifetime, but
rather a series of individuals--male and female--who will be added to or phased
out of a continually reconstituted family unit as the needs, interests, and
emotional commitments of the couple, individual, or group dictate. The first
five years of a woman's adult life may be spent living with male and female
roommates; the next five years with a male mate; the next five with a husband
and a child; the next three with two female friends, and so on. This pattern
is already emerging, but when it occurs on a large scale, we will see the
rotational family replacing the nuclear family as the status quo.18
The family pattern is called "rotational," but it does its rotating around the
fixed figure of Mom, who remains at its center while males make their
entrances, do their orbiting, and make their exits.
It is the pattern of the Hopi Indians]
The central core or axis of the household is composed of a line of women--a
segment of a lineage. All the members of the segment, male and female, are
born in the household and consider it their home, but only the women normally
reside there after marriage. The men of the lineage leave at marriage to
reside in the households of their wives, returning to their natal home on
various ritual and ceremonial occasions, or in case of separation or divorce,
which is frequent. Into the household in turn come other men through
marriage....The household revolves about a central and continuing core of
women; the men are peripheral with divided residences and loyalties.[19
A. I. ]
It is the pattern of the ghettos, where illegitima]
It is the pattern of increasing numbers of households in the larger
society. According to the Washington-based National Center for Policy
Alternatives, 40 percent of girls in school today will be heads of
households.[21 "Ten percent of the nation's
families are headed only by a woman," writes Joreen, "but 40 percent of the
families classified as poor have female heads."22 Implying, naturally, that
society should do more to help these poor Moms and their kids.
The matriarchal days of the Stone Age]
From 3.5 million years ago to about l0,000 years ago, was a peaceful period,
when "marriage" was informal, casual.... Yes, there was a garden and in it we
gathered fruits and vegetables and sang to the moon and played and worked
together and watched the children grow. For the most part life was good, and
we made art and rituals celebrating our participation in the glorious spectacle
and process of life within nature.[23
Referring to those same happy days, feminist Evelyn R]
A woman did not need a husband as a means of support; she was herself economically independent as a producing member of the community. This gave women, like men, the freedom to follow their personal inclinations in sex relations. A woman had the option of remaining for life with one husband, but she was not under any legal, moral or economic compulsion to do so.
This freedom was destroyed with the advent of class society, private property
and monogamous marriage.[24
It was destroyed by the advent of class society, private property, monogamous
marriage ]
Ms. Reed lauds the freedom of such women. But there is a complementary freedom which is denied them. If they exercise their freedom to be promiscuous, they cannot enter into a stable and binding contract to share their reproductive lives with men who need to rely on their loyalty and chastity as a precondition for having legitimate children and stable families. Once women get the freedom to make the marriage contract non-binding, then they may suppose they have the "option" of either remaining for life with one husband or of not so remaining, but since the husband has no comparable option--the woman's freedom includes the freedom to throw the man out and take his children from him (and in the American matriarchy to take part of his paycheck as well)--the man is forced to share the woman's view of the marriage as non-binding. He becomes roleless and de-motivated, likely to become a drifter or a disrupter of society, likely to be regarded by women as poor marriage material, to be pointed to by feminists as proving the anti-sociality of males and the need for more feminism.
"If motherhood and sexuality were not wedged resolutely apart by male culture," says Adrienne Rich (she means wedged resolutely together), "if women could choose both the forms of our sexuality and the terms of our motherhood or non-motherhood freely, women might achieve genuine sexual autonomy."[25 Quite so. Women ]are choosing it and thereby wrecking the patriarchal system. It is the declared purpose of feminists (including Ms. Rich) to do so.
"Our liberation as women and as lesbians," write Barbara Love and Elizabeth Shanklin,
will never be accomplished until we are liberated to be mothers. Until we
have the power to define the conditions under which we exercise our biological
potential, until we define for ourselves the role of motherhood to include the
power to determine the conditions of motherhood and to determine the
environment in which our children are reared, we have no real choice. And
until we have choices, we are not free.[26
The legal system, which divorces the parents of l.2 million children every
year, and the welfare system which subsidizes the needs of 700,000 children
born to unmarried mothers each year, are helping them to achieve this
freedom--and passing the costs on to the shrinking numbers of patriarchal
families. Only a fraction of those costs consists of immediate money payments.
"The vast majority of neurotics," writes John M]
Feminist Carolyn Shaw Be]
"What would it have been like," ask feminists Monica Sjo]
if patriarchy had never happened? To get an idea, we have to comprehend the first law of matriarchy: Women control our own bodies. This would seem a basic premise of any fully evolved human culture; which is why primate patriarchy is based on its denial.
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The process of redefinition begins with women reclaiming total sexual and
reproductive autonomy; for if the female body can be controlled or used, in any
way, from the outside--via exploitive definitions or systems--then so, it
follows, can everything else. (The definition and use of the female body is
the paradigm for the definition and use of all things; if the autonomy of the
female body is defined as sacred, then so will be the autonomy of all things.)
Patriarchal men have tried to pretend that males can be "free" while females
can be dominated and enslaved; just as white imperialists have pretended that
they can be "independent and soulful" beings in private life, while publicly
colonizing and brutalizing darker peoples.[34
The most significant thing about this statement of "the first law of
matriarchy" is that it is asserted categorically, without reference to the
marriage contract. It assumes without even bothering to assert it, that
marriage confers no rights on husbands. It must be obvious to most men--though
it is clearly not obvious to these women--that this female sexual autonomy
rules out the possibility of using the family as a system for motivating males.
Such is the state of things said (correctly) by Sjoo and Mor to have existed
prior to the creation of patriarchy a few thousand years ago, and such is again
becoming the state of things as patriarchy melts away. It was to prevent this
state of things that patriarchy was created, a central feature of it being
society's guarantee of the Legitimacy Principle]
"It would not be far-fetched," writes Evelyn Ackworth, "to describe the whole
conception of the Welfare State as a matriarchal approach to a problem of
social life."[35 Exactly. The Welfare State
has teamed with the feminist/sexual revolution to replace the patriarchal
family with the older matrilineal unit. The ghettos provide the textbook
example:
Now here's how it is [writes black feminist Patricia ]
Ms. Robinson's complaint is that men won't love, honor and protect their
families--which is patriarchy. She cannot see that the first law of matriarchy
has deprived these men of families and therefore of the motivation which would
keep them working. When Othello becomes convinced of his wife's unchastity he
bids farewell to his profession: "]
Here's an example of how the Promiscuity Principle [identical with the first
law of matriarchy] works, from Ann ]
DEAR ANN: I'm writing this letter in the hope that you can help me. You have access to the best doctors and I am ashamed to talk to anybody I know.
I recently had a baby but I don't know who the father is. She looks like me. I had sex with Guy No. l on May 7, Guy No. 2 on May l4 and 15 and Guy No. 3 on May 27. I had my last period on May l.
I never had any problem with my pregnancy and the baby came right on my due date, which was Feb. 7. She is adorable and I don't regret having her, but I would sure like to know who the father is.
My friends tell me I'm entitled to support money but I can't bring a guy into court unless I'm pretty sure I know what I'm talking about. Thanks for your help, Ann.
The Promiscuity Principle entitles her to paternity suit income. It is her right to control her own sexual behavior- -including the right not to use contraceptives- -and to impose the economic costs upon one of her sex partners- -if the District Attorney can round up her playmates, compel them to take blood tests, and identify the lucky one. Then her sexual irresponsibility will pay off and reinforce society's acceptance of the first law of matriarchy, otherwise known as the Promiscuity Principle. The identified boyfriend will be reduced to years of involuntary servitude for the benefit of another person- -slavery.
The feminist will insist that the boyfriend is equally responsible with the mother for the procreation of the illegitimate child and therefore equally bound to pay for its costs. Not so in the patriarchal system. Patriarchy divides women into good and bad, those who accept the Sexual Constitution (sexual law-and-order, monogamy, the Legitimacy Principle, the double standard, etc.) and those who reject it. This woman rejects it, and she is "bad" because she denies to a man the possibility of having responsible sex with her even if he wants to. Her unchastity deprives her child of a father and deprives men of the possibility of being a father to her children. She can have a sexual relationship only with a man as irresponsible as herself. She is a sexual Typhoid Mary who has inflicted illegitimacy upon a child and seeks to ameliorate what she has done by demanding to be paid for it. She will plead as justification that "there is no such thing as an illegitimate child," signifying there is no such thing as an unchaste woman.
Ramsey Clark assures us that "Women are not a threat to the public."[38 This woman is. She has procreated a fatherless child several times more likely to become a delinquent.39 If the courts adopt the proposals of Senator Moynihan and Professor Barbara Berg]mann and other feminists to garnish the paycheck of her child's father, he will become a less employable, less motivated, less marriageable, less productive member of society. He may drop out of the taxable/garnishable economy altogether and enter the underground economy, or become parasitic upon a female AFDC recipient- -the pattern found in millions of ghetto households. The program for making men economically responsible for procreation outside of the Sexual Constitution has the effect of making them irresponsible within it. (Also it doesn't work--most men will evade its sanctions.)
The workability of the patriarchal system requires the regulation of female sexuality, including the enforcing of the double standard. In no other way can men participate meaningfully in reproduction. A woman violates the Sexual Constitution by being promiscuous. A man violates it by refusing to provide for his family. The new feminist sexual order proposes that women shall be free to be promiscuous and that the social disruption thereby created shall be made tolerable by compelling men to provide for non-families. But men cannot be held responsible for female irresponsibility if this irresponsibility prevents them from having families to begin with; and it is for this reason that patriarchy holds a man responsible only for the subsidization of a wife, a "good" woman who accepts the Sexual Constitution and her obligation under it to bear only legitimate children. The historical development of this arrangement in the second millennium B. C. is thus described by Dr. Gerda Lerner:
As we compare the legal and social position of women in Mesopotamian and
Hebrew societies, we note similarities in the strict regulation of women's
sexuality and in the institutionalization of a sexual double standard in the
law codes. In general, the married Jewish woman occupied an inferior position
to that of her counterpart in Mesopotamian societies. Babylonian women could
own property, sign contracts, take legal action, and they were entitled to a
share in the husband's inheritance. But we must also note a strong upgrading
of the role of women as mothers in the Old Testament....This is quite in line
with the general stress on the family as the basic unit of society, which we
have also noted in Mesopotamian society at the time of state formation.[40
The more important point is the upgrading of the role of men as fathers-
-which
is to say the strengthening of the family's weakest link, the father's role,
which depends in turn upon "the strict regulation of women's sexuality" which
today's feminists seek to get rid of. The "time of state formation" [read: the
creation of civilization] was the time which stressed the family as the basic
unit of society, just as today's social and sexual anarchy is the time which
stresses women's desire to wreck the family and return to "beena
marriage]
"The various laws against rape," says Dr. Lerner, "all incorporated the
principle that the injured party is the husband or the father of the raped
woman."42 Feminists think this is outrageous. What it signifies is that the
protection of female chastity is normally the function of the husband or the
father-
-in
contrast to the feminist Promiscuity Principle which declares that a woman's
reproductive life is entirely her own business. The ancient Mesopotamian and
Hebrew societies Dr. Lerner refers to stipulated that the law would interfere
when the husband or father could not handle his own family matters, and when
]
Nothing has changed in four thousand years. In ancient Mesopotamia, as in the United States today, women were more concerned with maintaining their sexual autonomy, men more concerned with maintaining the integrity of families, and per corollary the regulation of female chastity upon which the family depends. What Hammurabi's legislation shows is what contemporary lawmakers fail to see- -that the Sexual Constitution is a male creation and must be supported by males. Men, not women, are the ultimate guardians of morality; and while men may delegate the responsibility to women (as in the Victorian age), when women subvert the moral order, men must reassert their responsibility to restore it.
"The discoverers of the matrikinship system," says Evelyn Reed,
correctly inferred it to be a survival from a prefamily period when, as some
put it, "fathers were unknown." They reasoned that cases where kinship ties
and the line of descent passed through the mothers, without recognizing
fathers, were evidence that the matriclan had existed before the father-family.
The matrikinship system persists up to our times in many primitive regions,
even where fathers have become known.[43
This persistence is, of course, the chief reason why these regions are
primitive.
]
When I say alone, what I mean is live without a man. It's often one woman
with a lot of children in the house. But unlike many societies there has been
a tradition of women being able to live without men and without living within
the bosom of the extended family. So that there's been a tradition of
independent women living on their own, but the price that traditionally women
have paid for that is that they then have to become the sole supporters of
their children....But it brings with it certain benefits in the sense that
unlike in the Middle East, or say Asia, some other countries, it's possible to
not be ostracized for having many sexual partners, it's possible to live a
little independently, to dress in certain ways, to move differently than has
been traditionally possible in European or Asian societies.[44
Jamaican women practice the first law of matriarchy and thereby deny a
meaningful role to males, many of whom become anti-social:
The situation of women has gotten worse in many ways. If you look at some of
the so-called traditional indicators of progress, which is employment, etc.,
the situation of women hasn't gotten any better. It's got worse....In terms of
the streets, in times gone by, in days of yore, women controlled the streets.
Now the streets is not a woman's domain. Violence of Jamaican society which is
virtually taken for granted by everybody. I myself am looking for a place to
live with grills [iron bars over the windows for security] everywhere at the
moment....For a lot of women it is a matter of you can't go out of the house
after six o'clock, you must get home before dark, if you go to the theatre they
have a special six o'clock matinee which is almost completely attended by women
because that is the time when they have to go out. So that is a situation
which has gotten much worse, too....Of course the level of sexual violence has
increased so much that now the streets are not the domain of women, certainly
the docks aren't.45
The violence is male violence, a fact heavily emphasized in feminist
propaganda, which calls it ]
"The role of the male," says George Gilder, "is the Achilles' heel of
civilized society....The man still needs to be tamed."[46 The man's violence needs to be tamed, no
doubt, so that his energies may channeled into a useful direction rather than
becoming destructive. But the taming and channeling are impossible without a
meaningful male role; and since the first law of matriarchy denies men that
meaningful role, the female is as much in need of taming as the male.
According to Carl Wil]
The males procreated by these sexually liberated females, males exploited in
feminist propaganda as illustrating male anti-sociality, could better be used
as illustrations of female socialization. A survey of l08 rapists undertaken
by Raymond A. ]
The first law of matriarchy implies the right of one woman to undermine the
marriage of another woman. According to Laurel ]
The first law of matriarchy is good for the aborti]
Thanks to the first law of matriarchy, births out of ]
We know that women who receive Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC) benefits when they are less than 25 years old remain dependent on AFDC for long periods of time. In fact, 70 percent received AFDC for at least five years; more than one-third got it for at least 10 years.
Raised in an environment in which fathers don't provide for their young and
dependency on government is assumed, few children will develop the skills of
self-sufficiency, or even the concept of personal responsibility. Young men
will not strive to be good providers and young women will not expect it of
their men. Family breakdown becomes cyclical, out-of-wedlock births become
cyclical, poverty and dependence becomes cyclical. And the culture of poverty
grows.[52
Bauer quotes Charles Murra]
For the young woman who is not pregnant, "enabling" means she does not ask, "Do I want a welfare check badly enough to get pregnant?" but rather, "If I happen to get pregnant, will the consequences really be so bad?"
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The existence of an extensive welfare system permits the woman to put less
pressure on the man to behave responsibly, which facilitates irresponsible
behavior on his part, which in turn leads the woman to put less reliance on the
man, which exacerbates his sense of superfluity and his search for alternative
definitions of manliness.[53
The pattern is not confined to the lower orders. It underlies equally the
reluctance of educated men to marry educated women, producing feminist
complaints about the refusal of males to make stable and reliable commitments
to women. The same male reluctance underlay the flurry of panicky articles
appearing in l986 on the subject of the ]
We are talking here about woman as function. We are talking here about
fulfilling others' ideas about what one should be fitted for and for what one
exists. Worse, we are talking here not about love, faith or goodness, but
about fitting into the structures that others decide for you. We are talking
about control.
To put it frankly, this kind of "concern" about one's chances at marriage is
about ways of controlling women.
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Marriage can be one kind of love, and at best it certainly is one of the two
or three greatest kinds. But when dealt with in terms of controlling a woman,
it becomes the antithesis of love and fulfillment.
Controlling a ]
The statistics on the unmarriageability of educated and economically
independent women are factual.[55 Ms. Geyer
resents them because they suggest the advisability of women accepting a degree
of sexual regulation. She wants female behavior thought of "in positive and
freeing terms rather than in negative and controlling terms." One might
describe a train which jumps its tracks as behaving in a "positive and freeing"
way and a train which remains on the tracks as behaving in a "negative and
controlling" way. The feminist would respond that women are not machines, but
the comparison will stand for all that. Women (and men) require socialization
as much as trains require rails if they are to avoid catastrophe. Controlling
women (and men) is not the "antithesis" but the precondition of "love and
fulfillment" as well as of social stability and civilization.
Let's consider a specific case. Brandon Th]
Another case. Dean Philip Carter is convicted of killing three women and
suspected of killing two others. The evidence against him is overwhelming and
his attorneys don't even try to refute it:
Relying instead [says the ]
21 witnesses show that he had a troubled childhood and therefore is less culpable. Quite so. But who, then, is culpable for having inflicted the troubled childhood upon him? Part of the answer is to be inferred from the Los Angeles Times' assertion that Carter was "born the illegitimate son of a half-Eskimo woman in Nome, Alaska, on Aug. 30, 1955." Mom accepted the Promiscuity Principle and exercised her right to impose illegitimacy upon her boy, which placed him at greater risk of becoming a criminal, as the documentation given in the Annex to Chapter I shows.
Another case. Arlene W. of Wisconsin. "In the summer of l977," writes
feminist Phyllis Chesler, "Arlene W. met Red E. Early in l978 Arlene became
pregnant."[57 Patriarchal socialization would
have taught Arlene the importance of pre-nuptial chastity and would have
prevented the tragedy which now unfolds. But patriarchal socialization is made
inoperative by the first law of matriarchy.
Early in l979, Red's paternity was established by the Welfare
Department....Visitation was allowed....Red was physically abusive to both
Arlene and [their daughter] Andrea during several visits. Arlene decided to
refuse further visitation.
In the fall of l980, Red legally demanded overnight visitation twice monthly.
Judge John E. McCormick told Arlene to "give a man a second chance." He
ordered visitation for one weekend day and one half weekday. Visitation began.
At this point, Andrea started "acting out" behavior: aggressive hitting,
crying, clinging, not sleeping, wetting herself, vomiting. Andrea complained
of being hit by her father--and marks were detectable....The hospital report
concluded that Andrea had been sexually abused....Arlene fled Wisconsin to her
brother's home in the state of Washington....Police arrived with a warrant for
Arlene's arrest. They separated her from her daughter, denied her bail and the
use of the telephone, and jailed her for four days....Feminists, ministers,
psychiatrists, incest victims, experts, academics, jurists, the department of
social services--all launched a campaign against Arlene's extradition.
Arlene's unedited "Chronology of Events" documents the profound isolation and
vulnerability of a battered, unwed, and welfare dependent mother who has
discovered paternal incest, and the state's absolute refusal to believe or
assist her.58
What the events document is the importance of not being an unwed mother. They
also document the damage inflicted upon Arlene and Andrea by the first law of
matriarchy and the incapacity of the legal system to patch up the mess created
by Arlene's and Red's unchastity. Arlene is represented throughout Ms.
Chesler's account as a victim. In fact she created her own miseries and those
of her daughter.
The enforcing of the patriarchal sexual constitution in l978 would have
guaranteed, not infringed Arlene's autonomy, would have clarified
]
Ms. Chesler's point that the legal system is incompetent to do much for Arlene and Andrea is valid enough; but she chooses not to see how the mess she describes is created not by patriarchy but by the failure of patriarchy to regulate Arlene's behavior in l978--by society's acquiescence in the first law of matriarchy.
The pattern being promoted by feminism is well summarized by a recent Canadian study of female offenders:
Among its findings in a survey of l00 women arrested, the majority had early sexual involvements, with over 40 percent reporting their first intercourse to have occurred between the ages of l0 and l5. Two thirds had children, but almost as many had never been married, and less than one in l0 was married at the time of her arrest. The majority, then, were single or divorced mothers. Most came from broken homes, with 73 percent of the women reporting problems such as one parent being absent all the time, divorce, foster homes, alcohol problems and child abuse. Mentally disturbed parents were common--indeed, female criminals had psychiatric problems in their immediate family twice as often as did male criminals. The authors speculate that "for women to break out of the traditional female role of compliance and passivity and become criminal they have to be products of a more disturbed background."
In response to suggestions that the feminist movement has brought "a new era of emancipated female offenders showing some of the same patterns as male offenders," the authors acknowledge many similarities. For example, about the same percentage of female criminals commit violent offenses as do males (although "women's victims more so than men's have trouble defending themselves--for example, children, intoxicated, asleep, infirm").
The authors resist describing women criminals as "emancipated," but what
their study does describe--sexual promiscuity, divorce, women who act
increasingly like men--are familiar results of the sexual revolution.[59
The problems created by the first law of matriarchy were predictable--female
promiscuity and illegitimacy,60 male rolelessness and anti-sociality. With
more illegitimacy, come more second generation crime, more educational failure,
more demoralization, less motivation, less productivity, reduced self-esteem,
less commitment to the future as evidenced by reduced accumulation of
stabilizing (and garnishable) assets such as real estate, annuities, pensions,
stock portfolios, savings accounts, insurance. More sexual confusion, more
hedonism, more infantilism (of which non-commitment is a variety), more
emotional shallowness. And, of course, in consequence of all of these, more
family breakdown, more family non-formation, more demands for freebies from the
government's Backup System ]
"If women were really people," wrote Ms. Friedan in l973, "-
-no
more, no less--then all the things that kept them from being full people in our
society would have to be changed."[61 "Full"
means something like "without sex-role socialization." Along with the
abandoning of this socialization for girls, there has been a complementary
abandoning of the sex role socialization of boys. The results can be witnessed
by anyone who takes a stroll across one of today's high school campuses. Such
a stroll reveals that a majority of girls have become shallow, sassy tarts, a
majority of boys little better than slobs with little self-discipline, little
frustration-tolerance, little character, little inner-direction.
Back in l963, when Ms. Friedan unleashed feminism upon us with her book
]
Social change indeed. There is no area in which the undermining of sex
role socialization has not been disastrous.
Here is the way today's women are coming to perceive their responsibilities
towards society and society's responsibilities to them. The speaker is Byllye
Ave]
Let us now turn from the two-hundred-million-year-old biologically based
mammalian/matrilineal reproductive arrangement and examine the patriarchal
system which succeeded it a few thousand years ago and made civilization
possible-
-the
artificial, fragile patriarchal arrangement designed to elevate male
sperm-providers into ]
it.
III
THE PATRIARCHAL SYSTEM:
PUTTING SEX TO WORK
The matriarchy described in the previous chapter is perceived by feminists as a lost Golden Age--and also as the bright wave of the future. Women living in surviving Stone Age societies, such as exist on Indian reservations, are held up as exemplars for the liberated women of our own society. "There are parts of the world," writes feminist Elise Boulding,
where women already feel the autonomy I am imagining for Western women in the
future. For Americans, North and South, there is an alternative model for
women close at hand, in the Native American communities....It doesn't take many
encounters with women tribal leaders who have the quiet confidence of centuries
of traditional knowledge behind them to realize that here are a set of teachers
for European-stock American women right in our midst. Where does their
serenity and self-confidence come from? What do they "know"?...This is a time
for the rest of us, especially middle-class Western women, to "go to school" to
those of our sisters who have the unacknowledged skills, the confidence, the
serenity, and the knowledge required for creative social change.[64
These Stone Age women, despite their squalor, ignorance and poverty, are
contented. They fill the biological role of the mammalian female, heading the
reproductive unit, enjoying the liberty of the first law of matriarchy. And
today's feminists are coming to share their tranquility and placidity. They
are, as Helen ]
For my generation and the generation that followed, the battle for women's rights came in the middle of life- -after we'd started our families and were already living the feminine mystique. For us, the feminist movement meant the marvelous midlife discovery of a whole new identity, a new sense of self. The most notable result of this newfound identity was a dramatic improvement in the mental health of older women....Two decades ago mental hospitals were full of women suffering from involutional melancholia, a severe depression that afflicted women at the time of menopause when, according to the old feminine mystique, their life was over. But a few years ago the American Psychiatric Association stopped using the term because such acute depression was no longer considered age related.
Today the mental health of women in their 40s, 50s and 60s is as good as that
of women in their 20s and 30s. No such improvement has occurred in men, so it
really is related to the women's movement toward equality.[66
No such improvement has occurred in men because men have had to pay the costs.
Men in the larger society are being ground down to the status of the men on
Indian reservations--roleless, unmotivated, alcoholic and suicidal, because the
first law of matriarchy]
It was the discovery a few thousand years ago of this connection between the
regulation of female sexuality on the one hand and family and social stability,
male productivity and social progress on the other which ended the Stone Age
and began the era of patriarchal civilization. "Patriarchy's age," says
lesbian-feminist Susan Cavin, "is approximately 3,000-5,000 years old.
Compared to the millions of years human ancestors have populated the earth,
patriarchy represents only a dot of human time."[67
True. The fact shows that the creation of patriarchy is the greatest of
human achievements, since each and every one of the other achievements of
civilization came into existence during that dot of time, whereas the preceding
millions of years created none of them. Patriarchy, says Adrienne ]
The central fact about patriarchal civilization, besides its recency and
the magnitude of its accomplishments, is its artificiality and fragility, its
dependence on women's willingness to submit to sexual regulation. Women's
de-regulation of themselves by achieving economic and sexual independence can
wreck the system. The ghettos show how easily this can happen. The wrecking
of the system is rapidly spreading from the ghettos to the larger society,
where the legal system]
Dr. Gerda Lerner describes how sexual regulation was imposed on women in
ancient Mesopotamia, during the era in which the patriarchal system was being
developed: "While the wife enjoyed considerable and specified rights in
marriage, she was sexually the man's property."[69 Her rights and her status depended upon her
acceptance of the patriarchal system--and vice versa, the system depended upon
her acceptance of regulation. "In Mesopotamian law, and even more strongly in
Hebrew law," continues Dr. Lerner, "all women are increasingly under sexual
dominance and regulation....The strict obligations by husbands and sons toward
mothers and wives in Hammurabic and Hebrew law can thus be seen as
strengthening the patriarchal family, which depends on the willing cooperation
of wives in a system which offers them class advantages in exchange for their
subordination in sexual matters."70
Providing for a woman and placing her "under coverture" in the honorable state
of marriage is perceived by today's feminists in wholly negative terms as
dominance, regulation and oppression. Feminist Dr. Alice Ro]
As will be explained in detail in Chapter VII, Dr. Lerner's and Dr. Rossi's
view of sexual law-and-order as something imposed by males is the opposite of
George Gi]
She is the vessel of the ultimate values of the nation. The community is
largely what she is and what she demands in men.[72
He describes this imposition of female values on males as "creating
civilization." But if civilization is a female creation, imposed by women upon
men, why did not civilization precede patriarchy? "The appropriation by men of
women's sexual and reproductive capacity," says Dr. Lerner, "occurred
]
While Dr. Lerner is oblivious to the advantages for women of this patriarchal law-and-order, she is correct in insisting that the law-and-order is a male idea. In discussing the Garden of Eden story she writes:
[T]he consequences of Adam and Eve's transgression fall with uneven weight
upon the woman. The consequence of sexual knowledge is to sever female
sexuality from procreation. God puts enmity between the snake and the woman
(Gen. 3:15). In the historical context of the times of the writing of Genesis,
the snake was clearly associated with the fertility goddess and symbolically
represented her. Thus, by God's command, the free and open sexuality of the
fertility-goddess was to be forbidden to fallen woman. The way her sexuality
was to find expression was in motherhood.[74
It is significant that a feminist like Dr. Lerner perceives "female sexuality"
as female ]
To the question "Who brought sin and death into the world?" Genesis answers, "Woman, in her alliance with the snake, which stands for free female sexuality." [Emphasis added]
The Biblical view is not that "female sexuality" is severed from procreation but that it is joined to it, in other words that it must be regulated in accordance with the patriarchal Sexual Constitution which Gilder imagines as something which women try to impose on men, but which Genesis and Dr. Lerner more plausibly see as something men impose on women.
Dr. Lerner affects to believe (perhaps does believe) that sexual promiscuity signifies high status for women:
Further, women [in the Ancient Near East] seemed to have greatly different
status in different aspects of their lives, so that, for example, in Babylon in
the second millennium B.C. women's sexuality was totally controlled by men,
while some women enjoyed great economic independence, many legal rights and
privileges and held many important high status positions in society. I was
puzzled to find that the historical evidence pertaining to women made little
sense, when judged by traditional criteria. After a while I began to see that
I needed to focus more on the control of women's sexuality and procreativity
than on the usual economic questions, so I began to look for the causes and
effects of such sexual control.[75
Her views, paralleling those of promiscuity chic movie actresses and other
anti-patriarchal groupies, are antithetical to those of Gilder. Much of the
feminist struggle is one to displace the feminine mystique "image" of the
weakly virtuous patriarchy-accepting doll-wife abominated by Betty Friedan (and
lauded by George Gilder) by the image of a defiantly promiscuous hell-raiser
who will destroy the patriarchy by re-instituting the first law of matriarchy.
"The sexual control of women," says Dr. Lerner, "has been an essential feature
of patriarchal power. The sexual regulation of women underlies the formation
of classes and is one of the foundations upon which the state rests."76 Quite
so. If you doubt it, ask yourself what kind of a state we will have when it is
populated, as it is coming to be, by the fatherless offspring of today's
promiscuous females--when the feminists on the campuses of our schools and
colleges have convinced young women that the traditional patriarchal attempts
to regulate their reproduction by imposing chastity and modesty upon them are a
sexist plot to contravene the first law of matriarchy. The kind of state we
will have is indicated by the evidence given in Chapter I, showing the high
correlation between female-headed families and social pathology.
"The state," continues Dr. Lerner,
during the process of the establishment of written law codes, increased the
property rights of upper-class women, while it circumscribed their sexual
rights and finally totally eroded them.77
By their "sexual rights" she means not their right to be loved, honored and
protected under coverture, not their right to enter into a stable and binding-
-and
highly advantageous-
-contract
to share their reproductive life with a man, but their right to be promiscuous,
and therefore of no value to a man interested in having a family rather than a
one-night stand. She does not even consider (what Gilder supposes to be
self-evident) that many women covet the right to have a stable monogamous
marriage, and thereby acquire the economic and emotional security and the
status which the patriarchy offers women in exchange for allowing men a
meaningful reproductive role--the right to be decently socialized in childhood,
the right to the high status patriarchy confers upon "good" women.
"Their sexual and reproductive capacities," continues Dr. Lerner, "were
commodified, traded, leased, or sold in the interest of male family members."78
What is the alternative? To have men ]
The Code of Hammurabi [continues Dr. Lerner] marks the beginning of the
institutionalization of the patriarchal family as an aspect of state power. It
reflects a class society in which women's status depended on the male family
head's social status and property. The wife of an impoverished burgher could
by a change of his status, without her volition or action, be turned from a
respectable woman into a debt slave or a prostitute. On the other hand, a
married woman's sexual behavior, such as adultery or an unmarried woman's loss
of chastity, could declass her in a way in which no man could be declassed by
his sexual activity.[79
Her sta]
"Society asks so little of women," says Betty Friedan.[80 But that little must include the chastity and
loyalty which makes patriarchal fatherhood and legitimate children possible.
"When Nigerian Muslim communities get richer through development," writes
feminist sociologist Caroline Knowle]
There exists a woman's organization called Single Mothers by Choice]
"Woman, in precivilized society," writes Dr. Lerner, "must have been man's
equal and may well have felt herself to be his superior."[82 Her superiority (which made males idle drones)
is why it was "precivilized"--and why precivilization lasted a million years.
Her superiority is why Elise ]Boulding holds up the squaws on Indian
reservations as models for American middle-class women. Her superiority is why
women would not be altogether reluctant to return to precivilization, why
feminists like Mary Daly declare that "society is a male creation and serves
male interests" and that "sisterhood means revolution,"[83 why Fre]ud thought that woman was the
enemy of civilization, why feminists like Adrienne Rich insist that patriarchal
civilization has been imposed upon women over "an enormous potential
counterforce."[84
"In some places like Dahomey and among the Tlinkits of Alaska," writes
feminist Marilyn F]
Men stabilize marriage by creating wealth. According to Emily Hahn, "Necessity, as well as instinct, sends the ladies pell-mell to the altar; it is only the secondary things, social pressure of conscience, that send the men."[86 (What sends the men is the desire to have families--which is not secondary, but never mind that.) What Ms. Hahn is acknowledging is that with women the economic motive is primary. Feminist Barbara Ehrenre]ich agrees:
Women were, and to a large extent still are, economically dependent on men....So what was at stake for women in the battle of the sexes was, crudely put, a claim on some man's wage.
.........................................................
The fact that, in a purely economic sense, women need men more than the other
way round, gives marriage an inherent instability that predates the
sexual revolution, the revival of feminism, the "me generation" or other
well-worn explanations for what has come to be known as the "breakdown of the
family."[87
(The instability does ]
It is, in retrospect [continues Ms. Ehrenreich], frightening to think how much of our sense of social order and continuity has depended on the willingness of men to succumb in the battle of the sexes: to marry, to become wage-earners and to reliably share their wages with their dependents.
(A man formerly--in the days of stable marriage contracts--did not "succumb"; he entered into what he believed to be a binding agreement which promised him the satisfactions of marriage and the right of procreating legitimate and inalienable offspring. It is the invalidating of these expectations which has turned men off from marriage or made them enter into it with the shallow commitment of which Ms. Ehrenreich complains.)
She continues:
In fact, most of us require more comforting alternative descriptions of the
bond between men and women. We romanticize it, as in the popular song lyrics
of the fifties where love was an adventure culminating either in matrimony or
premature death. Or we convince ourselves that there is really a fair and
equal exchange at work so that the wages men offer to women are more than
compensated for by the services women offer to men. Any other conclusion would
be a grave embarrassment to both sexes. Women do not like to admit to a
disproportionate dependence, just as men do not like to admit that they may
have been conned into undertaking what one cynical male called "the lifelong
support of the female unemployed."[88
She shows that it is the man's paycheck which holds marriage together, and
then she, most illogically, describes this paycheck as something causing
]
Popular songs such as "Papa, Don't Preach" and "Thanks for My Child" illustrate the failure to comprehend the Legitimacy Principle as essential to the working of the patriarchal system. Mrs. E. M. Anderson of Compton's Teen Mothers Program comments thus concerning the message of "Thanks for My Child," dealing with the woes (but also the noble inner strength) of a poor female who meets the father of her child four years after it is born:
These guys [i.e., the unwed fathers] are dumb-
-dumb.
All they think about is themselves. Responsibility? Forget it. They
cause a lot of pain and are too dumb to care.[90
"The song," says Mrs. Anderson, "does a service if it exposes the problem of
these young kids getting pregnant out of wedlock by these guys who don't want
any part of being fathers." A better service would be to explain to the dumb
guys how they might ]
Besides these material rewards, there are status rewards. According to Jeff
Wyatt, program director of a radio station which plays "Thanks for my Child"
every day on the demand of enthusiastic female listeners,
The message really touches them-
-the
mother-
child
aspect of it. Women identify with the woman in the song. Maybe some of them
know young ladies who have been in that situation. Maybe some of them have
been in that situation themselves.92
According to Mike Archie, music director of WHUR-FM in Washington, D. C.,
women, especially black women, are responding strongly to the record, which has
been the most requested single at his station:
The single focuses on the inner strength of black women, which makes it appeal
strongly to black women. I find that it really touches single female parents-
-or
women with children in general. In the song this woman is saying how much she
really loves her child and that love can carry her through anything.93
This is the old "feminine mystique" again-
-which
feminism was created to get rid of. Women were told by Ms. Friedan to make
less of a fuss about their maternal functions ("Don't you want to be more than
an animal?"94) and participate instead in the arena of male achievement.
"Thanks for My Child" reverts to Mom's maternal functions as the true source of
woman's glory. The miserable consequences of female unchastity are celebrated
as proving "the inner strength of black women." And the same wonderful inner
strength is illustrated by comparison with the irresponsibility of the dumb
male. The ]
The guys who father these kids have all the excuses for ignoring their
responsibilities. If no one makes the young man see his responsibility, he'll
go scot-free and father more kids. The burden falls on the teen-age girls who
are too young to handle it. Maybe this song will get a message to some of
these young men-
-that
what they're doing is very wrong.[95
The girls are too young to handle it-
-and
therefore they need to be taught what nobody teaches them, the necessity of
chastity and conformity to the Sexual Constitution, the necessity of rejecting
the Promiscuity Principle which tells them they alone have the right to control
their sexuality--without interference from the irresponsible males whom Wes
Hall would like to make responsible but who are discouraged-
-or
prevented-
-from
responsibility by the Promiscuity Principle which allows females to be mothers
while preventing males from being fathers. Instead of teaching these girls
chastity, the song teaches them about their wonderful inner strength (which
nobody would have known about if they hadn't been promiscuous), about the moral
inferiority of the dumb male, equally responsible but lacking their inner
strength-
-as
though unchaste females might protect their virtue by surrounding themselves
with chaste Parsifal-like males. They are taught that there is no such thing
as an illegitimate child, that society must not be judgmental of them, meaning
that it must not use shame and guilt to regulate their anti-social behavior.
And so forth. Wes Hall simply refuses to see the fact that males cannot be
responsible heads of families unless society insists upon female chastity and
loyalty and implements its insistence by guaranteeing to males the rewards of
family life which justify imposing upon them the obligations of paternal
responsibility. For males to accept the responsibility which Wes Hall wishes
them to accept there must exist some reasonably dependable way for them to
]
Here's Edward McNamara, who wants to do what Wes Hall is urging the young black teenagers to do--accept the responsibilities of fatherhood. The law won't let him. He has had six court appearances to gain custody of an illegitimate daughter, and, after giving up on custody, more court appearances to gain visitation rights. According to the Los Angeles Times,
McNamara, 41, maintains that his constitutional rights were violated when San Diego County social workers--acting at the behest of the baby's mother--placed the girl with an adoptive family four weeks after her birth.
But in sharp questioning in a high court [U.S. Supreme Court] hearing on the case, the justices disputed the notion that the U. S. Constitution gives an unwed father rights that outweigh those of the child.
"Why can't the state of California decide it wants to follow this polity" of acting in the best interest of the child? asked Chief Justice William H. Rehnquist. State law directs social workers to consider the child's welfare foremost in custody cases, and the courts have agreed that McNamara's daughter would be better served in the care of the adopting family.
Justice Sandra Day O'Connor said she wondered why someone who engages "in a
so-called one-night stand" would have a constitutional right to control the
fate of the child who accidentally results from the affair.[96
The right of "someone" is unquestioned if "someone" is the ]
In l976, the Supreme Court ruled that a husband did not have the power to
impose an "absolute veto" over his wife's decision to have an
abortion....Women's groups reject out of hand the argument that men have a
right to a legal say in the decisionmaking process...and insist that the
abortion decision should belong solely to the woman.[97
The point is equally relevant to McNamara and to the black youths scolded by
Wes Hall: Women's [and girls'] refusal to grant men a significant role in
reproduction means that they are denying to ]
Feminist Hazel Henderson writes a piece titled "Thinking Globally, Acting Locally," in which she complains of "fathers who refuse to pay their child support payments ordered by courts." In the same column of the same page she rejoices thus over the success of the sexual/feminist revolution:
Yet the genie will not go back in the bottle-
-the
cultural revolution has already occurred. Politics only ratifies social change
after at least a ten year lag. Even more terrifying for the old patriarchs and
their female dupes is the knowledge that the whole culture is "up for grabs."
For example, it could shift fundamentally in less than a generation IF women
simply took back their reproductive rights, endowed by biology and Nature. All
that women would need to do to create a quiet revolution is to resume the old
practice of keeping the paternity of their children a secret.[98
She cherishes the Promiscuity Principle]
The black matriarchs, who, like Mrs. E. M. Anderson, view "Thanks for My Child" as "a positive statement of a mother's love for her child" no doubt also perceive it as a reaffirmation of female moral superiority, paralleling the one-upmanship of their Latin American sisters who encourage their men in childish displays of machismo in order to cast themselves in the complementary role ("marianismo") of morally superior, spiritually strong, understanding but forbearing "Mamacitas." It is men who must put an end to this feminine mystique. The male reply to the condescension of "Thanks for My Child" ought to be an indignantly ironic "Thanks for reducing me to the status of a stud. Thanks for preventing me from being a real father, from having a real family."
The male is not equally responsible with the female for inflicting illegitimacy on a child. In the patriarchal system a man can only be held responsible to a "good" woman, one who accepts the Sexual Constitution. The bad women are an essential part of the system, but they must be de-classed and regarded as unfit for marriage, since husbands can have no assurance of their chastity and loyalty, no assurance of having legitimate children by them. The feminist campaign to do away with the double standard is an attempt to remove this class distinction and make all women "good." Instead, it is making all women "bad," creating the Garbage Generation in the process. The predicament lamented in "Thanks for My Child" has the consequence that women can no longer trust men and men can no longer trust women.
77 percent of the women readers of Glamour magazine responded "yes" to a survey (Nov., l985) asking whether they approved of single women having children. 40 percent of girls in school today will be heads of households[99--signifying that 40 percent of boys will ]not be. These females will deem themselves to be leading meaningful and (now that their sexuality is de-regulated) socially acceptable lives. The displaced males will be leading roleless, often disruptive lives. If the fathers of illegitimate children can be coerced into supporting the mothers, the mothers will believe that a paternity suit (or a divorce decree) is as good as a marriage contract--or rather better, since it involves no reciprocal responsibilities, not even temporarily. Such sexual de-regulation of females means the destruction of the family and the ghettoizing of society.
The Prophet Mohammed emphasized the importance of regulating female sexuality. According to Dr. Fatima Mernissi, he
saw the establishment of the male-dominated Muslim family as crucial to the
establishment of Islam. He bitterly fought existing sexual practices where
marital unions for both men and women were numerous and lax.[100
In Saudi Arabia there exists a Committee for the Protection of Virtue and
Prevention of Vice, whose executive arm is the ]
Nearly every woman has an unpleasant encounter with the Mutatawa to report, an incident when she was observed talking to an unrelated man in public, or shopping without the proper headgear or abaya, and subjected to a public tongue-lashing, or worse.
"In the souq [market], they'll come up to you and say, 'Aren't you ashamed of yourself?' Or worse yet, they go up to your husband and say, 'Aren't you a man? Why are you dragging this hussy around with you?'" Raslan said. "You've embarrassed yourself, you've embarrassed your husband, and for what? For what reason?"
"Officially," she said, "they say, 'We don't want the ladies having to face
the hazards [of being part of the working world], we want to protect them.'
But unofficially, what the women see is they are apprehensive of women finding
their own feet."[101
Apprehensive that women will sexually de-regulate themselves, restore the
first law of matriarchy, replace the two-parent family with the "rotational"
family, destroy the male role and ghettoize society. The Matatawa themselves
may be ridiculous, but their apprehension is not. Take another look at the
words of Hazel Henderson or those of Helen Fisher on page 5. What the Matatawa
are afraid of has already happened in the ghettos and is happening before our
eyes in the larger society. The ridiculousness of the religious police, like
the ridiculousness of Victorian puritanism, proves not the silliness of the
patriarchal system but its shakiness and the marginality of the male role
within it-
-and
its need for social props to sustain it. Female promiscuity can wreck it, as
Hazel Henderson and Sjoo and Mor and other feminists clearly perceive.
"The women's libbers," says Samuel Blumenf]
object to the moral codes that the patriarchal system evolved as aids in the
subjugation of women. But we must marvel at man's intellectual genius in
creating such effective cultural and social devices to maintain the integrity
of the family, as well as his control over women with a minimum of physical
force.[102
Blumenfeld sees "the moral codes crumbling all around us," and says
Whoever sold teen-agers on the idea that there is such a thing as premarital
"recreational sex" ought to be shot. Unless one understands that sexual
pleasure was created by nature as bait for the more painful responsibilities of
existence, one cannot understand sex, one cannot understand love, one cannot
understand life. Unless sexual pleasure leads to human responsibility, it then
becomes the shallowest and most depressing of pursuits.103
It is not "nature" but the patriarchal system which puts sex to work as
the great stabilizer and motivator of society, and the central feature of this
system is society's guarantee to the ]
Freiherr F. von Reitzen]
We cannot doubt the existence of matriarchy, which was constantly encouraged
by the Etruscans...Marriage as a binding union was certainly unknown to the
plebeians; accordingly their children belonged to the mother's family. This
agamous or marriageless relationship still existed at Rome in later times, and
was the basis of a widely developed system of free love, which soon changed
into different kinds of prostitution.[105
Otto Kief]
sought to prove that in ancient Italy the reign of strong paternal authority
had been preceded by a state of exclusive matriarchy, chiefly represented by
the Etruscans. He considered that the development of exclusive patriarchy,
which we find to be the prevailing type of legitimate relation in historic
times, was a universal reform, a vast and incomparable advance in
civilization.[106
"We understand," writes lesbian-feminist Charlotte Bun]
She makes no reference to the contract of marriage, which is intended to
allow men to share in women's reproductive lives. She would have the marriage
contract place no obligations on the woman, and allow her to exercise her
reproductive freedom as though there were no contract.
She continues:
We know that priorities are amiss in the world when children are not protected
from parents who abuse them sexually while a l]
She is labeled immoral because she denies her child a father and wishes to
transform society in order to make her lifestyle normative and thus make it
unnecessary for ]
Let's look as a concrete example. Charles Rothenb]
A hideous crime. It might not have happened if Charles had not been goaded and crazed by the knowledge that he had no chance of getting a fair custody shake from the court.
Aside from this, is there anything to be learned from what Rothenberg did? This mixed-up man was, like Charles Manson, the offspring of an unmarried teen-age prostitute and a father he never saw. Presumably he got messed up because his socialization was messed-up. The sins of the father were visited upon the son, David. But also the sins of the grandmother, who brought Charles into the world in violation of the Legitimacy Principle. Grandma is unpunished because her sins are non-violent, merely sexual, merely sins against the Sexual Constitution which Ms. Bunch wants to do away with.
"There is no such thing as an illegitimate child"-
-no
such thing as an unchaste woman, no need to regulate sexual behavior.[110 But there are unchaste women and Charles's
mother was one of them, and unchaste women do bring illegitimate children into
the world, and Charles was one of them, and illegitimate children are
responsible for a disproportionate amount of social pathology, a fact which
will not be changed by passing as law (as has been done in Sweden) that there
are no illegitimate children.
Harriet T]
that if men are so sure that nature intended women for marriage, motherhood
and servitude, why then do they find it necessary to erect so many barriers to
other options, why are they required to force women to be restricted to this
role? For if women's preference be natural there can be no necessity for
enforcing it by law, and it has never been considered necessary in any other
area to make laws compelling people to follow their inclination.[111
Women aren't drawn into marriage by their "nature." They accept it because it
is advantageous and because its advantages cannot be obtained without
submitting to the patriarchal constraints whose purpose is to channel
procreation through families. The present disruption of sexual law-and-order
is produced by women's trying to retain the advantages while rejecting the
constraints.
We read in the book of H]
She took part in the sexual customs of her own free will and...viewed them not as an obligatory or compulsory duty but as pleasant occasions, rather like festive parties. This situation was clearly unacceptable to the men who espoused the patrilineal Hebrew system, as Hosea did, but it does reveal that for those who belonged to other religious systems it was quite typical behavior.
For thousands of years these sexual customs had been accepted as natural
among the people of the Near and Middle East. They may have permitted and even
encouraged matrilineal descent patterns to continue and a female-kinship system
to survive. Inherent within the very practice of the sexual customs was the
lack of concern for the paternity of children--and it is only with a
certain knowledge of paternity that a patrilineal system can be maintained.[112
Hosea was a spokesman for the newer patriarchal religion of Jahweh, Gomer a
representative of the older worship of the Grea]
Goddess worship continued throughout the periods of Abraham, Moses, David and Solomon and as late as St. Paul. It appears that the worship of the Goddess did not naturally give way to the new masculine religions, but was the victim of centuries of continual persecution and suppression by the more aggressive, war-like invaders....Merlin Stone believes that the persecution of Goddess worshippers had a political and economic basis. The invaders had a patrilineal system whereby men controlled paternity, property and the right to rule. If Goddess worship was destroyed, the indigenous, matrilineal system would also be destroyed. It was only by denying women the sexual freedom they had under the Goddess that men could control paternity. Therefore, moral imperatives, such as premarital virginity and marriage fidelity for women reflected and reinforced politically inspired religion. Stone's research has shown her that this integral Biblical story [the Garden of Eden story] which is used theologically to explain male dominance in all things, has been used through the ages to justify the continual oppression and subjugation of women. Ms. Stone believes that the story symbolically describes the eradication of Goddess worship and the damning of its religious trappings and institutions, i.e., wise, prophetic serpents as adjuncts of the Goddess, holy fruit trees, sexually active and free women. [Emphasis added.]
The male and female religions existed side by side for thousands of years. In
other words, it required thousands of years of struggle to establish the
patriarchal system and to do away with forms of religious worship which W.
Robertson Smith describes as "horrible orgies of unrestrained sensuality, of
which we no longer dare to speak in unveiled words."[113
The single generation following the publishing of ]
"Women by nature," writes Hendrik DeLeeuw,
are no more monogamous than men and no less polygamous. Women's sexual
tendencies, biologically, are no less variational than those of the male
gender. Best historical proof lies in the case of some of the primitive
communities where conditions of life did not hamper sex expression of women any
more than of men. Among the natives of Victoria, for example, the women have
so many lovers that it becomes almost impossible to guess the paternity of
children. Brazilian historians relate that among the Guyacurus and the Guyanas
Indians of South America, the women, and especially the nobler ones, have one
or more lovers who remain at their side day and night to attend to their sexual
requirements. And so it becomes obvious that wherever conditions permitted,
women have rejected the monogamous relationships as often as men. What it also
implies is that, if granted equal freedom, women tend to be equally variational
and multiple in their sex expression.[114
This promiscuity is why these societies are "primitive." It is to prevent
civilized society from relapsing into this primitivism that the Legitimacy
Principle--every child must have a father-
-must
be enforced.
Here, from Dear Abby]
DEAR ABBY: I'll bet you never heard anything like this before. Our son, "Mike," has been living with his girlfriend, "Libby," for three years. They have a 2-year-old son whom we love like a grandson.
Last year, money got tight, so to help out with the expenses, Libby and Mike rented their spare room to a friend of Mike's. (I'll call him Gary.)
As it turned out, Libby carried on a secret affair with Gary, and now she has a child by him, too.
Our son wants to forgive Libby, marry her and adopt her new baby. We, his parents, cannot forgive her for what she did to Mike.
We love our son and the grandson he and Libby gave us, but we do not want to accept Libby as our daughter-in-law knowing she had an illegitimate child by a guy who rented a room in their house.
How should we handle this?
--GRAMAW
Abby's reply:
DEAR GRAMAW: Regardless of how you feel about Libby, if you don't accept her as your daughter-in-law along with her children, you can say goodby to your son and the grandson you love. It's a package deal. Take it or leave it; the choice is yours.
It's a good example of the contrasting ways in which matriarchy and patriarchy handle the regulation of sexuality. Libby accepts the first law of matriarchy--whatever she decides is final--and Mike and the legal system go along. In consequence, seven people are at risk, the two babies, the three parents and the two grandparents. The son must either subsidize an adulteress and a bastard or lose his own child. The mother is at risk of being a single parent caught in the Custody Trap--as sole provider and sole custodian, with reduced resources and doubled responsibilities, de-classed in the eyes of conservative people, perhaps driven onto welfare. The two babies are at risk of being fatherless and therefore more likely to be impoverished and delinquent. The two grandparents will either lose their grandchild or be compelled to accept the adulteress's value system, accept an illegitimate child they don't want as their grandchild and pretend not to care about traditional family values.
Suppose that the legal system didn't go along. Suppose it behaved in accordance with the principles of the patriarchy which created it. Suppose it provided props for the father's role rather than for the mother's.
Then (l) there would probably be no shacking-up to begin with, no illegitimate child. Libby would be far less likely to have shacked up with Mike or to have had her secret affair with Gary, knowing that Mike, not she, was the legal custodian of the grandson and knowing that Mike had the authority to toss her out and keep his grandson for himself--and find himself a wife who would not introduce confusion of progeny into his household. Then (2) if there had been an affair between Gary and Libby anyway, it would have been up to Mike to decide whether to legitimize Libby's illegitimate child and by doing so guarantee it a place within the patriarchal system, or to expel Libby and her illegitimate child and by so doing safeguard the proper rearing and socializing of his son and his relationships with the grandparents--while at the same time giving Libby, Gary and their child their best opportunity of forming a patriarchal family of their own. And of course giving himself his best opportunity of marrying another woman and creating a patriarchal family of his own and providing his son with a stepmother who shared his patriarchal values.
Here's another letter to Abby, illustrating the sexual confusion of the times:
DEAR ABBY: Our parents' anniversary is coming up soon. Some of us would like to make them a gift of a family portrait including their children, their children's spouses and their grandchildren.
We want to limit this portrait to legitimate family members only, which would exclude the mother of one of the grandchildren and her son from a previous relationship.
We would like to include our brother and his legitimate child without including the woman he lives with and her illegitimate son. Is it possible to do this without causing hard feelings?
--PROBLEMS
DEAR PROBLEMS: No. Abandon the idea. There are no illegitimate children; just illegitimate parents.
The writer and his or her siblings believe in the Legitimacy Principle. No matter, says Abby. There are new proprieties to which everyone must conform on pain of being disliked by feminists and believers in the first law of matriarchy. Since the feminist/sexual revolution the Promiscuity Principle has replaced the Legitimacy Principle and one sexual arrangement is as good as another. Nobody's feelings must ever be hurt--unless they happen to believe in the Legitimacy Principle.
Field direction (thinking the way everyone else thinks), shame and guilt have hitherto been means of maintaining sexual law-and-order, especially among females, who used to glory in their role as the guardians of morality and who formerly had no greater pleasure than in gossiping about the sexual transgressions of their less virtuous sisters.
No more. What Charlotte Bunch said of lesbianism ("it threatens male supremacy at its core") is trebly true of the first law of matriarchy, now that field direction works for, rather than against it, now that shame and guilt no longer function to promote legitimacy, now that the courts (and Abby) are on the side of the Promiscuity Principle. Women now control their own sexuality without interference from men. The Legitimacy Principle, the patriarchal family and the male role as its head are obsolete. These changes, striking at the foundation of the patriarchal system, have been accomplished without any examination of their portentous consequences for society.
According to feminists Barbara Love and Elizabeth Shanklin:
The matriarchal mode of child-rearing, in which each individual is nurtured
rather than dominated from birth provides the rational basis for a genuinely
healthy society, a society of self-regulating, positive individuals.[115
Things are this way in the ghettos, where half of the young bear the surnames
of their mothers, and where the proportion of such maternal surnames increases
every year,116 along with crime and the other accompaniments of matriarchy.
"You Frenchmen," said an Iroquois Indian three hundred years ago to the Jesuit
Father Le Jeune, "love only your own children; we love all the children of the
tribe."117 In a promiscuous matriclan this is the best way to see that all
children are cared for; but it will not create the deep family loyalties needed
to usher a society out of the Stone Age. "At the core of patriarchy," says
Adrienne ]
The patriarchal family, whose linchpin is female chastity and loyalty, makes
men work. That is why civilization must be patriarchal and why it slides into
chaos, as ours is doing, where family arrangements become matrilineal. What
feminist Marie ]
A man's life is defined by his work, his occupation. The first question a man
is usually asked is, "What do you do?" People shape their perception of him
according to his answer.[119
A man's life may be defined by his work even under matriarchy, but it is only
loosely defined. Here, described by the l9th century German explorer, G. W.
]
Whilst the women attend to the tillage of the soil and the gathering of the
harvest, the men, except they are absent either for war or hunting, spend the
entire day in idleness. In the early hours of the morning they may be found
under the shade of the oil-palms, lounging at full length upon their carved
benches and smoking tobacco. During the middle of the day they gossip with
their friends in the cool halls.[120
Similarly, under communism, the state's guarantee of economic security
weakens the male's commitment to work and undermines his productivity. "The
other day," writes Eric Hoffe]
I happened to ask myself a routine question and stumbled on a surprising
answer. The question was: What is the uppermost problem which confronts the
leadership in a Communist regime? The answer: The chief preoccupation of every
government between the Elbe and the China Sea is how to make people work--how
to induce them to plow, sow, harvest, build, manufacture, work in the mines,
and so forth. It is the most vital problem which confronts them day in day
out, and it shapes not only their domestic policies but their relations with
the outside world.[121
Who wants to plow, sow, harvest, build, manufacture, work in the mines--unless
the work, unsatisfying and unfulfilling in itself, is made meaningful by a
man's knowledge that it must be done if he is to provide for his family?
In the occident [continues Hoffer] the chief problem is not how to induce
people to work but how to find enough jobs for people who want to work. We
seem to take the readiness to work almost as much for granted as the readiness
to breathe. Yet the goings on inside the Communist world serve to remind us
that the Occident's attitude toward work so far from being natural and normal,
is strange and unprecedented. It was the relatively recent emergence of this
attitude which, as much as anything else, gave modern Western civilization its
unique character and marked it off from all its predecessors.122
George Gild]
The industrial revolution was perhaps the most cataclysmic event in history,
changing every aspect of human society.[123
He points out that while multiple causes are at work,
it may well be that economic growth is most essentially a problem of
interrelated motivation and demography--that is, a problem of familial and
sexual organization.
Once again we may find that the success and durability of a society is less
dependent on how it organizes its money and resources on a grand scale, or how
it produces its goods, than on how it induces men to subordinate their sexual
rhythms to extended female perspectives.124
Patriarchy comes to its full flowering in capitalism:
"Pre-industrial men," as the British demographer E. A. Wrig]
Wrigley believes that it was the presence of relatively isolated conjugal or nuclear families that made possible the emergence of the highly motivated industrial bourgeoisie and labor force.
There were major differences between the families of Eastern Europe and Asia ("economically stagnant") and those of England and precocious parts of Western Europe where the Industrial Revolution began and flourished, and where "a couple generally could not get married unless it was economically independent, with a separate household."
Thus sexual energies were directly tied to economic growth, and since
strong sanctions were imposed on premarital sex, population growth was
directly connected to economic productivity.[125
The italicized words signify that the Legitimacy Principle was enforced, the
first law of matriarchy made inoperative. Chastity and monogamy became an
essential part of capitalism. It was a stroke of genius: ]
Now dig this, from Harper's Index for March, l987:[126
Average number of sperm per cubic millimeter of an American male's semen in
l929: l00 million.
Today: 60 million.
Work is no longer sexy. Alas, alas. What a universe of social disruption and
suffering--demoralization, broken marriages, sexual confusion, female-headed
families, underachievement, declining productivity, increased absenteeism, jobs
travelling overseas, educational failure, crime, illegitimacy, drug
addiction--is revealed by that cubic millimeter.
]
Millions of young men are marking time in low-paying jobs that make them poor marriage prospects. This problem in male marriage and work patterns recently attracted the attention of the William T. Grant Foundation Commission on Work, Family and Citizenship, comprising some of the leading sociologists and policy analysts in America. In its interim report, the Commission notes that between l973 and l986, the average earnings of American males aged 20 to 24 fell from $11,939 to $8,859 (in l985 dollars). This drop meant that while 59 percent of all males in l973 could support a three-member family at or above the official poverty line, only 44 percent could in l985. "No wonder, then," observes the Commission, "that marriage rates among young males (ages 20-24) declined almost in half, from 39.l percent in l974 to 21.2 percent in l985." Among black males, the drop has been an even sharper 60 percent, from 29.2 percent in l974 to only 11.1 percent in l985. Understandably, as marriage rates have fallen, the proportion of children born out of wedlock has risen, stranding millions of children in impoverished female-headed households.
"There is," writes Gilder,
considerable evidence of a sexual crisis among young men, marked by sexual
fragility and retreat. Greater female availability and aggressiveness often
seem to decrease male confidence and initiative. A large survey of college
students indicated that while virginity among girls was rapidly diminishing,
virginity among boys was actually increasing, and at an equal rate. Impotence
has for some time been the leading complaint at most college psychiatric
clinics. Citing evidence from "my patients, both male and female, articles in
medical journals, and conversations with my colleagues," one psychiatrist
called it "the least publicized epidemic of the l970s."[127
Therapists have coined a new term for this, Inhibited Sexual Desire, IS]
psychiatrists and psychologists say they are seeing a growing proportion of patients with such complaints- -people whose main response to the sexual revolution has been some equivalent of "not tonight, dear." Clinically, their problem is known as Inhibited Sexual Desire (ISD), a condition marked by the inability to muster any interest in the great obsession. "The person with low sexual desire will not feel 'horny'....He will not be moved to seek out sexual activity, nor will he fantasize about sex," wrote psychiatrist Helen Singer Kaplan in a l979 book that first called wide attention to the problem.
Over the past decade ISD has emerged as the most common of all sexual
complaints.[128
Here is Gild]
The virtues of this arrangement, which also prevailed in the United States, go
beyond the effective harnessing of male sexual and economic energies to the
creation of family units. By concentrating rewards and penalties, the conjugal
household set a pattern of incentives that applied for a lifetime. Benefits of
special effort or initiative were not diffused among a large number of
relatives, as in the extended family; and the effects of sloth or failure would
not be mitigated by the success of the larger unit. In general, the man stood
alone as provider for his wife and children. He was fully responsible for the
rest of his life. Such responsibility transformed large numbers of
pre-industrial men, living in "a moving present," into relatively long-term
planners, preparing for an extended future.[129
The alternative was shown in a l986 T.V. film, ]
The alienated poor. Some see their very existence as an indictment of
capitalism. These are not the striving, ambitious immigrants who battle
hardship and discrimination in order to ascend the economic ladder. These are
the cut-off poor, whether in Harlem or Appalachia, who lack the conviction that
they can succeed by dint of their own efforts. They are without skills,
motivation, self-esteem, and awareness of opportunity. They are nonfunctional
in a free-enterprise society, where effective work requires, to use [George]
Gilder's words, "alertness and emotional commitment"-
-in
short, a positive mental attitude.[130
They hate capitalism, and capitalism does nothing for them because they have
been deprived of the cornerstone of capitalism, a patriarchal family, without
which most males remain unmotivated.
A famous l965 study by Mattina ]
The group that had changed in their perceptions since Horner's (l965) study were the men! Horner reported only 8 percent of the males tried to avoid success, and Hoffman's (l97l) study showed 77 percent of the men tried to do so. They were equally likely to show fear of success in all-male settings as in settings where both sexes functioned professionally.
For both men and women, mean scores of "desire to achieve" had gone down
significantly between l965 and l97l. However, women's reasons for fear of
success remained much as they had been earlier, whereas men's reasons seemed
linked to a diminished desire to achieve at all. Hoffman points out that the
content of the men's stories was different from that of the women's. The men
seemed to question the value of success itself.[131
"By age 30," says medical writer Janny Sco]
"Somewhere at the dawn of human history," says Margaret ]
I've suspected that the men who really feel threatened by the women's movement
in general or by their own wives' moves toward some independent activity are
the ones who are most unsure of their women's love. Such a man often worries
that his wife has married him only for economic security or the status and
vicarious power he provides. If she can get these things for herself, what
does she need him for? Why will she continue to love him? In his anger is
also the fear she will surely leave him.[135
Of course. If she can get these things for herself she doesn't need him and
they both know it, even if they haven't read ]
A man who supposed his wife married him only out of love, the motive proposed
by Ms. Friedan as sufficient to hold marriages together, would be a ruddy fool
and--what is really bad from society's point of view--an unmotivated fool, for
society needs the man's work and wealth, and if his family no longer expect him
to be a provider he won't work too hard--which is why single men earn so much
less than married men earn.138
Ms. Friedan cites a family therapist from Philadelphia, who is worried about
his stake in his family:
"I was working at one of the big family-training centers in the country," he
said. "There was constant theoretical discussion about getting the father back
into the family. But the way our own jobs were set up, you had to work fifty
to sixty hours a week. To really get anywhere you had to put in seventy hours,
work nights, weekends. You didn't have time for your own family. You were
supposed to make the job Number One in your life, and I wouldn't do that. My
life is Number One, and my family--my job is only to be a good therapist. To
play the office politics and be one of the big guns you had to devote your
whole life to it. I started my own practice where I keep my own hours. Most
of the other family therapists at the center are now divorced.139
They are divorced--and have lost their children and their homes. They were
"unsure of their women's love" because they were economically superfluous. The
man with whom Ms. Friedan spoke knows his wife may toss him out as his
fellow-therapists were tossed out by their wives, and he is in a panic. A
generation ago, a man's attachment to his family gave him the motivation to be
a high achiever; today, the feminist/sexual revolution has made this attachment
to his family the cause of his becoming a panicky underachiever.
Lesbian feminist Susan C]
Collective refusal of women to tell men who is the "father" of their children;
this could be accomplished by the simple method of hetero-females never
sleeping with only one man for any length of time, but always having two or
more male lovers. This method is based on the assumption that mass high rates
of "illegitimacy" will destroy the patrilineal family, especially its
monogamian form.[140
It would work if men refused to enforce the Legitimacy Principle. Which is
why they must enforce it--and why they must regain control over their
pay]
IV
SLEEPING BEAUTY FEMINISM
VS.
SLAUGHTERED SAINTS FEMINISM
TIRED OF THE RAT RACE?
FED UP WITH JOB ROUTINE?
Well, then...how would you like to make $8,000, $20,000--as much as $50,000 and More--working at Home in Your Spare Time? No selling! No commuting! No time clocks to punch!
BE YOUR OWN BOSS!!!!
Yes, an Assured Lifetime Income can be yours now, in an easy, low-pressure, part-time job that will permit you to spend most of each and every day as you please!--relaxing, watching TV, playing cards, socializing with friends!...
Incredible though it may seem, the above offer is completely legitimate. More than 40,000,000 Americans are already so employed.
These 40,000,000 Americans were the housewives referred to by Ms. Friedan when she said "Society asks so little of women."
Small wonder that the Playboy/Feminine Mystique/Sleeping Beauty pitch was discarded by feminists as an unsuitable basis for a popular movement and that it is today as extinct as the trilobite. The idle sex-toy doll-housewife pampered by an overworked husband is unmentioned in the literature of post-1960s feminism. The Sleeping Beauty has been replaced by the Slaughtered Saint, tyrannized over, oppressed, brainwashed, beaten, enslaved, exploited, crucified, impaled, racked and harrowed, flayed, trampled and hung in chains by remorseless, inhuman, fierce, sadistic, exploitive, brutal alcoholic male despots, beasts, marital rapists and so forth.
It is useful, though, to remember that the initial thrust of feminism was that
"The problem seemed to be not that too much was asked of [women] but too
little." In l963 the subsidization of ex-wives by ex-husbands was said to be
contemptible; today the feminist party line is a demand for "support rules that
aim at equalizing the standards of living of the two parties after divorce"[151 and that divorced women "have earned the
right to share their ]husbands' income for the rest of their lives
and to maintain a standard of living that is equal to theirs"[152--so that even though the man is no longer a
husband, and even though Betty Friedan had told wives to be ashamed of
themselves for expecting to be subsidized for the trifling services they
perform, the man deprived of these services should continue to subsidize the
woman who withdraws them.
In Sleeping Beauty agitprop, contempt for women who accepted alimony was
conspicuous. In Slaughtered Saints feminism, contempt for alimony is replaced
by contempt for the ]
At that time, ]
Under Sleeping Beauty feminism it was common for feminists like Gloria
Stei]
Prostitutes don't sell their bodies, they rent their bodies. Housewives sell
their bodies when they get married--they cannot take them back--and most courts
do not regard the taking of a woman's body by her husband against her will as
rape.[155
Now they can take their bodies back--and still get a free ride. Taking
someone's money in exchange for nothing used to be called robbery, but
Slaughtered Saints feminists regard it as a means of restoring women's dignity.
As long as the money flows from the male to the female, as long as Steinem's
"prostitution" is retroactive and requires no services, they are willing-
-they
insist-
-that
it be called something other than alimony and will affect to despise those
women who take men's money and call what they do by its proper name. Like
exophagic cannibals denouncing the barbarousness of endophagic cannibalism,
like the Mayor of Gomorrah condemning the moral depravity of Sodom and San
Francisco, like two-dollar hookers sneering at twenty-five cent hookers who are
lowering the dignity of the profession, they have risen above that sort of
thing.
"Society asks so little of women." That was Sleeping Beauty feminism,
shaming women, telling them to stop filing their fingernails and get out and
work like men. A decade later Slaughtered Saints feminists, seeking
self-actualization and true humanity, claimed victimhood for themselves and
affected to be the wretched of the earth-
-adorning
themselves with crucifixes bearing a naked woman, telling men how oppressive it
was for them not to do half of the "little" housework at which Ms. Friedan
sneered. ]
Wife abuse is deeply rooted in our culture.[156
[T]he Old Testament patriarchs quite intentionally set themselves against the
lunar psyche in women (and in men, who are half-female), in their desire to
destroy the Goddess religion, and the Goddess within us all. Because of this,
the menstruating womb became the Devil of patriarchy-
-"the
only good woman is a pregnant woman," etc.-
-and
the three-hundred-plus years of European Christian wi]
Perhaps what is most galling is that while the housewife's duties resemble
those of a servant, the financial arrangements she has with her husband
somewhat resemble those of someone even lower down on the status ladder-
-namely,
the slave.158
If we read the Bible as normative social literature, the absence of the
Goddess is the single most important statement about the kind of social order
that the men who over many centuries wrote and rewrote this religious document
strove to establish and uphold. For symbolically the absence of the Goddess
from the officially sanctioned Holy Scriptures was the absence of a divine
power to protect women and avenge the wrongs inflicted upon them by men.159
As we have seen, it was not coincidental that everywhere in the ancient world
the imposition of male dominance was part of the shift from a peaceful and
equalitarian way of organizing human society to a hierarchic and violent order
ruled by brutal and greedy men....At the same time that shedding blood by
killing and injuring other human beings-
-in
wars, in brutal punishments, and in the exercise of the male's practically
absolute authority over women and children-
-becomes
the norm, the act of giving life now becomes tainted and unclean....And so,
first in Mesopotamia and Canaan and later in the theocracies of Judaea and
Israel, warfare, authoritarian rule, and the subjugation of women became
integral parts of the new dominator morality and society.160
What kind of society is it that calls love and affection between two women
perverse, while male brutality to women is made profitable....What kind of
society is it where the lifelong partnership of two women has no standing in
court, while a husband can batter and rape his wife without interference?...It
is a pornographic society; America is a pornographic patriarchy. 161
Capitalism finds it expedient to reduce women to a state of
enslavem]
Is it any wonder then that men hate women so? Is it any wonder that they beat
us and tear us apart and stomp us to death?...I suspect that they cannot
forgive us for reminding them, by our stubborn survival, how they have raped
and beaten and cheated and deceived and maimed and killed us for 5000
years.163
One of the accusations against the male is his refusal to believe in his own
beastliness. Hear Irene G]
We respect that a woman's reality is her truth. In a society where far too
often women are disbelieved, unsupported and blamed for their own
victimization, it is important that they have at least one safe place where
they will be believed....Because a fundamental anchor of our philosophy is to
support and thus believe in each woman's reality, we may come upon the
one-in-a-hundred situation where a story or parts of a story may be
questionable. Since the occurrence of a false report is so rare, it is far
more respectful, professional and necessary to err on the side of belief than
to risk the slim chance that a story may not be totally accurate. It is
important to support the individual and her reality rather than to deny and
disbelieve her.[164
Slaughtered Saints feminism is thus epitomized by feminist Mary Daly:
...feeding on the bodies and minds of women, sapping energy at the expense of
female deaths. Like Dracula, the he-male has lived on women's blood....The
priests of patriarchy have eaten the body and have drunk the blood of the
Sacrificial Victim in their Mass, but they have not wished to know
]
The insatiable lust of males for female blood has resulted in a perpetual
blood transfusion throughout the millennia--a one-way outpouring into the veins
and arteries of the bloodthirsty monster, the Male Machine that now can
continue its obscene life only by genocide. If the Machine dreams, it is of a
future filled with megadeaths. The total vampire no longer needs even to speak
of blood, which is after all visible, measurable. It drinks instead in
quantities calculable only through the highest mathematics....It is men who
have sapped the life-force of women.[165
This horror over male atrocity, like feminist candlelight processions to "take
back the night," is a public relations exercise. According to Dr. Karl
Mennin]
There is an intergenerational angle. According to ]
tremendous growth in paid employment of married women between 1975 and 1985.
Our own research has found that paid employment of married women helps rectify
the imbalance of power between spouses, and provides women with the economic
resources they need to terminate a violent marriage.173
Also a non-violent marriage. Also a marriage in which the wife is not
battered and oppressed but simply bored and fed up with the sexual regulation
which the patriarchal system imposes upon her in exchange for her permitting a
male to share her reproductive life and haul her out of the matriarchal system
and place her under coverture in the patriarchal system.
Another way of saying the same thing is that it denies men the resources and
authority they need to hold a marriage together.
It "helps rectify the imbalance of power between the two spouses," say Gelles
and Straus. They naively accept the whole Slaughtered Saints propaganda
position, that women are poor violated victims in need of society's chivalry,
an idea ancient in Mary Wollenstonecraft's day. In 1854 Barbara Leigh Smith
Bod]
A man and wife are one person in law; the wife loses all her rights as a single woman, and her existence is entirely absorbed in that of her husband. He is civilly responsible for her acts; she lives under his protection or cover, and her condition is called coverture.
A woman's body belongs to her husband, she is in his custody, and he can enforce his right by a writ of habeas corpus.
The legal custody of children belongs to the father. During the life-time of
a sane father, the mother has no rights over her children, except a limited
power over infants, and the father may take them from her and dispose of them
as he thinks fit.[174
This tilting of the law in the favor of the male has been not just abolished
but reversed, but it is still paraded in feminist literature (like the binding
of Chinese women's feet) as proving how oppressed today's American women are.
The 19th century husband was empowered to take his wife's children from her,
]
Today's legal system has abandoned its responsibility to stabilize families and has become the principal enemy of the family. That such a thing could happen, and happen so rapidly and unobtrusively, suggests that the execrated pro-male 19th century legal system had the right idea. It sensed, if it did not explicitly understand, that women don't like marriage and family life and would willingly do away with them if they could do so without forfeiting their benefits. "[I]f one imagined himself as newly arrived from Mars," writes feminist Carolyn Heilbrun,
and were to read the descriptions of a woman's marriage in contemporary
novels by women, one might well ask how on earth anyone could be expected to
live out such a farce.[175
She quotes a woman who opposed the ERA on the grounds that "I don't care to be
a person":
She understood, while misunderstanding the ERA, that to be a person and a wife
are oddly incompatible.
Why do contemporary men fail to see this?176
She scolds Christopher ]
seem to recognize that the old, good life, which he, Yeats, Trilling, and all
today's new conservatives feel such nostalgia for, rested on the willingness of
women to remain exactly where today's women, in fiction at least, will not
remain: at home. Waiting for husband-warrior to retreat to them from the wide
world is no longer enough....[T]he woman who finds herself miserable at home
when she is supposed to have everything she has always wanted, everything all
women have always wanted-
-this
woman, who would, decades ago, have been sent home by her analyst in search of
a vaginal orgasm-
-is
now seen as passing through a stage of development recognized in men but not
hitherto associated with women: adolescence. A woman is not an adolescent at
puberty in our society, because her search for identity does not take place
then: rather it is a search for a husband in which she then engages. The
search for self, Nora's search in Ibsen's A Doll's House, occurs deep
into marriage and often with children left behind the slammed door....The real
tension between...the fleeing woman and those who struggle to preserve the
family, is the tension between order and change, particularly evident in our
society. It is most evident within marriage, where the man desires order
and the woman change. If the women are unclear about what change should
encompass, they know it begins with their departure.[177
"Why do contemporary men fail to see this" ]
What Dr. Heilbrun says comes close to what the Seneca Falls feminists complained about, that women were moral minors with whom contracts- -including marriage- -were worth nothing because they could renege on them if they wished. Such irresponsibility justified the pro-male tilt of the law. 19th century men needed the pro-male tilt- -and so do men today. "Why do contemporary men fail to see this?"
"Women will not remain at home," says Dr. Heilbrun. Not if they can make
themselves economically independent (as they are doing) or if they can
implement the feminist program of making divorce an economically viable
alternative to marriage (for women) and, after inducing males to thrust their
necks into the matrimonial guillotine, induce lawmakers to enact child support
rules "that aim at equalizing the standards of living of the two parties after
divorce."[178
Dr. ]
"The man desires order and the woman desires change." The man desires a stable patriarchal family system; the woman desires a return to matriliny and de-regulation, a return to the sexual anarchy of the Stone Age and the ghetto and the Indian reservation. The only possible resolution of this is to make women grow up and choose either to accept sexual regulation as the quid pro quo for the benefits of patriarchy or to reject the benefits along with the regulation.
"The clearest memory of my wedding day," says Susan Crain Bakos,
is what was going on in my head as I walked down the aisle in my white satin dress with the floor-length lace mantilla billowing around me: "No. No way is this going to be forever, for the rest of my life. No."
will not mean an immediate "give and take," as if those who have been deprived
of their own life should "give on a fifty-fifty basis." Since what males
have to give has in large measure been sapped from women, "the
equalizing of concentrations" can hardly be imagined as if from equal but
opposite social positions. On the level of social interaction, what has to take
place is creative justice. It is not a simple transaction that is
demanded, but a restitution. It is absurd for men to look upon the
relinquishing of stolen privilege as benevolence. It is absurd also for men to
protest indignantly when women speak of wresting back our own stolen power and
being.[182
A principal thrust of Slaughtered Saints feminism is the continuing accusation
of male domestic violence]
According to Los Angeles policeperson Gloria V]
The ]
A mild protest against this sort of thing is registered by British feminist Lynne Segal, who complains that contemporary feminism "celebrates women's superior virtue and spirituality and decries 'male' violence and technology. Such celebration of the 'female' and denunciation of the 'male,' however, arouses fear and suspicion in feminists who, like me, recall that we joined the women's movement to challenge the myths of women's special nature."[186 According to the dust wrapper of Segal's book, "She argues against the exponents of the new apocalyptic feminism, among whom are Mary Daly, Andrea ]Dworkin and Dale Spender, which says that men wield power over women through terror, greed and violence and that only women, because of their essentially greater humanity, can save the world from social, ecological and nuclear disaster." Today, writes Segal,
"like any Victorian gentleman, Robin Morgan, Adrienne Rich, Susan Griffin,
Judith Arcana, Mary Daly, Dale Spender and their many followers, take for
granted and celebrate women's greater humanism, pacifism, nurturance and
spiritual development. Robin Morgan tells us that only women can guarantee the
future of life on earth. Ronald Reagan and the New Right in the US and
anti-feminist conservatives here in Britain tell us much the same thing. Women
can save the world from the nightmares of nuclear weaponry, which represents
the untamed force of "male drives and male sexuality," through the power of the
feminine mentality and the force of maternal concerns.[187
Segal's is a minority view. As Robert B]
Slaughtered Saints feminists have much to say about the beastliness of males, but nothing to say about what Ms. Friedan most emphasized in 1963: "the problem that has no name," acedia, the ennui deriving from a lack of meaning in their existence. Acedia is a spiritual problem, but a materialist like Ms. Friedan could conceive of it only as a problem with an economic or occupational solution- -an elitist career. She misconceived "the problem that has no name" as not a blessing but a curse. It was a signal that a spiritual dimension was lacking in the lives of the educated middle-class women she wrote about. "Blessed are those who feel their spiritual need," said Jesus, "for the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to them."[189 The women suffering from the problem that has no name were in the fortunate condition of having had their ]other problems solved by the patriarchal system. The acedia from which they suffered was the problem at the very apex of the "hierarchy of needs." "Only recently," says Ms. Friedan,
have we come to accept the fact that there is an evolutionary scale or
hierarchy of needs in man (and thus in woman), ranging from the needs usually
called instincts because they are shared with animals, to needs that come later
in human development. These later needs, the needs for knowledge, for
self-realization, are as instinctive, in a human sense, as the needs shared
with other animals of food, sex, survival. The clear emergence of the later
needs seems to rest upon prior satisfaction of the physiological needs. The
man who is extremely and dangerously hungry has no other interest but food.
Capacities not useful for the satisfying of hunger are pushed into the
background. "But what happens to man's desires when there is plenty of food
and his belly is chronically filled? At once, other (and higher) needs emerge
and these, rather than the physiological hungers, dominate the organism."[190
In a sense, this evolving hierarchy of needs moves further and further away
from the physiological level which depends on the material environment, and
tends toward a level relatively independent of the environment, more and more
self-determined. But a man can be fixated on a lower need level; higher needs
can be confused or channeled into the old avenues and may never emerge.191
Ms. Friedan complains that the need for "self-actualization" has been wrongly
interpreted as a "sexual need," something she calls an "explanation by
reduction." But the career-elitism which she proposes to her female readers as
the solution for the problem that has no name is equally an explanation by
reduction, equally an "evasion of growth," equally unsatisfying, as is shown by
a flood of disillusioned feminist books like ]
After pouring her contempt on the parasitism of American housewives, she proposes to make them grow "to their full capacities," to mass-produce "self-actualizers," people like Shakespeare, da Vinci, Lincoln, Einstein, Freud, Tolstoy. This will require a "massive attempt" by educators, parents, ministers, magazine editors, manipulators, guidance counselors, and a "GI Bill for Women":
What is needed now is a national educational program similar to the GI bill,
for women who seriously want to continue or resume their education-
-and
who are willing to commit themselves to its use in a profession. The
bill would provide properly qualified women with tuition fees, plus an
additional subsidy to defray other expenses-
-books,
travel, even, if necessary, some household help.[192
A free ride for women who want to be "professionals" and demand large fees
from the people whose taxes give them their free ride. This is how liberated
housewives will stand on their own feet. How can the "seriousness" and "proper
qualification" of these women193 be evaluated? Clearly on the basis that they
]
Their desperate need for education and the desperate need of this nation for
the untapped reserves of women's intelligence in all the
]
After spending most of her book talking about the immaturity of American
housewives, Ms. Friedan then compares them to male GIs, "matured by war,"
suggesting that "Women who have matured during the housewife moratorium can be
counted on for similar performance"196-
-presumably
because of the influence of the feminine mystique, elsewhere said to cause
their infantilism. If the "housewife moratorium" (read: feminine mystique) is
a maturing influence, why should it not lead these women to stand on their own
feet "without sexual privilege or excuse" rather than to demand the exchange of
one parasitism (on husbands) for another (on taxpayers)? The GI Bill gave
ex-servicemen some compensation for their years of service to society. Ms.
Friedan wants the same compensation for women because "society asks so little
of women" and therefore (by Ms. Friedan's logic) must pamper these Sleeping
Beauties yet more, rather than merely allowing their husbands to pamper them,
which denies them independence and dignity.
Sleeping Beauty feminism was poorly adapted to becoming a mass movement
despite Ms. Friedan's program for making it one. It was aimed at the minority
of elitists whose non-spiritual problems had been solved and who were summoned
to confront the spiritual crisis signaled by "the problem that has no name."
The failure to recognize this crisis as a spiritual one has led not to its
solution but to its burial, its replacement by problems at lower levels in the
"hierarchy of needs," things like paying the rent and the utilities and coping
with roleless men-
-problems
which have made today's Slaughtered Saints feminism what the Sleeping Beauty
feminism of a generation ago could never have been, a mass movement.
The best thing for the women's movement now would be (if it were possible) to
restore the patriarchal family and hope that it could once again solve women's
lower-level needs and bring them back to where is could be said, "Blessed are
those who feel their spiritual need." Let the Scriptures be fulfilled. The
patriarchy which brought them this far couldn't carry them all the way to
moksha experience but it was the best friend women ever had.
Slaughtered Saints feminists now affect to interpret the free ride]
A union between a man and a woman in which, ]
It is not a relationship at all ]
The suffering of single mothers- -largely self-inflicted- -is now deemed sufficient justification for the free ride:
The welfare system...should be replaced with a system under which single
parents would be earners, but would have government guarantees of child support
payments out of the earnings of the other parent, health care, and high quality
child care.[199
Wages Due Lesbians]
Benefits for divorced, separated, and never-married mothers and their children
could be made more similar to benefits to widows either by increasing benefit
levels or by making benefits available to single mothers regardless of
income.201
For women as a group, the future holds terrifying insecurity: We are
increasingly dependent on our own resources, but in a society and an economy
that never intended to admit us as independent persons, much less as
breadwinners for others.202
The fact that women are overwhelmingly the caretakers of children is a key
determinant of their secondary economic status. Whether within the two-parent
family unit or in a single-parent family, women, for the most part, provide the
nurturing, the day-to-day care, the hands-on childrearing.203
The feminist demand to be made independent by being made dependent appears
paradoxical until its underlying idea is understood, which is this: What women
want is not independence but ]
The currently fashionable program for attaining this de-regulation is the subject of the following chapter, the program of casting themselves into poverty and squalor and dragging "their" children with them- -and exhibiting the resulting predicament as proving their need to be rescued.
V
THE MUTILATED BEGGAR ARGUMENT
In Cairo there exists a cottage industry which mutilates children to be used as beggars. The more gruesome and pitiable the mutilations, the more the beggars will earn. The disfigured children are placed on mats on street corners with a begging bowl and they ask for alms for the love of Allah.
The almsgiver is doing a good thing and a bad thing. The good thing is paying for the child's next meal. The bad thing is ensuring that more children will be mutilated.
The Mutilated Beggar technique is employed extensively in the contemporary war over the family. Ex-wives drag their children into poverty and then point to their sufferings as proving the need for ex-husbands or the welfare system to bail them out. The father (or taxpayer) who bails out Mom and the kids is doing a good thing--providing rent and food money- -and a bad thing--subsidizing the destruction of this family and encouraging the mass divorce which is wrecking millions of others--in effect, undermining the patriarchy and restoring matriliny.
Here's a nineteenth century example. Ella May Wiggins, a factory worker with nine fatherless children, wrote "The Mill Mother's Lament" to exhibit her suffering and that of her children:
We leave our homes in the morning,
We kiss our children good bye,
While we slave for the bosses
Our children scream and cry....
How it grieves the heart of a mother,
You everyone must know,
But we can't buy for our children
Our wages are too low.
It is for our little children,
That seem to us so dear,
But for us nor them, dear workers,
The bosses do not care.
But understand, all workers,
Our union they do fear;
Let's stand together, workers,
And have a union here.[205
Wiggins's problem is the fatherlessness of her nine children. The best social
arrangement would be for her to have a husband to love, honor and protect her
and those kids. Maybe she had a husband and he died and there exists no
realistic prospect of a replacement for him. In that case Wiggins is a proper
object of charity.
Wiggins doesn't want charity. She wants a union which will compel "the
bosses" to subsidize her with an income suitable for the support of herself and
nine children. She and the kids ]
Suppose Wiggins's problem were dealt with at the highest level. Suppose that (as in communist countries) there were a law against unemployment. Nobody would ever be destitute. Wiggins might think this would be a desirable reordering of society. So would a lot of feminists. It would greatly weaken, perhaps eventually destroy, the patriarchal system, making husbands unessential as family providers, making female chastity superfluous, since it would no longer be essential to reassure fathers and husbands concerning the integrity of their families. Sexually responsible behavior would be unnecessary. A reordering of society which would make mothers of nine fatherless children economically independent would pretty well shatter social arrangements, including the family. Incentives for divorce, for male abandonment of families, for the creation of female-headed families would be multiplied. There would be far more cases like Wiggins's and far fewer resources for bailing them out. Children would be at greater risk of delinquency and the other ills mentioned in Chapter I.
The fact is that in the general case (even if not in Wiggins's case) mothers and children are better served by the patriarchal system than by any other. The reason was well explained a century ago by Herbert Spencer, who showed how two very different principles operate within and outside of the family--"the law that during immature life benefit received must be great in proportion as worth is small, while during mature life benefit and worth must vary together."[206 Wiggins would abolish the distinction and have "the bosses" run their competitive business as though it were a family in which the bosses functioned as parents--much as New York's Governor Cuom]o believes government should be a "family" for its citizens. The resulting social structure would come to resemble the Stone Age matriclan described in Chapter II. The matriclan creates little wealth and expends that little in keeping everyone marginally afloat. In it, the intense motivation created by the nuclear family is lost. Wiggins's hope is that the wealth will continue to be generated somehow and that she can corner her share of it by employing the Mutilated Beggar Argument to lay a guilt-trip on "the bosses." The system works poorly to generate wealth.
It will be useful to give one or two additional illustrations of the Mutilated Beggar Principle.
Feminist Marilyn French, while rejoicing over women's new-found liberation, complains of some of the economic problems accompanying it:
Old codes of marriage, divorce, sexuality, and child rearing have broken down, but the consequences of this breakdown have been mixed.
Here are the good things resulting from the breakdown of the "old codes," meaning the patriarchal sexual constitution:
People can escape from unhappy marriages, they can use their sexuality as they choose on the whole.
And here are the bad things:
At the same time, men are displaying an irresponsibility about their children
that is equivalent in self-hatred to terrorist murder-
-for
are not our children expressions of ourselves? Women and children are the new
poor, and a growing class.[207
It is "good" that women can escape from their marriages and be promiscuous
("use their sexuality as they choose"); but this wrecking of the marriage
contract, which deprives the man of legitimate children, takes away his
motivation for supporting Mom and her kids-
-for
"our" children means Mom's children, taken away from Dad. Strange reasoning,
this, which ignores the obvious causal connection between the breakdown of the
sexual constitution, women's escape from marriage and their using their
sexuality as they choose ("good" things) and the male rolelessness resulting
from this female de-regulation. Why should a man be condemned and compared to
a terrorist murderer for no longer performing a role of which he has been
deprived? Why is it not rather the irresponsibility of the woman or the
divorce court judge which is to be condemned for exiling the children's
provider? This is like disbanding the fire and police departments and blaming
them for not putting out fires and preventing robberies, like refusing to pay
the rent and blaming the landlord for expelling his tenants, like placing
children in the ]
Another example. America is giving Madagascar a subsidy in a "debt-for-nature" swap, to encourage them to stop massacring their forests.[208 Environmentalists are said to be enthusiastic "because it helps raise awareness in developing countries of environmental issues."209 The awareness which will be raised is that ecological irresponsibility ]pays: Madagascar wouldn't have gotten the money if it had behaved responsibly, would it?
Another. The Irish Law Reform Commission has proposed that the concept of
"illegitimacy" should be abolished, since it is unjust to deny rights to
innocent illegitimate children in order to benefit legitimate ones.[210 It is the institution of marriage which
protects "innocent" children from the disadvantages imposed upon them by the
irresponsibility of unchaste parents; and if there are no "illegitimate"
children, there can be no "legitimate" ones-
-since
either term is meaningless except in reference to the other-
-and
fathers will no longer provide their offspring with the benefits formerly
conferred by two-parent families. What is intended to benefit the
child-victims creates more of them and maximizes their miseries, since
fatherless children really are disadvantaged as the evidence given in the Annex
to Chapter I shows.
Here's a different application of the Mutilated Beggar idea, attempting to
employ it to gain for women the benefits men earn by work and achievement.
Janice Ma]
One woman, in describing her own feelings about being a minority in her field,
provided an image that could help men understand the difficulties: "Imagine
that your lawyer, your doctor, your priest, rabbi or minister, your senator and
representative, your mayor, the president of your institution, most of its
trustees, almost all of the deans and most of your colleagues were all women.
How would you feel?"[211
A man would feel ]
Today there are millions of women caught in the Custody Trap (to be discussed in the following chapter), deprived of the economic security formerly given them by the patriarchal system. These millions of losers are an embarrassment to the feminist movement which is chiefly responsible for their predicament, but which would like them to believe they are victimized by having been compelled to make the "choice" of which feminists write so much: women, they say, were pressured by the sexist patriarchy into being "just a housewife," which was the reason so few of them ever became senators or corporation executives- -but also, not incidentally, why so few of them ever became jailbirds or Skid Row bums. The solution, Ms. Friedan told them, was for them to repudiate the "choice," to liberate themselves to become elitists like Mr. Friedan herself, a magnum cum laude from Smith, who writes best-selling books. Trouble was most of the women thus liberated were not magnum cum laude or magnum cum talent or magnum cum chutzpah or magnum cum luck and they were unwanted on the talk shows. They ended up as waitresses or salesgirls or on welfare and discovered that their role in the feminist system was not to be Joan-of-Arc's like Ms. Friedan[212, but to be humble Mutilated Beggars whose afflictions could be pointed to as proving the need for more feminism and larger subventions from ex-husbands and from the Backup System]- -so that they could "stand on their own feet."
Charlotte Bunch complains about divorced women not getting as much of their
ex-husbands' paychecks as they did during marriage: "No-fault divorce laws
sounds like equality, but since male and female incomes are not equal and many
women have worked for husbands for years, these laws cut off some women's badly
needed and justified right to alimony."[213
The wives have been working for the husbands, as she says. But the husbands
have also been working for the wives. The wife's withdrawal of her services by
divorce ends the husband's reciprocal obligations; and if the husband's income
is greater, that proves the desirability of having a husband, not the justice
of reducing an ex-husband to bondage. If being in need (Mutilated Beggar
argument) were enough to ensure the subsidization of ex-wives by ex-husbands,
marriage would become superfluous except as a preliminary to divorce.
Female economic need is one of the chief props of marriage. Meeting this
need by ]
The female-headed families which seek to exploit the Mutilated Beggar
argument are the source of most social pathology. Feminists aver that this
pathology results from the poverty of these families, the cure for which is
more of somebody else's money. But better subsidization of female-headed
families would mean more female-headed families, more crime, more illegitimacy
and the rest of the ills cited in Chapter I.
The alternative to the female-headed family is not a better-funded
female-headed family but the patriarchal family, which produces not only more
money but less crime, more stability and higher achieving offspring. The props
needed to make the patriarchal family once again normative could be easily
restored-
-the
father's control over his paycheck and society's guarantee of father custody in
the event of divorce. Father custody]
Father-custody was formerly the accepted arrangement. The first feminists,
meeting at Seneca Falls in l848, made it one of their chief complaints that in
cases of divorce fathers automatically got custody of their children.[215 The family stability created by this
presumption of father custody was a major reason for the progress and
achievement of the Victorian era.
Would women accept it? Yes, as they did in the 19th century, because it
would stabilize marriage. Mary Ann Maso]
But whether women would accept the patriarchal system or not, men must insist
upon it--insist that the implementation of the marriage contract shall be on
the basis of the wording of the contract itself. They must get back to
fundamentals, must insist that they enter into the marriage contract primarily
to procreate legitimate and inalienable children. They must reject the
socially destructive idea, now accepted as a matter of course by women,
lawmakers and judges, that the purpose of marriage is to provide women with
ex-husbands.
VI
]
"For many women," says feminist Dr. Alice Rossi, "the personal outcome of
experience in the parent role is not a higher level of maturation but the
negative outcome of a depressed sense of self-worth, if not actual personality
deterioration."[217 "The heart of woman's
oppression," says Shulamith ]Firestone, "is her childbearing and
childrearing roles."[218 The predicament of
these mothers is trebly pitiable when they are single heads of families.
Single mothers complain especially of poverty--theirs and that of the children
they drag into the Custody Trap to keep them company and give them a "role."
They aver that the patriarchal family is a prison for the mother; but the
mother is far more restricted, impoverished and miserable in a female-headed
family, with reduced income and no partner to share responsibilities with.
There exists a medium sized library of books with titles like
]
No question, the poverty is a problem. According to Betty Friedan,
"Statistics indicate that a child in a family now in poverty, headed by a man,
has a fifty-fifty chance of getting out of poverty by his or her maturity--but
that a child in a poverty family headed by a woman has no chance."[219 Divorced women], according to MS.
magazine, have the lowest household incomes of any group of women.[220 "Worldwide," according to Kathleen
]Newland, "between one-quarter and one-third of all families are supported
by women; and worldwide, these families are leading candidates for poverty and
hardship."[221
But poverty is not the only problem, or the worst. 80 percent of children in
psychiatric clinics come from female-headed homes.222 Single women family
heads have the highest rate of disease compared to all other women, far higher
than the never married.223 They report "less satisfaction with their lives
than Americans in any other marital status, including widows and women who had
never married."224
Writing of the problems of female heads of families, Barbara ]
Women also encountered a variety of serious problems with their older
children. More than one-third were called to school in l982 for special
conferences, and 21 percent reported that their children had been suspended at
least once. A small number of children had been expelled, referred to the
juvenile court, committed to institutions, and/or victimized by crime. The
numbers, although small, exceeded those one would expect to observe in an
average family.[226
Girls in female-headed homes have more problems in sex role and personality
development and in handling aggression.227 Father-deprived sons frequently
exhibit aggressive behavior, lack of social responsibility, a variety of
intellectual defects, high delinquency potential, tendencies toward
homosexuality, difficulties in interpersonal relations and low need for
achievement.228 More than one third of the children from female-headed homes
drop out of school.229
Divorce researchers Judith Wa]
Women heads of families are less marriageable. "I am a nice-looking,
28-year-old divorced woman," one of them writes to Dear Abby]
A child living in a female-headed home is ten times more likely to be
beaten or murdered.234 According to ]
The catalogue of miseries associated with female-headed families could be extended without limit. (See the Annex to Chapter I.)
Mother-custody has been the choice of divorce courts for a century. It is,
as the foregoing paragraphs show, a tried-and-failed arrangement. It does not
benefit women. It drags them into poverty and depression. It does not benefit
children. It drags them into the same poverty and into a greater likelihood
of educational failure and delinquency. It devastates men by depriving them of
their children and their role. Dr. Lenore Weitzman's assertion that divorce
bestows upon men a standard of living 42 percent higher than they enjoyed while
married is a puerile falsehood which is not made less absurd by repetition.[238
Betty ]
The high correlation between crime and fatherless families is indisputable. According to the Los Angeles Times,
The nation's prison population jumped by a record 46,004 inmates in the first
six months of 1989, for a total of 673,565 men and women behind bars,[239 the Bureau of Justice Statistics said. The
increase broke the record not only for half-year increases but also was higher
than any annual increase recorded during the 64 years the government has
counted prisoners, the bureau said. The 7.3% surge in prison population during
the first half of 1989 was brought about by increases of 7% in the number of
men imprisoned and 13% in the number of women, the bureau said. Since 1980,
the number of state and federal prisoners serving sentences of more than one
year--known as sentenced prisoners--more then doubled from 315,974.240
Not much can be done now about the damaged lives of the mostly fatherless
children who grow up to become these incarcerated prisoners, or the less
damaged lives of the larger numbers who avoid incarceration. These
less-damaged people survive the high-crime ages, 14-to-24, and enter middle age
as underachieving, confused, unhappy adults, permanent semi-casualties with
weakened families of their own.241 What needs to be done is to stop the flow
of messed-up kids through the pipeline running from the divorce courts and into
female-headed families, through pathological childhoods into disruptive
adolescence and demoralized adulthood-
-the
process now in full swing and programmed to continue into the next Garbage
Generation in the 21st century.
The failure of the judges and policymakers responsible for most of these
female-headed families to understand their responsibility for them and for the
disruption, crime, demoralization and illegitimacy they produce derives from
the disastrous but natural mistake of supposing that because the female-headed
family form is biologically based, whereas the father-headed family form is
merely a social creation, society ought to support the biologically based form
by choosing Mom for custodian of the children in case of divorce. They cannot
grasp the idea that the reproductive pattern found among lower animals is
unsuitable for humans.
The fact is that the family, like the civilization it makes possible, is an
artificial creation. ]
Patriarchal civilization came into existence when men became equal sharers
in human reproduction. The biological marginality of the male required that
this sharing should be buttressed by artificial social supports, the most
important being society's recognition of fathers as heads of families. The
present destruction of the father-headed family is felt to be justified by the
sacredness of ]
By society's guarantee of father custody the roles of both spouses are re-affirmed, children are brought up in two-parent families, and society can hope for the kind of stability, creativity and productivity found in societies with stable families, societies such as that of the Victorian age and contemporary Japan.
When Margaret Mead speaks of the female role as a biological fact she refers to the mammalian female role. The female role in patriarchal, civilized society is every bit as artificial as the male role. "What is now called the nature of women," wrote John Stuart Mill in l869, is an eminently artificial thing."[244 He meant the nature of patriarchally socialized women. What is called the nature of ]man is, in patriarchal society, equally artificial. Mill himself was an artificial thing--if he hadn't been, his books wouldn't be worth reading. Civilization is an artificial thing, something men and women chafe under, as Freud explained in Civilization and Its Discontents, because civilization is built on repression and frustration- -and the toleration of frustration, a toleration motivated by the sexual law-and-order of family living which ties sexuality to long-term goals, to the past and the future, to ancestors and descendants, to home and children.
There is no way to motivate males to accept the coercion-imposed frustration feminists and the divorce courts want to inflict on them by compelling them to subsidize ex-families, and that is the reason why, in the words of Louis Roussel,
What we have seen between 1965 and the present, among the billion or so people who inhabit the industrialized nations, is...a general upheaval in the whole set of demographic indicators.
In barely twenty years, the birth rate and the marriage rate have tumbled,
while divorces and illegitimate births have increased rapidly. All these
changes have been substantial, with increases or decreases of more than fifty
percent. They have also been sudden, since the process of change has only
lasted about fifteen years. And they have been general, because all
industrialized countries have been affected beginning around 1965.[245
This is why, in other words, we have a Garbage Generation]
What's in it for women? Stable marriage and its economic and status advantages. The task of the patriarchy is (l) to convince women that these advantages are the quid pro quo they get for participation in the patriarchal system (acceptance of sexual law-and-order, sharing their reproductive lives with men) and are not otherwise obtainable; (2) to convince lawmakers and judges that they must support the patriarchal family rather than trying to create a divorce-alternative to it.
This divorce-alternative, this disastrous idea now held by the legal system (and of course by feminists) that divorce ought to provide ex-wives with the same benefits that marriage provides to wives, is the chief underminer of patriarchy. "The idea of compensatory payment," says Mary Ann Glendon in discussing the French synonym for alimony,
is to remedy "so far as possible" the disparity which the termination of
marriage may create in the respective living conditions of the spouses....It
depends on the establishment of the fact of a disparity between the situations
of the ex-spouses, and its aim is to enable both of them to live under
approximately equivalent material conditions.[246
The idea of the "compensatory payment" is to transfer money from the
possession of the male who earns it to the possession of a female who does not
earn it and who has no claim to it other than her status as a Mutilated Beggar.
"Compensatory" for ]
Dr. Glendon tells us that French law
authorized compensation (sometimes very substantial) for such harms allegedly
resulting from the divorce as the loss of esteem suffered by a divorced person,
loneliness, or the loss of social position by one who has become accustomed to
a high standard of living.249
The divorced person referred to is the female. She is deprived of her high
standard of living. But the ex-husband is equally deprived of his ex-wife's
reciprocal services, presumed to be of equal value to the high standard of
living he bestowed on her-
-or
else why was she entitled to the high standard of living? If each is deprived,
and if the deprivations are of equal value, why is the woman entitled to
compensation and the man not?
In West Germany things are much the same: support of the ex-wife "is to be
determined with reference to the marital standard of living."250 In other
words: (1) the ex-husband is penalized by the ex-wife's withdrawal of her
services; (2) the ex-wife is rewarded (at the ex-husband's expense) for
withdrawing them. Compensation for services rendered is replaced by
compensation for services withdrawn. If the woman is to be liberated, the man
must be doubly penalized. This is the upshot of the feminist movement which a
generation ago told the American housewife to stop taking a free ride on her
husband's back, to give up her parasitism, to be independent, to stand on her
own feet and face life's challenges on her own without "special privileges
because of her sex...without sexual privilege or excuse."251
The woman is said to be entitled to compensation because she suffers from
divorce. She ]
VII
]
"The crucial process of civilization," says George Gilder, "is the
subordination of male sexual impulses and biology to the long-term horizons of
female sexuality. The overall sexual behavior of women in the modern world
differs relatively little from the sexual life of women in primitive societies.
It is male behavior that must be changed to create a civilized order."[253
Untrue. There is a striking difference in the behavior of males in civilized
and in primitive societies--the difference between motivated, productive,
stable males in the former and disruptive or idle or macho or narcissistic
drones, or at best hunters and warriors, in the latter. However the most
essential difference between the two societies is one less conspicuous but more
pivotal: In the civilized society the females accept the regulation of their
sexuality on the basis of the Sexual Constitution--monogamous marriage, the
Legitimacy Principle, the double standard and female loyalty and chastity; in
the primitive society the females reject sexual regulation and embrace the
Promiscuity Principle]
Sexual regulation may take unsubtle forms--enforced wearing of veils and chadors, the confinement of women to gynecia, mutilation of female sexual organs, wearing of chastity belts and so forth. In more sophisticated societies the control is internalized and leads to feminist complaints such as the following from Peggy Morgan:
We're really out of control of our sexuality when we see our desires as dirty
and troublesome....This leaves us open to being controlled from the
outside--letting others (especially men) convince us that we want what they
want us to want.[254
Here, from John D]
One of the rituals of the university dances is that of a fraternity of young
blades entitled the Key-Ice. During the intermission the lights are turned out
and these men march in carrying flaming brands. At the end of the procession
four acolytes attend a long cake of ice. Wheeled in on a cart it glimmers in
the torches' flare. Then the leader, mounted on a table in the center of the
big gymnasium, lifts a glass cup of water and begins a toast that runs: "To
Woman, lovely woman of the Southland, as pure and as chaste as this sparkling
water, as cold as this gleaming ice, we lift this cup, and we pledge our hearts
and our lives to the protection of her virtue and chastity."[255
For "protection" Peggy Morgan would (correctly) read ]
There can be no civilization without the regulation of female sexuality. As Dr. Gerda Lerner says in discussing the creation of the system of patriarchal civilization, "The [ancient] state had an essential interest in the maintenance of the patriarchal family....Women's sexual subordination was institutionalized in the earliest law codes and enforced by the full power of the state. Women's cooperation in the system was secured by various means: force, economic dependency on the male head of the family, class privileges bestowed upon conforming and dependent women of the upper classes, and the artificially created division of women into respectable and non-respectable women."[256 Dr. Lerner's wording acknowledges the fact, unrecognized by Gilder, that the Sexual Constitution] is a male idea imposed upon females. "Social and ethnological facts," says Robert Briffault,
afford no evidence that the influence of woman has ever been exercised in the
direction of extending sexual restrictions and tabus, and of imposing chastity
on men....Feminine morality consists in unquestioning assent to established
estimates and usages....Feminine conservatism defends polygamy and sexual
freedom as staunchly as it does monogamy and morality.[257
What is true of the Sexual Constitution is true of civilization itself:
Those achievements which constitute what, in the best sense, we term
ci]
Precisely the opposite of Gilder's view that "civilization evolved through the
subordination of male sexual patterns--the short-term cycles of tension and
release--to the long-term female patterns."259 "In creating civilization,"
says Gilder,
women transform male lust into love; channel male wanderlust into jobs, homes,
and families; link men to specific children; rear children into citizens;
change hunters into fathers, divert male will to power into a drive to create.
Women conceive the future that men tend to fell; they feed the children that
men ignore.260
Why, if so, didn't civilization precede patriarchy and the regulation of
]
there is nothing equivalent to the domina]
In primitive societies the loose bonds of matrimony permit much sexual freedom
and women outside of these loose bonds enjoy total promiscuity. Briffault
again:
In all uncultured societies, where advanced retrospective claims have not
become developed, and the females are not regularly betrothed or actually
married before they have reached the age of puberty, girls and women who are
not married are under no restrictio]
To that rule there does not exist any known exception.[265
No exceptions. Women are promiscuous unless male-created social arrangements
compel or induce them to be otherwise. The truth about the creation of
civilization is the opposite of what Gilder imagines it to be. Despite his
belief that "greater sexual control and discretion--more informed and
deliberate sexual powers--are displayed by women in all societies known to
anthropology,"266 American women are today more adulterous than their
husbands.267 77 percent of the female readers of ]
"Civilized society," says Gilder, "is not more natural than more degenerate
social states. It represents a heroic transcendence of the most powerful
drives of men."269 Civilized society is far ]
"The female responsibility for civilization," Gilder says,
cannot be granted or assigned to men. Unlike a woman, a man has no civilized
role or agenda inscribed in his body. Although his relationship to specific
children can give him a sense of futurity resembling the woman's, it always
must come through her body and her choices. The child can never be his
unless a woman allows him to claim it with her or unless he so controls her and
so restricts her sexual activity that he can be sure that he is the father.[270
Not ]
"Depending chiefly on the degree that the wanton male sex drive succumbs to maternal goals and rhythms," says Gilder,
any society is capable of a variety of sexual states. Civilized and
productive societies reflect the long-term disciplines of female nature, upheld
by religious and marital codes.[271
Upheld by ]
These are some of the methods by which male power is manifested and
maintained. Looking at the schema, what surely impresses itself is the fact
that we are confronting not a simple maintenance of inequality and property
possession, but a pervasive cluster of forces, ranging from physical brutality
to control of consciousness, which suggests that an enormous potential
counterforce is having to be restrained.[272
Feminist Marilyn Fr]
But "feminine" cultures do not work like "masculine" cultures. "Masculine"
cultures aim at success (power, control), are concerned with rules and
techniques and instrumentality. "Feminine" cultures are concerned with
affection, bonding, cooperation, with being and being-together.[273
Gilder's "civilized and productive societies" are French's "masculine"
societies, which, apart from the wealth they generate, feminists would fain do
away with, since they correctly perceive the current sexual encounter as a
"struggle for our reproductive rights--for our sexuality, our children and
]
The women best able to resist this patriarchal interference, educated
career women, commonly reject the role which Gilder supposes all women to
cherish. "Highly educated women," says Marie Richmond-Abbot]
are more likely to remain childless than are women with less education...Thus,
women who are highly educated and more likely to have careers are less likely
to want children because of perceived conflict with their work roles.[275
It is such women who ask "Where are the men for women like us, men who can
deal with women like us...?" "Are they threatened by our new power--or just
afraid that we won't need them?"276 What these autonomous women want is not,
as Gilder supposes, to impose their long-term sexual horizons upon males, but
to share the male freedom from maternity and regulation. "They envied their
husbands who did not have to make similar compromises," says Richmond-Abbott.
An article in the December 4, l988 ]
A l985 survey showed that executive females--of all women those most at liberty to be their true selves and exhibit "long-term disciplines of female nature" (if they have them)- -were three-fourths divorced or single, and that only 20 percent of them were in their first marriages (versus 64 percent of male executives who were in their first marriages.)[277 Ms. Frieda]n interprets such female independence as showing that money is a "love-spoiler."[278 She is thinking of ]men's money as inhibiting women's promiscuity. From the man's point of view, it is the woman's money which is the love-spoiler, or at least the marriage and maternity spoiler. It is the man's aim to integrate love, marriage and maternity into family life, using the male paycheck as the binder; but these economically and sexually emancipated women are able to use their own paychecks to avoid such commitment to marriage and maternity. The birthrate of such women is minuscule, their divorce rate is far higher than that of economically dependent wives, as is their adultery rate, otherwise known as "a woman's right to control her own body." The answer to the question "Where are the men for women like us?" is that there aren't many, because most men want families--because it is men, not women, or not autonomous women, who have the long-term sexual horizons.
If men are not deflected from such women by their statistics for divorce and
adultery, they might be deflected by those on coronary heart disease.
According to the Framingham Heart Study, men married to women with thirteen or
more years of education were 2.6 times more likely to have coronaries. If
these women are in addition liberated to work outside the home the men are 7.6
times more likely to have coronaries.[279
Men ought to avoid such women as they avoid the plague, the Internal Revenue
Service, nuclear waste and low-density lipoproteins. Understandably, feminists
and house-males hold a different view. Hear one of them, Professor Herb
Goldbe]
Finally, the best insurance against losing everything to a wife in a divorce
or custody battle is the choice of a woman partner who delights in her own
separate identity, has a history of relating to men by taking equal
responsibility, does not see women as victims of men, and has created a
fulfilling autonomous life for herself prior to meeting you.[280
Worse advice for a man who wants a family would be hard to find. "Women,"
says Marie Richmond-]
have been delaying marriage, getting higher education, and entering
nontraditional jobs. They have come to marriage with their own incomes and
ideas of equality. They want fewer children and demand more power in their
families. Women are participating more in the occupational world and in
politics. While it will be difficult for poor women to follow this pattern,
middle-class women who have established it are unlikely to give it up.[281
As will be explained in Chapter IX, these women have climbed the "marriage
gradient"]
men and women would have to socialize their children in a different manner.
They would have to be aware of their own expectations and of their behavior
toward their children, and they would have to monitor the environment in which
their children grow and play so that it is nonsexist.[282
She offers the familiar suggestions about non-sexist toys and non-sexist
socialization, so that boys will be encouraged to be nurses, elementary school
teachers and airline attendants, girls to be astronauts, soldiers and
policepersons. Males will vacate the family-provider role to enable females to
take it over, while the liberated women vacate their traditional role as
housewives and mothers, turning these functions over to the lower orders and
the pigmented races.283
Speaking of what he perceives as the sexual superiority and greater sense of
responsibility of females Gilder has this:
Her very body, her whole being, tells her that she will have to make long-term
commitments to children, that her life is not something that runs from moment
to moment, from one momentary pleasure or intrigue to another, but that she is
engaged in a larger purpose that extends into the future.284
Why doesn't the female body convey this useful information to the one and
one-half million women who abort their unwanted pregnancies every year?
Here is an episode from Kate ]
"Why have you been fighting against it?" she asked. Her face glowed with soft lights.
"Why? Because you were not free; you were Leonce Pontellier's wife....Something put into my head that you cared for me; and I lost my senses. I forgot everything but a wild dream of your some way becoming my wife."
"Your wife!"
"Religion, loyalty, everything would give way if only you cared....Oh! I was demented, dreaming of wild, impossible things, recalling men who had set their wives free, we have heard of such things."
"You have been a very, very foolish boy, wasting your time dreaming of
impossible things when you speak of Mr. Pontellier setting me free! I am no
longer one of Mr. Pontellier's possessions to dispose of or not.[285 I give myself where I choose. If he were to
say, 'Here, Robert, take her and be happy; she is yours,' I should laugh at you
both."
.......................................................
"I love you," she whispered, "only you; no one but you. It was you who awoke
me last summer out of a life-long, stupid dream. Oh! you have made me so
unhappy with your indifference. Oh! I have suffered, suffered! Now you are
here we shall love each other, my Robert. We shall be everything to each
other. Nothing else in the world is of any consequence."286
Nothing else--not for the next half hour or for the whole weekend or until her
husband returns from his business trip. It is the boyfriend and the husband
who think in terms of long-term sexual horizons and marriage, the heroine who
thinks in terms of the present, who is willing to end it all rather than submit
to being confined by the patriarchal sexual constitution to long-term
commitments to her husband and her children. When, at the end of the book, the
heroine drowns herself in order to escape this trap,
She felt like some new-born creature, opening its eyes in a familiar world
that it had never known....She thought of Leonce and the children. They were a
part of her life. But they need not have thought that they could possess her,
body and soul. How Mademoiselle Reisz would have laughed, perhaps sneered, if
she knew! "And you call yourself an artist! What pretensions, Madame! The
artist must possess the courageous soul that dares and defies!"287
Kinsey was radically mistaken in thinking that women control the moral codes:
If they support these codes, they do so because of compulsion or perceived
advantage or simple conservatism, not because their bodies tell them they have
to make long-term commitments.
The "intuition of mysterious new realms of sexual and social experience," says
Gilder, "evoked by the body and spirit of woman, is the source of male love and
ultimately of marriage."288 Very edifying. But it fails to explain that where
women run things, as in the ghettos, little attention is paid to marriage or to
long-term cycles of sexuality, and instead there are so many one-night stands,
so many children having children. Where men run things, as in Oriental
families, the long-term cycles extend backward to ancestor worship and forward
to education, careers, the family's good name, and care for the hereditaments
and the ]
the modern puritanical outlook on female sexuality, and...the reluctance of
men in patriarchal society to acknowledge the independence and freedom of
primitive women in sexual intercourse. That this independence existed cannot
be doubted if one reads the reports of settlers and missionaries; they were
quite offended by it.[289
She cites the observations made by Father Jacob Bae]
They met without any formalities, and their vocabulary did not even contain the words "to marry"....The good padre complained that the women were independent and "not much inclined to obey their lords," and that after the wedding ceremony at the mission "the new married couple start off in different directions...as if they were not more to each other today than they were yesterday...." Worst of all, they failed to suffer from shame, fear, jealousy, or guilt about their sexual freedom:
They lived, in fact, before the establishment of the missions in their
country, in utter licentiousness, and adultery was daily committed by every one
without shame and without any fear, the feeling of jealousy being unknown to
them. Neighbouring tribes visited each other very often only for the purpose
of spending some days in open debauchery, and during such times a general
prostitution prevailed.[290
That's the way it was with savages in California two hundred years ago, and
that's the way it is coming to be in California today. When Marabel
Morga]
Morgan's breezy delivery gave no clue that she saw anything at all odd about
this admission, but many of the women in the audience responded as though she
had said something truly bizarre. As one commented, "The women I know are the
747s--and they're all griping because the men they married aren't even Piper
Cubs. They're gliders."[291
These are the women who ask, "Where are the men for women like us, men who can
deal with women like us?"292 There aren't many. "Women like us" turn men off,
as Marabel Morgan tried to explain to them. Their contempt for Mrs. Morgan
suggests that they enjoy turning men off. They might have made out quite well
with the Digger Indian males of two hundred years ago but they should be--and
are--shunned by males with long-term horizons.
Fear of int]
The Morgan quote comes from a review of ]
The real sexual revolution...has occurred in the attitudes and behavior of
women, and this revolution has taken place at the behest of women, not of
men....[T]he backlash against sexual permissiveness we're witnessing today
needs to be viewed as a backlash against women's quest for autonomy.[294
Autonomy--otherwise known as the Promiscuity Principle]
It was the drastic social changes brought about by the patriarchal class
institutions of the family, private property, and the state which produced the
historic downfall of the female sex. In the new society men became the
principal producers, while the women were relegated to home and family
servitude. Dispossessed from their former place in society at large, they were
robbed not only of their economic independence but also of their former sexual
freedom. The new institution of monogamous marriage arose to serve the needs
of men of property.[295
This freedom, which Gilder supposed to be the ]
More from Reed:
It was only when their own communal society was overthrown that these former governesses of society were defeated and sent, dispersed and fragmentized, into individual households and the stifling life of kitchen and nursery chores.
All this knowledge that we can gain from a study of prehistory will not only
help women to understand their present dilemma but also provide guidelines on
how to proceed in the struggle for women's emancipation, which is again coming
to the fore.[296
They smell victory. As S. L. ]
If the trend...continues without a reversal we shall have witnessed a
turning-point in the evolution of mankind: perhaps a return to matrilineal
descent, which may have been common before it was replaced by patriarchy at the
dawn of the more complex civilizations.[297
No perhaps about it. Patriarchy was the precondition for the more complex
civilization.
"It is sometimes imagined," says Gilder,
that the gynocentrism of many poor black families is a strength--the secret of
black survival through the harrowing centuries of slavery and racism. In a
sense, of course, this is true. In any disintegrating society, the family is
reduced to the lowest terms of mother and child. The black family has long
rested on the broad shoulders and heart of the black woman.
Yet this secret of black survival is also a secret of ghetto stagnation. It
is quite simply impossible to sustain a civilized society if the men are
constantly disrupting it.298
Most of the male disrupters had mothers who undermined patriarchal sexual
stability by divorce, marital disloyalty, or promiscuity. It is the female who
initiates the cycle which culminates in the visible male disruption. Gilder
blames the male; the law imprisons the male; and as crime continues to increase
undeterred by punishment, society imagines it must compensate for the
withdrawal of males from the system by increased subsidization of
females--subsidization which causes them to imagine themselves independent of
males and free to follow the Promiscuity Principle. Improperly socialized
women like things this way because they ]
It is, complains feminist Ellen Goodman, "by and large men who define 'normal,' even while committing 90 percent of the violent crimes, and waging nearly all the wars."[299 The ]violent crimes, she says--those requiring lots of testosterone and heavy musculature, crimes which are therefore male specialties. There are, however, crimes which both men and women commit; and if it is desired to know whether men or women are more virtuous it will be proper to consult the statistics for such crimes--check violations, forgery, perjury, child abuse. Ask a supermarket manager whether men or women commit more check violations, ask a social worker whether fathers or mothers commit more child abuse, ask a lawyer whether men or women commit more perjury, and you will learn something about the double standard of morality of which feminists complain.
Male antisociality is typically violent; female antisociality is typically sexual. The relationship between the two is indicated by Ramsey Clark's statistic that three-quarters of criminals come from "broken" (read: female-headed) homes. The way to stop generating these violent male criminals is to clean out their breeding places--to stop creating female-headed homes.
It is now feminist doctrine that the creation of the female-headed family need
not be preceded by the formalities of marriage and divorce, that all
extra-patriarchal females are entitled to a free ride for violating the
Legitimacy Principle. Feminist Professor Barbara Bergmann wants child support
payments from absent fathers to be "the same for children born out of wedlock
as for children of divorced or separated parents."[300 The woman has all the rights, the man all
the obligations. The female-headed family is to be the norm, as in the ghetto,
with the resulting male disruptiveness serving as propaganda-grist for further
female rejection of the patriarchy.
Here is another assertion of the Promiscuity Principle, from America's wise
woman, Abb]
The existing policy is that such socially sanctioned unchastity gives Mom
title to her children and to her ex-husband's or ex-boyfriend's paycheck. The
biological tenuousness of paternity suffices to establish the social centrality
of Mom's role and to make her economic subsidization imperative.
This repudiation of patriarchy implies the repudiation of Betty Friedan's
Sleeping Beauty feminism, which averred that "women have outgrown the housewife
role"303 and should seek self-actualization in the ]
Here is the crux of the Gilder fallacy. "Men," he says, "have no ties to the
long-term human community so deep or tenacious as the mother's to her
child."305 Check. "Only the woman has a dependable and easily identifiable
connection to the child--a tie on which society can rely."306 Check. But the
facts cited show that this tie does not create a tie to the
]
As will be more fully explained in Chapter X, the only way for society to provide this guarantee is to reverse the existing custody disposition in divorce cases and return to the l9th century practice of awarding custody of children to fathers rather than mothers.
"The human race," thinks Gilder, "met the challenge of transition from hunting to agriculture and from agriculture to industry in part by shifting the male pursuit from game to women."[307 Men had always pursued women. What was needed to motivate men to accept the "long-term horizons" Gilder writes about was the assurance that the pursuit of women would lead to the "creation of patriarchy," a political system based not on a matriline but on the ]family, of which the man knew himself to be the permanent head, not liable to be exiled at the pleasure of the mother. Only such a stable reproductive arrangement could motivate a man to accept long-term family responsibilities, to commit himself to a lifetime of work and the creation of wealth, wealth which his wife would have to know to be unobtainable outside of patriarchal family arrangements. This is the motivational basis of civilization.
"In this process," continues Gilder, "society became strongly dependent on the institutions by which the hunter is domesticated--chiefly now the institution of marriage. In general, across the range of modern life, marriage became indispensable to socializing the mass of males."
Gilder fails to see that it became no less indispensable to socializing females, a fact well understood by feminists such as Adrienne Rich, Gerda Lerner and Betty Friedan, who emphasize women's reluctance to submit to traditional marriage and their wish to gain its economic advantages for themselves without submitting to patriarchal constraints.
Gilder is on the mark when he says
The desire of men to claim their children thus emerged as the crucial
impulse of civilized life. It is chiefly in the nuclear household that the
man's connection to his children becomes central. He is the key provider. His
fatherhood is direct and unimpeachable, and he identifies, loves, and provides
for his offspring. His role as provider then becomes almost as crucial for the
maintenance of the family as the mother's role. He thus can feel equal to the
mother within the family and he can join it without damage to his sense of
himself as a man.[308
But not only is Gilder unable to see the reluctance of many women to accept
this nuclear family arrangement, so necessary to men, he is unable to see how
it is being destroyed by a 50 percent divorce rate. "His fatherhood [in the
nuclear household] is direct and unimpeachable," he says. Not for the 50
percent exiled by divorce. "Marriage became essential to socializing the mass
of males," he goes on. Half of them are no longer the beneficiaries of this
socialization, and the other half realize that the "essential" prop formerly
provided by society's support of the conjugal family is no longer dependable.
The desire of men to ]
Gilder acknowledges "that economic growth and capitalism depend in crucial degree on familial and sexual organization"[309 and that "the role of the male is the Achilles' heel of civilized society,"310 but he imagines that what is required is simply for men to ]consent to conjugal family arrangements which women in large numbers are refusing to consent to. "By the late l970s," say Barbara Ehrenreich, Elizabeth Hess, and Gloria Jacobs,
a majority of women--of all ages--had accepted with pleasure progressive
attitudes toward sex....Many of Cosmo's readers were as sexually
satisfied as Redbook's (the median reported was nine lovers per woman)
and a little more brazen to boot: "I have lovers because sex feels good," said
one, and claimed another, "I have lovers because what else is there in life
that's so much fun as turning on a new man, interesting him, conquering
him?" Among Playboy's readers in l983, young married wives were
"fooling around" more than their husbands....[T]he true heart of the sexual
revolution was a change in women's behavior, not men's.[311
It may be that ]
Gilder quaintly assumes that most marital breakdown results from "powerful
men" abandoning the wives of their youth and lusting after their young
secretaries.[313 A moment's reflection would
convince him that there aren't that many "powerful men," and that high status
men have a lower divorce rate than most other males. Besides which, he ought
to know that most divorc]es are initiated by, and granted to, women.[314
"Unless marriage is permanent and sacred," he says, "it becomes an
increasingly vulnerable and embattled institution that collapses before every
temptation and crisis."315 The way to make it permanent is not by urging men
to submit to women's "long-term sexual horizons" but by ensuring that marriage
offers women long-term economic and status advantages unavailable outside
marriage.
The following passage suggests that Gilder never heard of Tawney, that he
supposes capitalism is a Roman Catholic creation, that the present sexual
crisis is not a post-World War II problem but originated in the eighteenth
century, and that a generation ago girls were as promiscuous as they are
today:
Around the world, social decline and sexual chaos is the universal harvest of
reliance on secular, rationalist mor]
The present sexual anarchy has not resulted from "two centuries of secular
humanism"; it has developed mostly within the last generation (not, to be sure,
without predisposing causes), and it has occurred largely in consequence of
government welfare programs, the pressures of feminism, the 50 percent divorce
rate and society's error in supposing that its props are required for the
strongest link in the family, the mother's role, rather than for the weakest
link, the father's role.
There can be no greater contrast than that between what Gilder imagines women
to think and what women actually do think once they have rejected the
patriarchal socialization men have imposed on them for the last several
millennia. Prior to the imposition of this patriarchal socialization, the
relations between the sexes were governed by the first law of matriarchy:
"Women control our own bodies."
"Some distinguishing features of a woman-centered social system," says Paula
Gunn A]
The 7th century Bedouin poetess Ma]
Breeze-flowing tents I prefer
to ponderous halls
And desert dress
to diaphanous veils.
A crust I'd eat in the awning's shade,
not rolls,
And watched by a dog that barks
not a cat that smiles,
I'd sleep to the wind's time,
not to the tambourine.
A youth's impetuous sword,
not a husband's wiles,
Uncouth slim tribesmen I love,
not corpulent men.[318
"Women," says Adrienne Ri]
have married because it was necessary, in order to survive economically, in order to have children who would not suffer economic deprivation or social ostracism, in order to remain respectable, in order to do what was expected of women because coming out of "abnormal" childhoods they wanted to feel "normal," and because heterosexual romance has been represented as the great female adventure, duty, and fulfillment. We may faithfully or ambivalently have obeyed the institution, but our feelings--and our sensuality--have not been tamed or contained within it.[319]
Protests of this sort are lost on Gilder, who imagines the patriarchally socialized female is the real thing:
The difference between the sexes gives the woman the superior position in most sexual encounters. The man may push and posture, but the woman must decide. He is driven; she must set the terms and conditions, goals and destination of the journey. Her faculty of greater natural restraint and selectivity makes the woman the sexual judge and executive, finally appraising the offerings of men, favoring one and rejecting another, and telling them what they must do to be saved or chosen. Managing the sexual nature of a healthy society, women impose the disciplines, make the choices, and summon the male effort that support it.
Modern society relies on predictable, regular, long-term activities,
corresponding to the sexual faculties of women. The male pattern is the enemy
of social stability.[320
Modern society relies on predictable, regular, long-term activities,
corresponding to the sexual demands of the hated Double Standard, imposed by
men over the resistance of women, as the pattern found in
]
[W]hile we everywhere find chastity imposed by men upon women, it would be
difficult to find any instances of a corresponding imposition of chastity by
women upon men apart from the primitive tabus which have reference to
menstruation, pregnancy and suckling.[321
The selectivity of which Gilder writes is that of civilized--patriarchally
socialized--women with economic and status motives for behaving themselves as
men wish them to behave. But even within civilized society, continues
Briffault, "Whenever individual women enjoy...a position of power, far from
imposing or observing chastity, they avail themselves of their independence to
exercise sexual liberty."322 Then they talk little about the sanctity of
motherhood and sound instead like this:
I have what I call the "gang boyfriend motif." I have one boyfriend I've had
for eleven years. He's been married twice in that time, and I know and his
wife knows we're both better off not having him full-time. He's my main man.
Then I have other boyfriends, usually out of town, who I see fairly regularly.
I also have one other boyfriend in town, who I really like a lot. They all
add up to one big boyfriend, and all my needs get taken care of.323
What Gilder supposes to be female nature is what Betty Friedan describes as a
"mask" designed to deceive the Gilders of the world:
I protest--on behalf of women and men and my ever-deepening respect for the
power and the glory and the mystery of human sex. I protest that passionate
sexual human love cannot be experienced if it is divorced from what we really
are ourselves. Those obsolete masculine and feminine mystiques-
-the
masks we've been wearing which didn't let us be or know each other. The
Biblical word for sexual love is ]
Locked in those iron masks, we finally choke with impotent rage and become
immune to each other's touch.[324
Referring to the growing economic independence of women, she says, "We are in
a state of transition now"--transition to a society where women can show how
they really feel, which is this:
The bitterness, the rage underneath the ruffles, which we used to take out on
ourselves and our kids and finally on the men in bed, is out in the open now,
scaring us in its scorching intensity, goading men to exasperation and despair.
And now the men are letting it hang out, too: how they really feel about female
parasites, the dead weights, alimony, the sexual nothingness, the lonely
lovelessness of the manipulated breadwinner.325
"Female parasites" ]
I've messed up my kids, devoting my life to them that way. I've been giving
my husband a very hard time these last few years. All my hostility is coming
out. And now he is a successful lawyer, he has made enough money, he wants to
have a good time. He wants me with him, sailing, skiing, entertaining, and I'm
in school, making up for lost time. I'm alive again. I don't know what's going
to happen to my marriage. My husband is a handsome, successful man. A lot of
women are after him. If I have to choose between my own life and my marriage,
I have to save my life and take the consequences.[326
It's a safe bet these consequences will be calculated with an eye on
economics and on what her lawyer tells her she can expect in alimony and child
support money from the divorce court.
What Ms. Friedan says about female autonomy is the same as what Monica
S]
When women control our bodies, our daily lives, our environment, and our
goals, we don't inflict on ourselves the terrible split between motherhood and
self-realization that patriarchy and the nuclear family inflict on us. The
split is a structural one, indigenous to male-dominated environments.[327
The way to get rid of this terrible split is by women's achieving "total
sexual and reproductive autonomy" [see page 00 above], autonomy which confers
upon women the right of ]
The "male pattern" which Gilder thinks the enemy of social stability is not the male pattern in patriarchy but the male pattern in matrilineal societies such as the ghetto, the pattern where males acquiesce in female promiscuity ("autonomy"), because they have too little bargaining power to do anything about it.
Why should the phrase "the male pattern" be used to designate male acquiescence in female promiscuity? Why should it not rather be used to designate the pattern of regulated sexuality imposed by wiser patriarchal males who understand the relationship between unregulated female sexuality and the disruptive masculine displays which Gilder perceives as "the male pattern"?
"He must make a durable commitment," says Gilder. Why say he must when, with a 50 percent divorce rate, he cannot?
Even then [says Gilder] he is dependent on the woman to love and nurture his
child. Even in the context of the family, he is sexually inferior. If he
leaves, the family may survive without him. If she leaves, it goes with her.
He is replaceable; she is not. He can have a child only if she acknowledges
his paternity; her child is inexorably hers.[328
Dependent on the woman to love and nur]
Not according to the Corpus Juris, which says, "at common law and under some statutes, the primary right to the custody and care of minor children is generally in the father."[329 Not in sixteenth century Germany, where "illegitimate children, who abounded, were usually taken into the father's home after marriage."330 Not in F]reud's Austria, where the great psychologist stipulated in his will that if he died before his children were grown, they should be taken from their mother and placed in a foster home. Not in Iran, where father-custody is automatic following divorce.[331 Not in Renaissance Venice, where, "even in cases of adultery, the wife's lover had to pay for her expenses if she became pregnant, then had to rear the child, and the wife was returned to her husband after the birth."332 Not in Ibse]n's Doll's House, where Nora acknowledges that her husband Thorwald is better able to rear the children than she is. Not in America in l848, when the Seneca Falls feminists complained that women automatically lost their children in the event of divorce, and when judges made assertions such as this from the bench:
It is a well-settled doctrine of the common law, that the father is entitled
to the custody of his minor children, as against the mother and everybody else;
that he is bound for their maintenance and nurture, and has the corresponding
right to their obedience and their services.[333
Gilder imagines that the way things have been in the 20th century American
matriarchy is the way they have always been and always must be. "He is readily
replaceable; she is not"? He is replaceable if his paycheck can be taken from
him or if the government will subsidize female promiscuity, illegitimacy and
matriarchy via AFDC. Without these subsidizations, it would be found that a
mother-surrogate is far more easily obtainable (in the form of a paternal
grandmother, a stepmother, a nanny or a housekeeper) than a breadwinner.334
"Only a specific woman can bear a specific child" says Gilder,
and her tie to it is personal and unbreakable. When she raises the child she
imparts in privacy her own individual values. She can create children who
transcend consensus and prefigure the future, children of private singularity
rather than "child-development policy." She is the vessel of the ultimate
values of the nation. The community is largely what she is and what she
demands in men.335
Her tie to "her" child is "unbreakable." It is in the American matriarchy, as
it is among the Tekelmas, the Mandans, the Canelas and other savages--whereas
the father's tie in these savage societies is easily breakable, which is why
these savages, like ourselves, have underachieving children. "She imparts her
own individual values"? Either she fails to, or her values are defective, for
what she imparts is the socialization which produces 75 percent of the criminal
class.
Gilder gets so swept away by his own rhapsodizing about mothers and maternity
that the logic of what he is dealing with eludes him. He tells of the central
position of women in both home and civilization, of mother-love, of long-term
ties of the mother to her child and their depth and tenacity, of the need for
her to transmit her values to her offspring and of how the success or failure
of civilization depends on this transmission, of her deep moral, aesthetic,
religious, nurturant, social, sexual concerns, which involve the ultimate goals
of human life, of how she is the repository of the ultimate values of the
nation and of how the community is largely shaped by her, of the existence of a
uniquely feminine moral sense rooted in webs of relationships and
responsibility, in intimacy and caring, a moral sense superior to the masculine
one of rules, hierarchy, aggression, lust and abstraction. He assures us that
the mother's tie to her child is the ultimate basis of all morality, based on
the preciousness of life, beginning in the womb and breast, morally paramount,
unimpeachable, and so on and on. What, then, of the fact which will not go
away--the one about three-quarters of criminals coming from female-headed homes
where they reaped the benefits of this superior virtue, this uniquely feminine
moral sense so much nobler than that of the male? These criminals had the
benefits of all of Mom's goodness without any dilution by masculine influence.
Gilder's answer: "If children lack the close attention of mothers ]
"In terms of mental and physical disease and life expectancy," says Gilder, "divorce damages the man far more than the woman":
Divorced men of every age group between thirty-five and sixty-four have a
mortality rate three and a third times as high as divorced women....Divorced
men are three and a half times as likely as divorced women to commit suicide,
and four times more likely to die in an accidental fire or explosion. Murder
claims three divorced men for every divorced woman, as does cirrhosis of the
liver. And, in the realm of more conventional mortality, divorced men are six
times as likely as divorced women to die of heart disease.[337
Gilder writes as though men and women passed through the same experience.
This is like comparing a female driver and a male pedestrian who experience the
same "accident," and inferring from the resulting injuries that females are
tougher than males. Both parties experience "divorce," but the man experiences
in addition the massive anti-male discrimination of the divorce court, where he
loses his children, his home, his property, his future income-
-his
]
Here, from David Chambers's Making Fathers Pay,338 is the way the male is handled in divorce cases. Can one imagine a judge ordering an ex-wife to clean her ex-husbands's home and then scolding her for failure to do so in some such manner as this?
The Court: All right, Mr. Connors, bring up Mr. Neal.
(Mr. Neal approaches the bench.)
The Court: Mr. Neal, do you know why you're here?
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: I can't hear you.
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: Why are you here?
Defendant: Back alimony.
The Court: It's not alimony; I never ordered alimony.
Defendant: No.
The Court: You were never ordered by Judge Johnston to pay alimony.
Defendant: No, support.
The Court: That's right. You were ordered to pay support for your children, not alimony for your wife. And that was back in '63, and he only made you pay ten dollars per week per child. You have five, is that right?
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: Do you know how much you're in arrears?
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: How much?
Defendant: It's over ten thousand.
The Court: Well, why are you that far behind? Why haven't you paid something on it?
Defendant: Well, I had other bills and trying to make a living myself; I just couldn't seem to pay nothing.
The Court: Well, what do you mean "other bills"? You knew you had these children.
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: These children didn't ask to be brought into the world, Mr. Neal. How did you expect those children to get food in their little stomachs and clothes on their back, shoes on their feet, boots in the wintertime? Where were you working all this time?
Defendant: I had different jobs.
The Court: Well, why haven't you held a steady job? What's your trouble? I'd like to know.
Defendant: Nothing.
The Court: Well, then, why haven't you held onto a steady job if nothing's wrong with you?
Defendant: Just trying to find something that pays more money.
The Court: But you can't do it--
Defendant: No.
The Court: --going from one insignificant job to another. Were you born here in Flint?
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: You knew that you could make a hundred and fifty, hundred and sixty dollars in the factory here. Why didn't you apply to the factory?
Defendant: I did. They won't take me back because I got a hernia and I couldn't pass the test again.
The Court: You got married [a second time] in '65. Did you marry a Flint woman?
Defendant: Yes.
The Court: Is she working?
Defendant: No. She can't work; she's a diabetic now.
The Court: You knew you had these five children before you married her. These are the ones that come first. I don't care about your second wife. But these children are too small and I'm not going to let them go around in garbage cans looking for food or something, or to put shoes on their feet. If you're strong enough to marry a second time and go to bed, you're strong enough to get a job that will pay and feed these children. You have no business assuming that responsibility when you had five little tots to take care of. They didn't ask to be brought into this world, Mr. Neal. You've defied this court. You think that laws were made for everybody but you. Well, I'm going to teach you a lesson. Do you have anything to say why I shouldn't cite you for contempt of Court?
Defendant: (No audible response.)
The Court: Do you have anything to say, I asked you?
Defendant: No.
The Court: You have nothing to say in mitigation of what you've done to these children?
Defendant: I know I did wrong.
The Court: Yes. If you would have sent at least ten dollars a week for the five of them, at least we would have seen that you were making an effort. You didn't even send a nickel.
Defendant: I did send money off and on, but right to them; I didn't send it to the court.
The Court: Oh, really, and you expect the court to believe that?
Defendant: No.
The Court: You're darn tooting I don't believe it. This court finds nothing wrong with you. Hernia or no hernia, you had no business leaving the Fisher body when you were building up seniority, fringe benefits, everything. You take a leave of absence and go to Florida with a new wife. You may have gotten that hernia at Fisher's for all you know.
Anyhow, the court finds you in contempt of court for violating this support--violating the judgment of divorce, wherein support was made for five small children at ten dollars per week [per child]. And that isn't even enough. The court finds nothing wrong with you, hernia or no hernia. There are many men who work with hernias; they are physically and mentally able. If you are capable of remarrying, you are capable then of supporting your children. You are to be confined to the county jail for one year unless you come up with half, at least five thousand dollars, and a wage assignment of at least the current fifty dollars, plus twenty-five dollars on the back.
Let him make two or three telephone calls and see if he can get somebody
to take him out.[339
Mr. Neal was sentenced to a year in prison, but got two months off for good
behavior.
If Mr. Neal had been more articulate he might have replied to the Court's
invitation to speak in his own behalf as follows:
You say that you are imprisoning me for contempt of court. You are lying.
You are imprisoning me for debt, in violation of the law which you have sworn
to uphold. You are denying me my right to be tried by a jury of my peers,
divorced males, in violation of Article III, section 2 of the Bill of Rights,
which you have sworn to uphold.
You tell me that I have no business marrying a second
wife. If you know anything about the statistics of sociology, or if you have
read George Gilder's ]
You tell me that you care nothing for the welfare of my second wife, and I believe you; but if I failed to support her, you would be tantruming at me for the welfare costs she would require of the State of Michigan, and telling me that you cared nothing for my first wife, and that since she is not my wife I am not responsible for her, which is true.
You say I have no business assuming responsibility for a second wife. I say to you, you have no business assuming responsibility for my children, and that in taking that responsibility upon yourself and placing them in a fatherless home in the custody of a woman incapable of providing for them, you are responsible for their poverty. By placing them in a female-headed home you are placing them where their likelihood of becoming delinquents is several times greater than if they were in a father-headed home. You destroyed my family, and you are trying to shift your responsibility for destroying it onto me by blaming me for the law's incompetence to protect my children and for the fact that I am unable to support two households with an income sufficient only for one.
You say that my children didn't ask to be brought into the world. I say to you that they didn't ask to be taken from a two-parent family where they were decently provided for by me and placed by you in a one-parent family where they are impoverished and at greater risk of delinquency and educational failure.
You ask me why I haven't held a steady job. You want to know what my trouble is. My trouble is that you have destroyed my family--destroyed the system of motivation which formerly made me a productive, stable and useful member of society--and are now about to make me a jailbird who can contribute nothing to society. My trouble is the same trouble as that of tens of millions of other American males--that you and the other members of your profession are, by destroying half of America's families, destroying the basis of patriarchal civilization. My trouble is that you and your fellow judges imagine that by raging and tantruming at males like myself you can compensate for the damage you are inflicting upon society by your own weakness of character, your own lawlessness in refusing to keep your oath of office and administer justice impartially, and your lack of cognitive skill.
You say you aren't going to let my children rummage in garbage cans. It is because you placed them in a female-headed home that they are rummaging in garbage cans. They never rummaged in garbage cans when they were in my custody. You may imagine that your demonstration of indignation is benefiting the State of Michigan. It will cost the State between $20,000 and $25,000 to imprison me for a year. During that time my ex-wife and my children will be entirely on public welfare. During that time I will earn nothing and will therefore be withdrawing another $25,000 worth of productivity from the Michigan economy. My future employability will be impaired once I have a jail record. I will be paying no taxes for the next year and reduced taxes in the future--perhaps none at all, since I may find myself driven into the underground economy, or compelled to leave the state in order to escape your bullying.
Your concern is not, as you pretend, for the best interests of my children. You never lost thirty seconds of sleep over my children or any of the other children you placed in fatherless households where they are far more likely to be impoverished and delinquent. Your concern is to practice cheap judicial chivalry at my expense and to preserve a mindless legal rule-of-thumb which will save you the necessity of performing the duty for which you receive your salary, the duty of administering impartial justice and of thinking about what you routinely do when you destroy families and place children in their mothers' custody.
In the Mahabharata, the ancient epic of India, the character
Pandy says, "Women were not formerly immured in houses and dependent upon
husbands and relatives. They used to go about freely, enjoying themselves as
best they pleased....They did not then adhere to their husbands faithfully; and
yet, O beauteous one, they were not regarded as sinful, for that was the
sanctioned usage of the times....The present practice of women being confined
to one husband for life hath been established but lately."[340
In the early l9th century, a traveller named De Roquefeuil]
In the 24th century B. C., when civilization was a recent human achievement,
an edict of King Uruk]
Contrary to what Gilder imagines, there must be something congenial to female nature in the state of promiscuity which existed in India in the age of the Pandavas, in the Marquesas Islands in the l9th century, in Lagash before the time of King Urukagina. What else is to be inferred from the fact that the most strident and frequently repeated demand of feminists is for "a woman's right to control her own body"--to abolish the Legitimacy Principle and re-establish the Promiscuity Principle?
"The right of women to full sexual equality with men," says Ms. Friedan, "and
to the dignity and privacy of their own person must be secured by federal
statute recognizing the right of every woman to control her own reproductive
life."[343
That means a federal law legitimizing fornication for unmarried women and
adultery for married women, a federal law denying to men any rights under the
marriage contract.344
"Only economic independence can free a ]
"Marriage as an institution is doomed" is the feeling of many women in the
movement for whom the essence of women's liberation sometimes seems to be
]
........................................................
"There's no real economic base for marriage any more," says a learned friend
of mine. "When women needed a man for economic support, and men needed women
economically to run a home, when they needed to have children to secure their
old age, marriage was real then and sex outside of marriage was not sanctioned.
There's no real basis for that now. That's why marriages now are breaking up
as soon as the children get old enough or even before."[347
She illustrates from the experience of a liberated friend:
She is currently involved with two married men in two different cities. Over
the last week she has seen both, spent two intense days with one, several with
the other, but does not quite know when she'll see either one again. This has
been going on for several years. Neither has any interest in leaving his wife,
nor would she really want to marry either one of them. Other than the fact
that neither is available on weekends, Sundays or holidays, or for long
vacations or dinner every night--her relationship with both is quite perfect.
Marvelously intense conversation, sex, emotion, dinners, letters--more intense
surely than if they were together every day. She is not at all jealous of
their wives.
"What could be better?" asks her married friend. "You can enjoy all that,
the closeness, the emotion, the sex, the fun and games--and you don't ever have
to do the laundry, so to speak, or stop doing your thing to make his dinner.
You live your own life. You only have yourself to think about. How I envy
you!"348
Just like Romeo and Juliet. No money worries. No love-spoiling (male) money
to interfere with the fun and games by bribing and buying up women as though
they were property. The woman has her own money (or her husband's) and can use
it to enjoy her sacred right to promiscuity, a right which ought to be
guaranteed by federal law. This is the reality behind what Gilder perceives as
women's long-term sexual horizons, horizons which, however, become long-term
chiefly when contaminated by economic considerations.
The females in primitive societies and in the women's liberation movement
covet a promiscuity which would deny to males a secure family role. By
contrast, patriarchally socialized females in civilized societies accept the
Sexual Constitution (or did until recently), and their chastity and loyalty to
their husbands enable these husbands to be heads of families, a headship
motivating the stable and productive male behavior which Gilder takes to be the
primary difference between civilization and savagery. Both male and female
behavior differ, but the difference in female behavior, consequent upon its
regulation by the patriarchal sexual constitution, is the more fundamental.
Writing of the "creation of patriarchy]
The class position of women became consolidated and actualized through their
sexual relationships....[Different groups of women] shared the unfreedom of
being sexually and reproductively controlled by men....Class for men was and is
based on their relationship to the means of production: those who owned the
means of production could dominate those who did not.[349
It has to be that way for patriarchy to work. Male status is based on work
and the creation of wealth, motivated by the male's role as head of the family.
For this system to exist it is necessary that society should do what Dr. Lerner
complains of its doing--consolidate the "class position" (status) of women
through their sexual relationships:
It is through the man that women have access to or are denied access to the
means of production and to resources. It is through their sexual behavior that
they gain access to class. "Respecta]
The threat of being de-classed is essential to the system, which would be
destroyed by the acceptance of the Promiscuity Principle. Accordingly, the
]
To recapitulate. Patriarchal civilization is made possible by the regulation
of female sexuality on the basis of the Sexual Constitution. Given freedom,
females do not use their influence to impose this Sexual Constitution on males
but to escape from it, to wreck the hated patriarchal system, as they have done
in the ghettos. Surely it is significant that in the vast feminist literature
dealing with the economic miseries of single mothers and their children, there
is ]
VIII
THE WEITZMAN FALLACY
Dr. Lenore Weitzman's book The Divorce Revolution[354] argues that ex-husbands owe ex-wives far more alimony and child support money than divorce courts now compel them to pay. She deems it unjust that the ex-husband should walk away from his marriage with his earning ability intact while the ex-wife has little earning ability to walk away with. This male earning ability, the principal inducement the man had to offer the woman for marriage, is referred to as an "asset of the marriage," and therefore (by feminist logic) belongs equally to the unmarried (divorced) woman and the unmarried (divorced) man, while the children, the chief asset of the marriage from the man's point of view, are presumed to be the property of the woman by biological right.
The statistics Dr. Weitzman offers in support of her contention--the divorced
man's standard of living is said to rise by 42 percent, the divorced woman's
standard of living to fall by 73 percent--have become an established part of
the folklore of feminism. The original feminist position, given in Betty
Friedan's The Feminine Mystique, had been that women ought to be
independent, to stand on their own feet and face life's challenges on their own
"without sexual privilege or excuse."[355 Ms.
Friedan withdrew this view when the cold winds of economics began blowing and
her feminist followers began blaming her for the loss of their husbands'
paychecks:
We did not realize the trap we were falling into [wrote Ms. Friedan in her
1976 book ]
Being independent was great as long as it meant not having reciprocal
responsibilities; losing the free ride was less great. It was accordingly
necessary to devise a new justification for the ex-wife's retaining of the
ex-husband's money, this being that most of the "assets of the marriage"
consist of the husband's earning ability. The argument is thus stated by
feminist Terry Arende]
Most of these [divorced] women viewed their husband's earnings and earning
ability as rightfully being a community property issue.[357
Ms. Arendell regards it as proper that ex-husbands should subsidize ex-wives
but wholly unfair that ex-wives, if they re-marry, "would lose all financial
help from their former husbands" while "their ex-husbands...could re-marry at
will and still lose nothing of what they had taken out of their marriages." No
matter that they had also taken their earning ability ]
The husband's economic-provider services were common property during the
marriage because the wife's reciprocal services were also common
property. But by divorce the wife has withdrawn her services. She doesn't
go to her ex-husband's home to do his laundry, mop his floors, and prepare his
meals. What Ms. Arendell's argument comes to is this: she agrees with Ms.
Friedan that "society asks so little of women"[358 that (apart from bearing his children) the
wife's contribution to the husband bears no comparison to the husband's
contribution to the wife. In withdrawing her services at the same time that
she withdraws her really substantive contribution to the marriage, the
children, she is withdrawing something so trifling that Ms. Arendell can truly
say the ex-husband is walking away with most of the assets of the marriage.
Hence, according to feminist reasoning, the women who make themselves
independent by divorce are entitled to perpetuate their dependence by
ali]
Dr. Weitzman's statistics concerning the ex-husband's improved and the ex-wife's deteriorated standard of living are spurious. But suppose they were valid. What then?
First, it follows that there are excellent economic reasons for placing children of divorce in the custody of fathers rather than mothers.
Second, it follows that during the marriage the husband performed extremely valuable services for the wife, so valuable that when they are withdrawn her standard of living falls by 73 percent.
(The wife's "unpaid" services to the husband during marriage are frequently referred to in feminist literature as something justifying compensation. How can a woman's standard of living be lowered by 73 percent by divorce if all she is losing is the non-payment of nothing?)
Third, it follows that the husband performed these services at great sacrifice to himself, so great that even with his continued subsidization of her by alimony and child support payments, and despite the ex-wife's withdrawal of her "unpaid services" worth $25,000 a year (Gloria Steinem's estimate), his own standard of living, once he is partially emancipated from her, skyrockets by 42 percent.
Fourth, it follows that during the marriage the husband had nothing to show
for having raised his wife's standard of living by 73 percent at a cost of a 42
percent lowering of his own--nothing except the loss of his children and his
motivation (not to mention the probable loss of his home, etc.). But this loss
of children and motivation is an economic fact of the first importance.
From the economic standpoint, the ex-husband's greatest asset is not his skill,
not his degrees and credentials, not his customer goodwill, not his reputation,
but his motivation, which in the typical case (since most divorce actions are
initiated by wives)[359 the wife herself
destroys--and then demands to be compensated for.
Fifth, it follows that Dr. Weitzman is glaringly inconsistent in maintaining
on the one hand that the wife's contribution to the marriage is the reason for
the husband's (and ex-husband's) economic success, and on the other that he
owes her a post-marital free ride ]
Sixth, it follows that Dr. Weitzman disproves her own contention that the
wife's contributions to the marriage account for the husband's financial
success, and that his ]
Seventh, it follows from Dr. Weitzman's estimate of the value of the wife's contributions to the marriage that the husband sustains a crippling loss from her withdrawal of these contributions. If they are the reason for the husband's economic achievement, then their denial entitles him not only to withdraw his earnings, but to be compensated.
Eighth, it follows that if the 42 percent statistic is valid, the ex-husband is entitled to compensation from the ex-wife for her lowering of his pre-divorce standard of living by that amount. (Such a claim would correspond to the demand made by ex-wives to be compensated for the careers they forfeited by marriage.)
Dr. Weitzman wants it both ways: the woman marries the man and demands post-marital recompense because marrying him was a favor; she divorces him and demands post-marital recompense because divorcing him was a favor. She asks us to believe that the motivations provided by the wife make the man an underachiever (by 42 percent) while they are acting upon him during marriage, but then function proleptically to make him an overachiever once they are withdrawn by divorce.
In writing of the predicament of divorced women, Dr. Weitzman complains of the "assumption that it is fair to divide family income so that the wife and children share one-third, while the husband keeps the other two-thirds for himself."[361 There is no "family"; the woman is not a "wife"; the man is not a "husband." A family is created by marriage and destroyed by divorce. The economic predicament of the woman has virtually nothing to do with "no fault" divorce] as Dr. Weitzman's book tries to prove. It is due to divorce itself. The greater misery of ex-wives today is not owing to change in divorce procedures (there has been none), but to the greater number of divorces.
During marriage the wife did get from the husband what Dr. Weitzman wishes the ex-wife (read: non-wife) to have from the ex-husband (read: non-husband). The only unfairness is that to the children whom the ex-wife drags into poverty with her to be used as mutilated beggars. It is schizophrenic to insist on the continuing existence of the "family" as a means of justifying the destruction of that family itself. It is like feeding a cow its own milk--taking away its substance in order to nourish it. What such schizophrenia testifies to is Dr. Weitzman's own recognition that the family--the real, nuclear, patriarchal family--is the true source of the wealth she is grasping for, while at the same time she works to destroy it.
She complains of the predicament of "an older housewife who has spent twenty or thirty years in the family home" and then loses it when her marriage ends. This woman has spent twenty or thirty years living in a home she could probably not have provided for herself, enjoying a standard of living 73 percent higher than she could have earned, bestowed upon her by a husband who forfeited 42 percent of his own standard of living for her sake during marriage. Which partner is entitled to compensation?
It is a commonplace in feminist literature that women should be freed from
what Zillah Eisenstein calls the "patriarchal image of woman as dependent on
man." "In this view," she says, "she is still primarily a mother and therefore
needs a man to support her."[362 Dr.
Weitzman's demand for the subsidization of ex-wives by ex-husbands constitutes
a reactionary reversion to this obsolete patriarchalism, which keeps women from
"learning to stand alone."363
It was the thrust of Betty Fried]
Dr. Weitzman proposes that this parasitism should never end. Even after the children are grown, says Dr. Weitzman, "Long-married older wives must also be assured of an equal share of all of their husband's career assets."[365 But "wives" ]are assured of their husbands' career assets, an assurance they enjoy because of marriage, the stability of which Dr. Weitzman is seeking to undermine by her attempt to make divorce into an alternative institution capable of giving women the same benefits marriage gives them. She cannot see where her own evidence leads. She urges women not to trust their husbands' loyalty (now eroded by the feminist/sexual revolution) but instead to trust feminist agitation, lawyers, bureaucrats and lawmakers. Trust in lawyers, bureaucrats and lawmakers is misplaced. Betty Friedan told women to trust themselves and to acquire the skills which would make them economically independent. Now Ms. Friedan, like Dr. Weitzman, is reduced to speaking of such an undeliverable promise as a "trap" leading women into economic disaster.
These women "deserve some special recognition and compensation for their contributions, not harsher treatment," says Dr. Weitzman.[366 They ]receive special recognition and compensation in the form of a 73 percent higher standard of living; and it was one of the main contentions of The Feminine Mystique that this compensation was excessive and unmerited and that wives should be ashamed of themselves for taking it. Hear Betty Friedan:
In our culture, the development of women has been blocked at the physiological
level with, in many cases, no need recognized higher than the need for love or
sexual satisfaction. Even the need for self-respect, for self-esteem and for
the esteem of others--"the desire for strength, for achievement, for adequacy,
for mastery and competence, for confidence in the face of the world, and for
independence, and freedom"--is not clearly recognized for women. But certainly
the thwarting of the need for self-esteem, which produces feelings of
inferiority, of weakness, and of helplessness in man, can have the same effect
on woman. Self-esteem in woman, as well as in man, can only be based on real
capacity, competence, and achievement; on deserved respect from others rather
than unwarranted adulation. Despite the glorification of "Occupation:
housewife," if that occupation does not demand, or permit, realization of
woman's full abilities, it cannot provide adequate self-esteem, much less pave
the way to a higher level of self-realization.[367
"The most glaring proof," said Ms. Friedan, "that, no matter how elaborate,
'Occupation: housewife']
Dr. Weitzman gives an example of how divorce arrangements perpetuate women's
dependence (though Dr. Weitzman wants more, not less, of this dependence):
Consider the following situation as an example of the typical legal (and
social) issues that may arise with remarriage. A remarried man is legally
obligated to support his two children from a former marriage and the young
child he has fathered with his new wife. At the same time, his wife's two
children from her former marriage are currently living with him, and by virtue
of their presence in the household (at his dinner table, etc.) he finds himself
supporting them as well. While he is not legally obligated to support his
wife's children if he has not legally adopted them--and let us suppose that
neither he nor the children's natural father wants that adoption to take
place--in practical terms, he inevitably contributes to their support because
they are members of his new household. The situation is further complicated by
the fact that his new wife's ex-husband has also remarried and started a new
family, and has not been paying her court-ordered child support. Our man feels
the law should either relieve him of his financial obligation to support his
own two children by his ex-wife (who are now living in another man's household)
or force his present wife's ex-husband to pay his support obligations. He is
disconcerted to learn that there are no legal guidelines to allocate and
apportion support responsibilities among several families.373
Which is to say, because he is a male the legal system cannot be bothered
about his right]
This man is perpetuating the ills feminism was created to end, by keeping
these three women from growing up and standing on their own feet "without
sexual privilege or excuse," with "self-respect, courage, strength," with
"spirit, courage, independence determination...strength of character,"
"assuming true equality with men," "learning to stand alone," "launch[ing]
forth, as men do, amid real, independent stormy life' doing "the work [they]
are capable of, [which] is the mark of maturity," accepting the hard but
necessary truth that "freedom is a frightening thing...frightening to grow up
finally and be free of passive dependence."[374
Here is another of Dr. Weitzman's cases:
On the other hand, consider how the present system may provide a windfall for
a second spouse while unjustly depriving the first. At age 58, a corporate
vice president falls in love with his secretary and decides to divorce his wife
of 34 years. (The two children of this marriage already have families of their
own.) Aside from a substantial home the major assets of this marriage are in
the husband's career, in generous company benefits (including full medical,
hospital and life insurance and an excellent retirement program) and executive
perks (a luxurious car, a large expense account, investment options and
extensive travel at company expense). His secretary, who is 28 at the time of
the marriage, has two young children whom the executive agrees to adopt. If,
let us say, the executive has a heart attack the following year and dies
suddenly, in most states, a third to a half of his estate would go to his new
wife, with the remainder divided among the four children (two from his last
marriage and his new wife's two children). His first wife will receive
nothing--neither survivors' insurance nor a survivor's pension nor a share of
the estate--and both she and his natural children are likely to feel that they
have been treated unjustly. A legal rule that would allow some weighted
apportionment between the two wives would seem more just.375
Such a rule would defeat the whole purpose of feminism and reinstate the
"patriarchal image of woman as dependent on man"-
-
the idea that a woman "needs a man to support her." It would deny to women
the privilege of standing on their own feet "without sexual privilege or
excuse," "with self-respect, courage, strength," et cetera. It would turn the
clock of feminist progress back a quarter of a century and revert to the ills
of the old system--with the principal difference that patriarchal marriage,
which formerly gave wives security, has now become so de-stabilized that the
security no longer exists. The original feminist complaint was that "society
asks so little of women."376 The new demand is that an ex-wife should retain
her free ride]
Dr. Weitzman sees no social value in the executive adopting his second wife's two children. In discussions of divorce, it is common to hear much about "the best interests of the children"; but such concern for children gets expressed only when the children are attached to Mom--when it is the rights or advantages of a man, not those of a woman, which a court or a lawmaker wants a pretext to ignore. Why shouldn't the man who earns the money and the perks be permitted to be magnanimous with them for the purpose of benefiting his second wife's children? For what better purpose could his money be spent? Dr. Weitzman would like to imply that the money and perks are not really earned by the man but accrue to him by virtue of his ex-wife's previous ministrations or are created out of nothing by lawmakers, lawyers and divorce court judges, whose generosity is generosity with the money of someone else, always male.
In this case, the best interests of the children are very well served by this wealthy gentleman--and also by the good sense of the young secretary who invests her assets--including her youth and attractiveness--in a new marriage, thereby becoming "assets of a marriage" in the fullest sense of the word, assets promoting the welfare of her husband, her children and herself. If the first wife has lost similar assets, this is principally the consequence of the weakening of the institution of marriage, a weakening, let it be remembered, which it has been one of the chief objects of feminists to bring about. Much is written in feminist literature about the predicament of divorced women, but nowhere in that literature is there expressed a wish to help women avoid this predicament in the only way most of them can be helped--by strengthening the contract of marriage. Dr. Weitzman would like to transfer some of the man's assets to the first wife; but her proposal (strengthening divorce as an alternative to marriage) would have the effect of further weakening all marriages and creating more cases like that of the first wife for whom she is concerned. (She loads the case by making the executive wealthy. Her principle, once established, would be applied to wealthy and non-wealthy alike, with the consequence that few divorced men could afford to re-marry--or would be worth re-marrying.)
Dr. Weitzman describes the scenario as a "windfall" for the second wife, the word suggesting that her marriage to a wealthy man is the result of chance, while the loss of this wealth to the first wife is "unjust." Chance had no place in the decision of either the second wife or the man. The plea that the first wife is unjustly treated has a justification only on the supposition that she had a right to expect marriage to be a stable institution. Neither Dr. Weitzman nor any other feminist desires the stabilization of marriage. What they do desire is for the benefits of marriage to be replaced by comparable benefits from divorce--in the present case by giving the first wife, who has withdrawn her services from the marriage, an unearned windfall at the expense of the ex-husband and his second wife, who perform valuable services for each other and who are therefore the ones entitled to enjoy the assets of the only marriage which exists, their own.
Dr. Weitzman's proposals for transferring the earnings and pensions and bank accounts and insurance programs and real estate and annuities and stocks and bonds of ex-husbands to ex-wives would lead men to take all sorts of socially undesirable self-defensive measures--squirreling money into coffee cans, renting rather than buying a home, opening a secret bank account in the Cayman Islands, reducing or liquefying attachable assets, minimizing take-home pay--so that the wife would have fewer incentives for divorce. The possession of assets such as these formerly promoted marital and social stability. Dr. Weitzman, by offering them, or a moiety of them, as rewards to divorcing wives, is making them into de-stabilizers of marriage--in effect de-motivating men from creating the wealth she covets. A husband who creates such wealth and acquires such assets under the threat Dr. Weitzman is holding over his head is simply buying insecurity for himself.
Dr. Weitzman makes much of the fact that a middle-aged divorced woman is economically disadvantaged. Her greatest economic disadvantage by far is the burden of child custody, which should indeed be taken from her and placed upon the father, for everyone's benefit, especially the children's. With this burden removed she might still claim to be disadvantaged in the sense that she has less work experience and fewer vocational skills and will accordingly probably earn less than the ex-husband. But her needs are less than his, especially if he has custody of the children. She is not going to have a second family, as he may have--and as wise social policy might well encourage him to have. She has only herself to provide for. Affluence will not make her more attractive to most prospective second husbands: a man contemplating marriage with a woman cares very little how much money she has. A woman contemplating marriage with a man is primarily concerned with his ability to provide for her.[377 In particular, a middle-aged ex-husband will need an attractive bank account and stock portfolio if he hopes to be taken seriously by a prospective second wife, for without these she would prefer a younger man. He may need to finance the rearing and college education of children yet unborn--and society might well encourage him to do so, for there are few more socially useful ways for him to spend his money. A second family would enhance his motivations, his wealth-creation, and his social stability in a way that subsidizing an ex-wife would never do. Dr. Weitzman, by creating "rules that require (rather than allow) judges to redistribute the husband's post-divorce income with the goal of equalizing the standards of living in the two households,"378 would penalize the man and his second wife and their children and society itself by making the man into an under-motivated, rather than a highly motivated, worker in order to provide a free ride for the woman whom Betty Friedan, in ]The Feminine Mystique, sought to salvage from a life of meaningless parasitism.
Dr. Weitzman perceives the family in terms of what Vance Packard calls "the Peripheral-Husband Marriage":
[H]e is a bystander. He is economically useful but stands outside the basic
family unit as perceived by his wife. This basic unit consists of herself,
her children, and her home."[379
The problem of the feminist movement, as Dr. Weitzman articulates it, is to
use the Motherhood Card and the Mutilated Beggar argument to get that
peripheral male out of the home without losing his paycheck. The problem of
patriarchal society and of the men's rights movement is to ensure that this
separation of a man from his paycheck and his family does not occur.
Dr. Weitzman's concern is with the economics of d]
But important as the economic argument for father custody is, it is less important than the greater likelihood of delinquency imposed on the children by mother custody, a fact alluded to earlier. A recent study of 25,000 incarcerated juveniles made by the Bureau of Justice Statistics indicates that 72 percent of them came from broken homes (read: mostly female-headed homes). 74 percent of the nation's children live with two parents, 26 percent with one parent (read: Mom). In other words, 74 percent, coming from intact homes, produce only 28 percent of the juvenile crime; 26 percent, coming from mostly female-headed homes, produce a staggering 72 percent of the crime. The ratios of delinquency probability in the two groups can thus be stated numerically by dividing the size of the group by the proportion of the delinquency it generates. 72 divided by 26 for the female headed group gives 2.76; 28 divided by 74 for the intact group gives .378. The ratio of the delinquency generated by the two groups is thus 2.76 divided by .378, or 7.3. If the findings of this study are to be trusted a child growing up in a single-parent home (usually female-headed) is seven times as likely to be delinquent.380
The delinquency may be greater than the statistic suggests. According
to the Los Angeles Times, "Researchers found that many of the young
adult offenders had criminal histories that were just as extensive as those of
adults in state prisons."[381 In other words,
when the careers of these youngsters have become as long as the careers of
older criminals, they will have committed far more crimes.382
IX
]
For years IBM has run a magazine ad showing two pairs of colored infant booties, pink and blue, with the question "GUESS WHICH ONE WILL GROW UP TO BE THE ENGINEER." Underneath there is this:
As things stand now, it doesn't take much of a guess.
Because by and large, he is encouraged to excel in math and science. She isn't.
Whatever the reason for this discrepancy, the cost to society is enormous because it affects women's career choices and limits the contributions they might make.
Only 4% of all engineers are women.
Only 13.6% of all math and science Ph.D.'s are women.
An encouraging, but still low, 26% of all computer professionals are women.
In the past ten years, IBM has supported more than 90 programs designed to strengthen women's skills in these and other areas. This support includes small grants for pre-college programs in engineering, major grants for science programs at leading women's colleges, and grants for doctoral fellowships in physics, computer science, mathematics, chemistry, engineering, and materials science.
We intend to continue supporting programs like these.
Because we all have a lot to gain with men and women on equal footing.
IBM
What IBM thinks of as the promotion of equality is better understood as the undermining of hypergamy, one of the pillars of the patriarchal system. Hypergamy, or the "marriage gradient," means that women "marry up," men "marry down." A cinder girl may hope to marry Prince Charming, but a chimney sweep cannot hope to marry Princess Charming. A male doctor might well marry a female nurse, but a female doctor would hardly consider marrying a male nurse. The female nurse may be underpaid, but in the marriage market her prospects are better than those of the female doctor because there are more desirable males she can hope to "marry up" to.
The social implications of the IBM program may be suggested by asking some other questions concerning the possessors of the blue and pink booties:
GUESS WHICH ONE IS TWENTY-FOUR TIMES MORE LIKELY TO END UP IN JAIL.
GUESS WHICH ONE IS MORE LIKELY TO END UP ON SKID ROW.
GUESS WHICH ONE IS MORE LIKELY TO COMMIT SUICIDE.
GUESS WHICH ONE IS MORE LIKELY TO EXPERIENCE A CRIPPLING ACCIDENT, TO BECOME AN ALCOHOLIC, A DRUG-ADDICT.
IBM's question implies that society's arrangements tilt in favor of males. The fact is that society's arrangements produce more male winners and more male losers. One principal reason for the success of the male winners is the knowledge that they might well be losers: they must earn their success and are motivated to earn it partly by the greater risk of failure. IBM proposes to intervene in society's arrangements to confer benefits on females which will increase the number of female winners without increasing the number of female losers. What will increase is the number of male losers, since the male engineers will be competing not only with each other but with females enjoying a conferred advantage denied to males. Another question:
WHICH ONE WILL BE PRIVILEGED TO ATTAIN STATUS BY MARRIAGE AND WHICH ONE WILL HAVE TO EARN IT FOR HIMSELF/HERSELF BY WORK AND SELF-DISCIPLINE?
With IBM interfering with "market forces" this question might have to be re-worded: "attain status by marriage or by IBM's largess." As IBM offers women more status, marriage has less to offer them--men have less to offer them. Men's marriageability is decreased because they have relatively less to offer women; women's marriageability is decreased because they have fewer men to "marry up" to. As IBM transfers status from those more dependent on work and self-discipline to those less dependent on work and self-discipline, men will become less motivated, since the rewards for work and self-discipline are reduced. The effect, though at a higher level of income, will be what is observable in the ghetto, where women enjoying the handouts of the welfare bureaucracy and become economically and status-wise independent of men, with the consequence that large numbers of men become de-motivated and less marriageable.
Two more questions:
WHICH ONE IS MORE LIKELY TO DIVORCE HIS/HER SPOUSE?
WHICH ONE WILL HAVE HIS/HER LIKELIHOOD OF DIVORCE INCREASED BY A FACTOR OF FIVE IF HE/SHE IS EDUCATED AND ECONOMICALLY INDEPENDENT?
The consequences of IBM's favors to females can be found on page 42 of Nickles and Ashcraft's The Coming Matriarchy:
[Those women] who work prefer smaller families, and fewer children means more
time to devote to personal and nondomestic interests. Our survey revealed that
the working woman not only prefers a smaller family but, in fact, fewer have
children. Only 61 percent of the working women we surveyed had children,
compared with 85 percent of the nonworking women....Our survey also showed that
working women have less successful marriages....[A] woman who works was five
times as likely to have a disrupted marriage as one who did not
work....[W]orking wives are more than twice as likely as housewives to have had
affairs by the time they reach their late thirties....Researchers have found
that the longer a wife is employed, the more both partners think about
divorce--an increase of one percentage point for each year of her employment.
Things get worse as she earns more money. Vassar economist Shirley Johnson
calculated that every $1,000 increase in a wife's earnings increases her chance
for divorce by 2 percent....These working women, who earn $20,000-plus, are the
most likely of all women to be separated or divorced.[383
According to research by three Yale sociologists, "women wed to less-educated
or younger men had marital dissolution rates at least 50% greater than those
marrying similarly educated or older men. Better-educated husbands brought no
increased risk to the marriage....384
Writing of high-achieving executive women, Edith Gils]
When we turn to our women's private lives, we see more reasons for distress. Surely, some of their career frustrations could be offset by the emotional support of husbands and children...but for a startling number of the women, marriage and children are comforts they live without. According to this study, the odds that an executive woman will never marry are four times greater than for the average American woman. Only 5 percent of most women age thirty and up have never wed (the 1985 Census), whereas 21 percent of our executive women have never been brides.
Even if our women do marry, the probability of their divorcing is twice as great as the norm. Thirty percent are currently divorced, and another 10 percent are on second or third marriages. Forty percent of all our women have therefore been divorced- -compared with just 20 percent of most women in their same age range.
The differences between our women and their male peers are even more striking. Less than half (48 percent) of our women are currently married- -compared with a whopping 96 percent of executive men....What's more, just 11 percent of the men have been divorced, compared with nearly four times as many of our women.
Many of the women I interviewed felt that men couldn't handle being married
to women as or more successful then they. "Here we've gone and sweat blood to
become independent, to become women the men can have intelligent conversations
with-
-and
they don't want us!" lamented Laura, the pretty magazine editor.[385
A man's friends would never congratulate him for "marrying up." They would
make jokes about his eligibility for membership in the Dennis Thatcher Society,
an organization "honoring" the husband of the British Prime Minister. On the
other hand, one of the most damning things a woman's friends can say of her
(behind her back, naturally) is "Margaret married beneath herself."
Let's project IBM's program into the future. Let's suppose the wearers of the
blue and pink booties grow up and both become engineers. Then:
WHICH ENGINEER IS MORE LIKELY TO BE CHILDLESS?
IF BOTH MARRY, WHICH IS LIKELY TO HAVE MORE CHILDREN WHO WILL BENEFIT FROM
HIS/HER SUPERIOR EDUCATION?
Virginia ]
Even for the "superperformers" [the most successful professional
women]...marriage still led to diminished success, resentment, and a
distracting tension in their personal lives. In contrast, men at this time
found marriage had numerous advantages in their climb up the professional
hierarchy....[386
Ergo, society has a greater interest in encouraging and furthering the
education of males. Educating a boy enables him to have and to support a
family, to give children an advantage in life, to transmit family values and
strengthen the patriarchy, to create social stability. Educating a girl
enables her to escape marriage, or if she marries, to escape childbearing or to
have a smaller family. Education, which increases her independence, will
enable her more easily to expel her husband and inflict upon her offspring
(whose custody is virtually guaranteed her) the disadvantages accompanying
fatherlessness. Feminists see these options as desirable, but why should IBM
or the rest of us see them as desirable?
Hypergamy worked the same way four thousand years ago. Feminist Dr. Elise
Boul]
What I have been describing is certainly not "equality" for women. Military
action became increasingly important throughout the second millennium, and each
new arms levy, each new conscription of soldiers, and each new round of booty
brought home from a successful war, would enhance the power differential
between women and men of the elite. The women's access to the new resources
was far more limited than that of men. Power was shared, but not shared
equally.[387
Not shared equally-
-meaning
that the women didn't share equally with the ]
Feminist-economist Dr. Barbara Bergmann offers a little paradigm-story about Pink People and Blue People earning their living by picking berries on an island. Like women and men in our own society the Pinks and Blues have sex-segregated occupations. Dr. Bergmann thus illustrates "the crucial point":
If a group is segregated and furthermore is crowded into a relatively narrow
segment of labor-market turf, its members will as a result be less productive,
and their economic rewards will be lower.[388
(It is a sufficient refutation of this to point out that Senators are a
segregated group occupying a narrow segment of the labor-market turf, but they
do not suffer from low economic rewards.)
She continues:
The line of argument will be made clearer if we resort to a simplified
example. Consider an island inhabited by the two tribes of people, the Pinks
and the Blues, both of whom make their living gathering berries....If all
gatherers were allowed to range over the whole island, individual gatherers'
yields would vary with their talent, energy, and luck. Given our assumption
that the two tribes have equal average talents, the average yield per gatherer
would be the same in both tribes.
However, suppose the island's territory was partitioned between the tribes,
so that gatherers were allowed to pick berries only in the territory assigned
to their tribe. Were each tribe assigned a share of the territory about
proportional to its size, and of equal average quality per acre, then again the
yield per gatherer in the two tribes should be about the same. However,
suppose the Blue tribe were to be assigned exclusive possession or a
disproportionately large share of territory. In that case, the work of members
of the Blue tribe would on average bring in a greater yield than the work of
members of the Pink tribe. If the land the Blue tribe got was higher in
quality than the Pink's, the Pink tribe's disadvantage would be greater
still.
Dr. Bergmann's Blues like to imagine they don't discriminate against the
Pinks:
The way things are arranged on our mythical island, no one says to a Pink
worker, "Because you are a Pink, we will see to it that you get less than a
Blue." The mechanism that arranges for Pinks to get less is a set of rules
about who may work where. As long as everyone follows the rules and all hands
keep to their place, the Pinks will average less production per person than the
Blues and will take home less "pay" for their efforts.
The restriction of the Pinks to a relatively small territory reduces the
efficiency of labor on the island as a whole. The total number of berries
picked on the island would rise were the territorial restrictions on the Pinks
to be relaxed. If some Pinks were allowed into the Blues' territory, it would
relieve the overcrowding in the Pinks' part of the island.
The assumption is that there is a labor shortage--one in high status
occupations--never an unemployment problem.
If a boatload of social scientists were to visit the island portrayed in our
example, they might hear from theoreticians belonging to the Blue tribe that
its success was a sign of innately superior talent and greater attention to
business. They might also hear that all Pinks voluntarily restricted
themselves to their own territory. If, however, these social scientists
observed the segregation of the two tribes, the relative devices used to keep
Pinks from infiltrating Blue territory, they might very well conclude that the
inequality of rewards was connected to the exclusion of Pinks from the Blues'
territory.
What they would notice, if the Blues and Pinks resembled men and women, is the
greater aggression and motivation of the Blues --and that the island society
had organized itself to utilize this greater aggression and motivation. Dr.
Bergmann alludes to African societies which fail to do this:
There are certain societies in Africa where women do all of the heavy
agricultural work, all of the business dealings, and all of the work of family
care. The men are at leisure full time. In such a society, presumably no
tasks are unsuitable for women. The designation of some jobs as unsuitable for
women in any particular society is a matter of social convention rather than a
reflection of women's inherent disabilities or inborn dislikes for certain
kinds of work. People's ideas about suitability can and do change when the
economy changes.389
The problem is the waste of ]
If men cannot outperform women they will not perform at all, and society will
be lucky if male energies are merely wasted in narcissistic display rather than
in disruptive violence and machismo. A man with nothing to offer a woman save
a paycheck the size of her own is impossibly disadvantaged. He will know, and
his wife will know that he knows, that the words "I don't need you, Mister" are
always at her disposal and, thanks to the anti-male bias of the divorce court,
she has an authority in the family greater than his own.
Patriarchal capitalism prospers because it creates an arena of work wherein
males are allowed to succeed and create wealth and where they are
]
The key idea of the alternative matriarchal/feminist system is thus stated by Faye Wattleton, President of Planned Parenthood:
Together we can work to achieve the most important goal of Planned
Parenthood--to give all people the right and the ability to decide for
themselves whether and when to bear children.[391
All ]
I believe that no woman, black or white, rich or poor, can ever truly be free without the right to control her own reproductive life. [Emphasis added]
Ms. Wattleton's pitch for "reproductive rights" and Dr. Bergmann's pitch for taking better jobs away from men to confer them on women come to the same thing: men are excluded from meaningful participation in reproduction. Men become superfluous members of families. The basis of civilized society is that men shall share equally in reproductive decision-making, and shall earn the right to do so by working. The program of feminism is to deny men this right by undermining the sexual constitution, the Legitimacy Principle, marriage and the family. When they talk about women's reproductive rights and about making women economically independent of men, this is what they mean.
X
OUR PAYCHECKS, OUR SELVES :
WHY FATHERS MUST DEMAND CUSTODY
Short of total annihilation, there can be no more fundamental change in a society than the one taking place in ours, a change which has no name and whose nature is unrecognized because its separate facets- -crime, delinquency, drugs, sexual anarchy, educational underachievement, family breakdown, feminism- -are perceived as separate problems, or as not problems at all, but progress. The essence of the change is the abandonment of the system of social organization based on male kinship and the reversion to the older system of social organization based on female kinship. The statistics which measure this change inch upward only one or two percentage points a year, but viewed historically it is happening with electrifying speed.
What makes it possible is the sexual de-regulation of women, with (in the words of feminist Helen Colton) "no man, be it husband or physician, telling [a woman] what she may or may not do with her own body."[392 The idea strikes at the basis of the patriarchal system, which requires that males shall share equally in reproductive responsibility. Patriarch]y achieves this sharing by imposing the system of agnation, kinship through males, in place of kinship through females such as is found in the ghettos, the islands of the Caribbean and surviving Stone Age societies.
What men must do to salvage the male kinship system is to safeguard the male paycheck- -to prevent anyone, ex-wife, house-male judge or house-male lawmaker, from telling him what he may or may not do with that paycheck, and that if he enters into a contract of marriage to share that paycheck with a wife in exchange for her sharing of her reproductive life with him, this contract shall not be abrogated for the purpose of depriving him of his children and his paycheck.
Early Roman society was divided into the plebeians, meaning "the people" (the base of the word survives in plebiscite, a vote of the people), and the patricians, the "father-people" (from patri, father), a term which can have come into existence only in a society where mother-kinship was normative and the idea of kinship based on fatherhood was an innovation. The success of the innovation made Roman government, law and civilization possible. The patricians were wealthier, more stable; and in time the plebeians saw the advantages of father-kinship, which became the norm for all of Roman society. Learning how to govern their families on patriarchal principles made the Romans capable of governing the world.
The social structure based on mother-kinship is found in relatively pure
form in Haiti-
-the
most impoverished, most squalid, most matriarchal nation in the Western
Hemisphere.[393 Haitian women enjoy the sexual
liberation Ms. Colton covets for American women: the typical Haitian woman has
children by three different fathers, none of whom, needless to say, has a
family in any meaningful sense of the word,394 none of whom, needless to say,
can be motivated to work very hard.
P]
As indicated in Chapter I, the wrecking of the patriarchal system is obscured by two facts: the generation-long time-lag between cause and effect and the sex-switch between generations. Let's illustrate. In 1980 crime increased by a startling 17 percent. Los Angeles Police Chief Daryl Gates was flabbergasted; nothing in the economy, he said, could explain it. What did explain it was the huge increase in divorce and illegitimacy in the mid-1960s. Back then nobody paid much attention. The children from the newly created female-headed families didn't walk out of the divorce courtroom and start committing crimes. But by the early 1980s the fatherless kids were entering the crime-prone years, 14-24, and the skies were darkening with clouds of chickens coming home to roost.
Nothing has been done to lessen crime since then because nothing has been done to prevent the family breakdown and illegitimacy which underlie it: men are excluded from responsible participation in reproduction more effectively than ever. The number of incarcerated prisoners is today almost double what it was in 1980. The prisoners are nearly all male, a fact dwelt upon lingeringly in feminist literature, which likes to contrast the dangerous violence of the male with the harmless gentleness of the female. Feminist literature passes silently over the fact that three-quarters of the male prisoners are the products of female-headed households.
The necessity of regulating female sexuality in order to create the stable families which ensure male participation in reproduction was the discovery made by our wise ancestors who created the patriarchal system several thousand years ago- -following the million year prehistorical coma of the Stone Age, during which society was matrilineal- -built on female kinship (and female promiscuity), the arrangement to which we are now reverting.
Dr. Gerda Lerner has been quoted in Chapter III, describing the means
employed to impose the patriarchal system in the times of Hammurabi (18th
century B.C.). Under Hammurabi's law code, "the wife enjoyed considerable and
specified rights in marriage" but was sexually her husband's "property."[395 She was sexually regulated by the Babylonian
state, which understood, as our society does not, the necessity for such
regulation.
]
Betty Friedan's 1963 book The Feminine Mystique told American
housewives that the "considerable rights" they obtained through marriage were
an overpayment for the trifling services they performed: "Society asks so
little of women....It was not that too much was asked of them but too
little."[396 Ms. Friedan had no understanding
of the pivotal fact that the "little" asked of women was primarily not
housework but acceptance of sexual regulation. The male's reproductive
marginality forced him to offer the female the extremely one-sided bargain upon
which Ms. Friedan poured her scorn. The benefits of this bargain are being
lost to men because women will not keep the marriage contract and the courts
will not enforce it. They are being largely lost to women by their insistence
on sexual autonomy and their consequent withdrawal of sexual loyalty from the
nuclear family, which then ceases to provide what Ms. Friedan deemed a free
ride for women. With that withdrawal women can no longer offer men what men
must have if they are to participate responsibly in reproduction.
From the feminists' point of view subsidization by an ex-husband is as good as
subsidization by a husband; but from the man's point of view the difference is
total. The husband who works to support his family works to secure his own
role and to stabilize the civilization made possible by patriarchy. When he
works to subsidize his ex-wife he is undermining the institution of the family
and the patriarchy of which his ex-family was once a part-
-working
(under compulsion of the legal system) to wreck civilized society rather than
stabilize it. He is an unwitting and unwilling (but helpless) recruit in the
war]
Betty Friedan has suggested that the feminist movement is a new biological
breakthrough, "the next step in human evolution"[397:
Lately, I've been thinking that the ultimate implications of the women's
movement are more profound than we dare realize.398
I think [the family] is just evolving to new forms. Otherwise, like the
dinosaur, it would become extinct.399
...these phenomena of changing sex roles of both men and women are a massive,
evolutionary development....400
Evolution itself...seems to be moving in what might be called a "feminine"
direction.401
The feminist/sexual revolution is not a breakthrough but a throwback. The
breakthrough was the creation of patriarchy a few thousand years ago, since
when the primary business of society has been to maintain patriarchy by
stabilizing the male role within the family, a role now being undermined by the
enforced subsidization of ex-wives by ex-husbands-
-the
enforced subsidizing of matriliny with money formerly (and properly) used to
support patriarchy.
Feminists protest against the double standard required by the regulation of
female sexuality. The double standard]
(Men accept a double work standard, requiring them to be more dependable, more committed to their jobs, willing to accept more arduous and dangerous labor and to exercise more self-discipline- -the things which account for their earning more than women in the job market.)
A man who wants a woman to marry him would get nowhere by telling her, "If you will marry me, I will guarantee that you will be the mother of your children." He is offering her nothing, since it is impossible that she should not be the mother of her own children. A woman who wants a man to marry her would be talking sense if she said to him, "If you will marry me, I will guarantee that you will be the father of my children"- -talking sense, though her personal guarantee is insufficient, because women notoriously change their minds, because the Promiscuity Principle claims for women the right to renege on their promise of sexual loyalty, and because the legal system supports this right. In the words of Mary Ann Glendon, the duty of an exiled ex-husband "to provide for the needs of [his] minor children [in Mom's custody]...is so important that it cannot be excluded by contract."[402 In other words, the woman's promise is worthless and the law will grant the man no rights under the contract of marriage. A century ago John Stuart ]Mill wrote "They are by law his children." Today they are by law hers and the man can do nothing about it- -and nothing to protect the paycheck which he earns and she claims by a biological right which "cannot be excluded by contract." If men consent to this spoilation, the patriarchal system is doomed. The only salvation is to get the legal system to understand that it must support the man's right to have a family and deny the woman's right to wreck it at her pleasure. In other words, it must regulate female sexuality- -or rather allow the father to regulate it by allowing him control over his own paycheck, a control not subject to revocation by a divorce court.
This hated double standard places a burden on women but rewards them lavishly
for accepting it. It gives them the bargaining power which makes men willing
to raise their standard of living by an estimated 73 percent.[403 Female sexual autonomy forfeits this
bargaining power; legal regulation of women (enforced by a guarantee of
father-custody in divorce) maintains it. Feminist books are written about the
unwillingness of men to "make a commi]tment" to support women and about the
unmarriageability of educated and economically independent women, those with
the highest divorce rate. These women would be beneficiaries of sexual
regulation, which would make them non-threatening to men and therefore
marriageable. Their superior education and talents-
-often
combined with superior personal attractiveness-
-would
become assets to themselves, to their families and to society if there existed
an assurance that these assets did not act, as they now commonly do, as
incentives to divorce.[404
Would it not be fairer to regulate both male and female sexuality with equal
strictness? No; male sexuality isn't important enough. If ninety percent of
male sexuality were regulated the unregulated ten percent would create as much
sexual confusion and illegitimacy as the ninety percent-
-if
females were unregulated. The regulation of ninety percent of female sexuality
would, on the contrary, prevent ninety percent of sexual confusion and
illegitimacy, and that is why society must insist on the double standard, which
both stabilizes society and gives women greater bargaining power because it
makes them more valuable to their families and to society. The woman's
chastity gives the man assurance of a family; the man's motivation, created by
his assurance of a secure role within this family, gives the woman a higher
standard of living. This is the complementariness which makes patriarchal
civilization possible. The arrangement is now being destroyed by the removal
of the man's assurance of a secure role within his family.
The feminist/sexual revolution and the betrayal of the family by the legal
system are the two chief cau]
Small wonder feminists and sexual anarchists celebrate the demise of the family and the restoration of matriliny and promiscuity.
They inform us that the word "family" refers to many different groupings, of
which the nuclear, patriarchal family is merely one, not the best. Mary Jo
Bane writes what is intended to be a reassuring book arguing that "American
families are here to stay....Americans seem deeply committed to the notion that
families are the best places to raise children." But her reassurance is based
on the fact that "the proportion of children living with at least one
parent" has not declined.[406 Ms. Bane has
no comprehension of what is taking place: it is the one-parent (read:
female-headed) family that is destroying the real family and reinstating
matriliny.
The Hirschensohn case]
The existing law states that the woman's husband must be presumed to be the
child's father, a legal rule-of-thumb intended to strengthen families and avoid
custody battles. Hirschensohn's lawyer, Joel Aaronson, says the legal rule is
old fashioned and outdated and fails to take into account recent changes in the
American family.[407
What Hirschensohn is demanding is the right to proclaim his daughter a
bastard, the right to confuse her concerning her social and family identity,
the right to advertise to Gerald D.'s relatives and neighbors and the public
that Gerald D. is a cuckold and his wife an adulteress, the right, based upon
his status as an adulterer, to perpetually intrude himself into Gerald D.'s
household for purposes of visitation, to embarrass and humiliate and weaken the
family bonds between Gerald D. and his wife and daughter, the right to deny to
Gerald D. ]
Hirschensohn says he is only asking to be treated like a divorced father, which is to say he is only asking the courts to declare that marriage confers no rights on husbands. He says that the current law, holding Victoria to be legitimate, fails to take into account "recent changes in the American family." The recent changes referred to are those which replace the Legitimacy Principle by the Promiscuity Principle, and its corollary, the denial to men of any right to procreate and possess legitimate children under the contract of marriage.
That the Supreme Court would even consent to hear such a claim is a dereliction on the part of the profession whose responsibility ought to be the safeguarding of the family but which has instead become the principal agent of the family's destruction.
According to Michael L. Oddenino of the National Council for Children's
Rights, Inc., who supports Hirschensohn, "modern society has essentially
redefined our notion of the family unit."[408
Indeed it has, and that is why we have a Garbage Generation.
Hirschensohn and Carole D. are offenders against sexual law-and-order who have
brought suffering to Gerald D. and Victoria (and, of course themselves) and
have worked to undermine the institution of marriage and the stability of
society. But the worst villains are the practitioners of the legal system and
the propagandists of the feminist/sexual revolution and its Promiscuity
Principle. The Promiscuity Principle assured Carole D. that she alone was
entitled to make decisions concerning her reproductive activity; and her
believing this, combined with the Supreme Court's willingness to consider the
claimed right of an adulterer to perpetually intrude himself into the privacy
of another man's family, have already worked to weaken Victoria's perception of
her social and familial identity-
-her
legitimacy. The patriarchal system and the Legitimacy Principle would have
given the girl reassurance concerning these things by maintaining the
fatherhood of the man whom she called father, who functioned as her father, who
was the husband of her mother and who provided for the family of which Victoria
was a member-
-Gerald
D.
No more. "Modern society has essentially redefined out notion of the family
unit"; "A woman has a sacred right to control her own sexuality"; and "There is
no such thing as an illegitimate child." If Victoria spends her life thinking
otherwise, thinking that there are illegitimate children and that she is one of
them, she can thank the unchastity of her mother, the chutzpah of Hirschensohn
and the weakness and lack of cognitive skill of the justices of the Supreme
Court in making it a matter of controversy whether the rights conferred upon
Gerald D. by marriage and the Legitimacy Principle are as meaningful and
socially desirable as the rights conferred upon Carole D. by the Promiscuity
Principle and the rights conferred upon Hirschensohn by adultery.
"Divorce," says Bishop John S]
"In non-industrial societies," says the homosexual agitator Arthur
Evan]
"The property which every man has in his own labor," says Adam Smith,
as it is the original foundation of all other property, so it is the most
sacred and inviolable. The patrimony of a poor man lies in the strength and
dexterity of his hands; and to hinder him from employing this strength and
dexterity in what manner he thinks proper without injury to his
neighbor, is a plain violation of this most sacred property.[416
The extortion of child support money from ex-husbands constitutes "a plain
violation of this most sacred property" and men ought to resist it.
As indicated at the end of Chapter VI, many wives couldn't afford to throw
their breadwinners out if the displaced breadwinners didn't pay them to do so.
A father who sends his ex-wife child support money is subsidizing the
destruction of his own family, perpetuating the system of
child-support-extortion which has wrecked tens of millions of other men's
families, and paying to have his children placed in a female-headed household
where they are several times more likely to be impoverished and delinquent and
demoralized and neurotic and underachieving and sickly and sexually confused
and drug-addicted.417
The father's paycheck]
This forced labor for the benefit of another person-
-which
differs in no essential and no particular from slavery421-
-is
illegal but judges impose it anyway because they figure the American male is so
docile he will submit, and because it is what he has always done in the past
and what all other judges do-
-like
mindless caterpillars following one another around the rim of a saucer, each
supposing he is doing the right thing because he is doing what the others do,
what he has always done in the past. They cannot see that the rise in the
divorce rate]
The present divorce debacle is created by combining the Sanctity-of-Motherhood principle with the Mutilated Beggar principle. In the typical case Mom divorces Dad knowing that the court will assign custody on the Sanctity-of-Motherhood principle, allowing her to drag the kids into risk of poverty and delinquency and exploit their predicament to extort money from Dad. "It is already established," writes Mary Ann Glendon,
that there is a legal duty to provide for the needs of one's minor children,
that this duty must be shared fairly between both parents, and that the duty is
so important that it cannot be excluded by contract. What has to be made more
specific and forceful is that in divorces of couples with minor children, this
duty must be given the foremost consideration.[422
In other words, the marriage contract confers no rights on fathers, only
obligations. Mom plays the Motherhood Card]
Dr. Glendon intends that, even without the Mutilated Beggars, Mom should be
rewarded by Dad "to compensate, so far as possible, for the disparity which the
disruption of the marriage creates in the conditions of their respective
lives."[423 The compensation, says Dr.
Glendon,
depends on the establishment of the fact of a disparity between the situations
of the ex-spouses, and its aim is to enable both of them to live under
approximately equivalent material conditions.424
Why ]
The "disparity" between the man's and the woman's earnings is the principal
reason most woman marry their husbands in the first place.426 Dr. Glendon
would make it an inducement for women to divorce them. She would make the male
earnings which were once (and properly) a means of strengthening marriage into
a means of weakening and destroying it. If the woman can simply take the man's
money, the man cannot ]
The willingness of ex-husbands to pay child support money to ex-wives is comparable to the willingness of blacks in the South a generation ago to sit in the back of the bus. At the time it seemed natural because everyone did it. When Rosa Parks decided she would no longer submit to this stupid indignity and chose a seat at the front of the bus, segregated seating came to an end. When American men realize not merely the stupidity, but the social destructiveness of subsidizing matriliny, the feminist/sexual revolution will come to an end and patriarchy will be restored.
"Children are entitled to share the standard of living of their higher earning parent," says Dr. Weitzman.[427 Very good; except that Dr. Weitzman has no intention that the children shall share Dad's standard of living unless the ex-wife shares it too. Her sharing is presumed to be just because mother]hood is sacred, partaking of the divine. "Courts know," says one judge,
that mother love is a dominant trait in the hearts of the mother, even in the
weakest of women. It is of Divine Origin, and in nearly all cases, far exceeds
and surpasses the parental affection of the father. Every just man recognizes
the fact that minor children need the constant bestowal of the mother's care
and love.[428
Why this divinely-originating mother-love, when left to itself by the absence
of a father, inflicts upon children the conditions of the ghettos is a paradox
left unaddressed. But it is this divinity-of-motherhood idea that underlies
judges' anti-male bias:
One Idaho court [says Dr. Weitzman] concluded that the preference for the
mother "needs no argument to support it because it arises out of the very
nature and instincts of motherhood: Nature has ordained it." Similarly, a
Florida court declared: "Nature has prepared a mother to bear and rear her
young and to perform many services for them and to give them many attentions
for which the father is not equipped."429
In 1974, the Utah Supreme Court
"brushed aside" a father's equal protection challenge to a maternal preference
custody statute stating that "the contention might have some merit to it in a
proper case ]
A New Jersey judge spoke of "an inexorable natural force" dictating maternal
custody awards. A Maryland judge found
The so-called preference for the mother as the custodian particularly of
younger children is simply a recognition by the law, as well as by the
commonality of man, of ]
We pay these dummies fancy salaries to perform this kind of reasoning, which
lumps together as "young" any offspring, from a neonate, damp from the womb and
groping to suckle from its mother's teat, to a teenage boy capable of
committing crimes of violence (and far more likely to commit them if he has no
father) or a teenage girl capable of breeding illegitimate children (and far
more likely to breed them if she has no father432). The judges focus attention
on the neonate and overlook the fact that neonates grow into teenagers who
don't need Mom's lactating but do need Dad's socializing if they are to become
responsible adults.
"Where the young, after birth, are still dependent on the mother," writes
feminist Charlotte Perkins ]
the functions of the one separate living body needing the service of another separate living body, we have the overlapping of personality, the mutual need, which brings with it the essential instinct that holds together these interacting personalities. That instinct we call love. The child must have the mother's breast. The mother's breast must have the child. Therefore, between mother and child was born love, long before fatherhood was anything more than a momentary incident. But the common consciousness, the mutual attraction between mother and child, stopped there absolutely. It was limited in range to this closest relation; in duration, to the period of infancy.433
Juvenile detention centers[434 are bursting with these "primordial" citizens, thanks to judges' incomprehension of the fact that civilized society needs patriarchal socialization as well as female biology. There is no need for judges to worry about "severing" or "attenuating" Mom's biology. Mom isn't going anywhere- -not if Dad has assured custody of his children and assured possession of his paycheck. She isn't going to give up her kids, her role, her status symbols and her meal tickets. Judges suppose they must support the strongest link in the two-parent family, the mother's role, because it ]is the strongest. They should support the weakest link, the father's role, because it is the weakest. It is by doing this that they support the two-parent family, the patriarchal system and civilization. Lawmakers and judges don't know it but it is for the purpose of stabilizing the two-parent family that patriarchal society and the legal system exist. Mom got along without patriarchal society and the legal system for two hundred million years, but Dad has got to have them, and have them on his side or there will be no two-parent family. The two-parent family isn't "natural." It isn't "biological." It isn't "primordial." It is a cultural creation, artificial, fragile, like civilization itself, both only a few thousand years old. The female-headed family is "natural" and "biological" and "primordial," and that is why it is found in the barnyard and the rain forest and in the ghetto and on Indian reservations and in surviving Stone Age societies. The two-parent family is what makes civilization possible- -and vice versa- -just as the breakdown of the two-parent family is what makes the ghetto possible- -and inevitable. Judges don't understand this and that is why two-parent families are falling apart and why crime and drugs and gangs and illegitimacy are out of control- -why there is a Garbage Generation.
"We seem to be in the process of change back to the single-parent method,"
says feminist Dr. Barbara Bergmann.[435 Right.
This is happening in the ghettos because the welfare system makes male
providers superfluous. It is happening in the larger society because judges
have no understanding of how patriarchy works-
-of
the fact that it must have the support of the legal system which they are
taking away from it. Reversion to the matriliny of the Stone Age is the real
program of the feminist/sexual revolution-
-the
abandoning of the social organization based on male kinship and the return to
the tribal/matrilineal organization based on female kinship.
As feminist anthropologist Helen Fishe]
]
After a half dozen years of futile war in Vietnam, with nothing to show for our expenditure of lives, money, prestige and good will, with the entire world wondering whether America had gone mad, the question was put to Vice President Hubert Humphrey, Why not just acknowledge that we made a mistake--that we should just put our soldiers on board ships and bring them home and forget the stupid war?
The Vice President's reply represents the same political wisdom which prevents the solution of the problem of the Garbage Generation:
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
+ +
+ We must not look for easy solutions. +
+ +
+ --Hubert H. Humphrey + +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
The application to the problem addressed in the present book is this: If mother-headed homes generate most of our crime, delinquency, illegitimacy, educational failure, drug addiction, infantilism, gang violence, sexual confusion and demoralization--as they demonstrably do--why should not our society adopt policies which make fathers heads of families?
ANNEX TO CHAPTER I
CRIME AND DELINQUENCY:
Ramsey Clark, Crime in America (New York: Pocket Books, 1970), p. 39: "In federal youth centers nearly all prisoners were convicted of crimes that occurred after the offender dropped out of high school. Three-fourths came from broken homes."
Ibid. p. 123: "Seventy-five per cent of all federal juvenile offenders come from broken homes."
Margaret Wynn, Fatherless Families: A Study of Families Deprived of a Father by Death, Divorce, Separation or Desertion Before or After Marriage (New York: London and Maxwell, 1964), p. 147: "The loss of a father increases the risk that a child, and particularly a boy, will become a delinquent by a factor of approximately two."
Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique (New York: W. W. Norton, 1963), p. 196: "A famous study in Chicago which had seemed to show more mothers of delinquents were working outside the home, turned out to show only that more delinquents come from broken homes."
Education Reporter, December, l986: "A study by Stanford University's Center for the Study of Youth Development in l985 indicated that children in single-parent families headed by a mother have higher arrest rates, more disciplinary problems in school, and a greater tendency to smoke and run away from home than do their peers who live with both natural parents--no matter what their income, race, or ethnicity."
Starke Hathaway and Elio Monachesi, Adolescent Personality and Behavior (Minneapolis: University of Minnesota Press, 1963), p. 81: "Broken homes do relate to the frequency of delinquency. Further, if a home is broken, a child living with the mother is more likely to be delinquent than one for whom other arrangements are made. In the case of girls, even living with neither parent is less related to higher delinquency than is living with the mother."
Henry B. Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Massachusetts: D. C. Heath and Company, 1971), p. 49: "It is interesting to note that the Gluecks found that both father-absence and mesomorphic physiques were more frequent among delinquents than among nondelinquents [Glueck. S. and Glueck, E., Unravelling Juvenile Delinquency. New York: Commonwealth Fund, l950; Physique and Delinquency, New York: Harper and Row, l956].
Dewey G. Cornell, et al., "Characteristics of Adolescents Charged With Homicide: Review of 72 Cases," Behavioral Sciences and the Law, 5, No. 1 [l987], 11-23; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, March, l988: "In a new study of 72 adolescent murderers and 35 adolescent thieves, researchers from Michigan State University demonstrate that the overwhelming majority of teenage criminals live with only one parent. Fully 75 percent of those charged with homicide had parents who were either divorced or had never been married at all; that number rises to 82 percent of those charged with nonviolent larceny offenses."
Los Angeles Times, l9 September, l988: "In a grim portrait of youthful offenders, a federal study released Sunday indicated that nearly 39% of the l8,226 juveniles in long-term youth correctional institutions were jailed for violent crimes, and that nearly three out of five used drugs regularly....[According to Steven R. Schlesinger, director of the Bureau of Justice Statistics] 'Almost 43% of the juveniles had been arrested more than five times.'...Researchers found that many of the young adult offenders had criminal histories that were just as extensive as those of adults in state prisons. For example, more than half of the young adults surveyed--as well as a comparable sample of state prisoners--were found to be incarcerated for violent offenses....The report also painted a picture of broken homes and poor education: Nearly 72% of the juveniles interviewed said that they had not grown up with both parents, and more than half said that one of their family members had been imprisoned at least once."
Richard M. Smith and James Walters, "Delinquent and Non-Delinquent Males' Perceptions of Their Fathers." Adolescence, 13, 1978, 21-28: "The factors which do distinguish between delinquents and non-delinquents indicate that delinquency is associated with: (a) lack of a warm, loving, supportive relationship with the father; (b) minimal paternal involvement with children; (c) high maternal involvement in the lives of youth; and (d) broken homes. The factors which may serve to insulate youth from delinquency are: (a) a stable, unbroken home, characterized by loving, supportive, parent-child relationships; (b) a father who has a high degree of positive involvement with his son; and (c) a father who provides a stable model for emulation by his male offspring. The evidence reported herein supports that of earlier investigations that fathers appear to be significant contributors to the development of offspring who are capable of adapting and adjusting to society, and that fathers who are involved with their offspring in a warm, friendly, cordial relationship are important in the child's life for the prevention of delinquent behavior."
Los Angeles Times, 3 November, 1985 [Ronald Ward, 15, murderer of two elderly women and a 12 year old child. According to Joseph B. Brown, Jr., Ward's attorney]: "'The hardest thing in this case was that my client's a child and really had no controlling parents. The grandmother who raised him is senile, bless her soul. People oppose abortion and sex education, make no provision to deal with the resulting parentless children, then when these children go ahead and do what can be expected, people want to kill them.'...David Burnett, the circuit judge who presided at the trial, said: 'The tragedy in the Ronald Ward story is he's a victim of a society that allowed him to live in a situation where he had no guidance or control....
"[The senile grandmother's] unmarried daughter, she said, gave her the baby in late 1969, soon after he was born. The daughter 'used to come around once every two years, but then it got to a place where it was only every four or five years.' She hasn't heard from her now in years."
Marilyn Stern, John E. Northman, and Michael R. Van Slyck, "Father Absence and Adolescent 'Problem Behaviors': Alcohol Consumption, Drug Use and Sexual Activity." Adolescence, 19, 1984, 301-312: "The absence of the father from the home affects significantly the behavior of adolescents, and results in greater use of alcohol and marijuana and higher rates of sexual activity. The impact of the father's absence from the home is apparently greater on males than on females. The alcohol and marijuana use and sexual activity rates for father-absent males is greater than for any other group. The data underscore the significance of the father as a key figure in the transmission of values and as a role model in the life of the adolescent. In addition, the father may have a stabilizing influence within the family structure....This suggests that the father's presence may serve as a deterrent to more liberal indulgence in alcohol and marijuana use and sexual activity....Father-absent males reported the highest levels of alcohol and marijuana use the sexual activity. This group of adolescents appears to be particularly at-risk for problems associated with the three areas of alcohol, marijuana and sexual activity."
Rachelle J. Canter, "Family Correlates of Male and Female Delinquency," Criminology, 20, 1982, 149-167: "Consistent with earlier research, youths from broken homes reported significantly more delinquent behavior than youths from intact homes."
Robert K. Ressler, Ann W. Burgess and John E. Douglas, Sexual Homicide: Patterns and Motives (Lexington, Massachusetts: D. C. Heath and Company, 1988), pp. 20f.: "[I]n seventeen cases [out of 36 sexual murders] the biological father left home before the boy reached twelve years. The absence was due to a variety of reasons, such as death or incarceration, but most often the reason was separation and divorce....Given the departure of the father from the family, it is not surprising that the dominant parent to the offender during childhood and adolescence was the mother (for twenty-one cases). Some of the offenders were able to speculate on the meaning this had in their lives, as in the following case:
The breakup of the family started progressing into something I just didn't understand. I always thought families should always be together. I think that was part of the downfall...I said whether I did anything good or bad. They left that totally up to my mom. We'd go out on boats and cycle riding and stuff like that, but when it came down to the serious aspects of parent-child relationship, never anything there from the male side...My brother was eighteen and moved in with my real dad. I was ten and stayed with my mother.
"Only nine murderers said the father was the dominant parent, and two said both parents had shared the parenting role....The low level of attachment among family members is indicated by the murderers' evaluations of the emotional quality of their family relationships. Perhaps the most interesting result was that most offenders said that they did not have a satisfactory relationship with the father and that the relationship with the mother was highly ambivalent in emotional quality."
Ibid., p. 92: "In attempting to explain why Warren committed the murders, the psychiatrist pointed to his background, making the following observations:
"1. Warren grew up in a home where women were in control and men were denigrated.
"2. Warren's traumatic victimization at age twelve by two older girls served to confirm his picture of the world.
"3. Warren's marriage to a woman with four children demonstrates his tendency to empathize more with children than adults and his feelings about mother figures.
"4. The timing of the murders indicated a rekindling of Warren's own childhood fears as a result of the events of pregnancy and childbirth; thus, he perceived it necessary to destroy these women in order to prevent his own destruction.
"5. The mutilation of his victims was an attempt to remove gender identification from his victims and render them nonfemale."
Douglas A. Smith and G. Roger Jarjoura, "Social Structure and Criminal Victimization," Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency 25 [Feb., l988], 27-52; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, June, l988: "Criminologists have long used race and poverty as key variables for explaining crime rates. However, researchers at the University of Maryland find that when differences in family structure are taken into account, crime rates run much the same in rich and poor neighborhoods and among black, white, and Hispanic populations. In their study of over ll,000 urban residents of Florida, upstate New York, and Missouri, Professors Douglas A. Smith and G. Roger Jarjoura found that 'the percentage of single-parent households with children between the ages of 12 and 20 is significantly associated with rates of violent crime and burglary.' The UM team points out that 'many studies that find a significant association between racial composition and crime rates have failed to control for community family structure and may mistakenly attribute to racial composition an effect that is actually due to the association between race and family structure.' Drs. Smith and Jarjoura likewise criticize theories that attribute crime to poverty since when family structure is taken into account, 'the effect of poverty on burglary rates becomes insignificant and slightly negative.'
"This new study should dispel illusions about curing the social effects of casual divorce and rampant illegitimacy through government programs that merely alleviate poverty or reduce racial prejudice."
Dr. Lee Salk, What Every Child Would Like His Parents To Know, cited in Doug Spangler, "The Crucial Years for Father and Child," American Baby, June, l979: "Research conducted on children whose fathers were away in the military service revealed that...boys whose fathers were absent during the first year of life, seemed to have had more behavior difficulties than would normally have been expected. They seem to have had more trouble establishing and keeping good relationships, not only with adults but with other children. Other studies showed a reasonably close relationship between delinquent behavior in boys and the absence of an adequate father (male) figure during childhood."
Henry Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath, 1971), p. 1: "Much of the current interest in the father's role seems to have been intensified by the growing awareness of the prevalence of fatherless families and the social, economic and psychological problems that such families often encounter. The fatherless family is a source of increasing concern in many industrialized countries."
Ibid., p. 39: "Bacon, Child, and Barry [Bacon, M. K., Child, I. L. and Barry, H. III, "A Cross-Cultural Study of Correlates of Crime," Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, l963, 66, 291-300] discovered that societies with relatively low father availability have a higher rate of crime than do societies in which the father is relatively available. Stephens' data [Stephens, W. N. "Judgments by Social Workers on Boys and Mothers in Fatherless Families," Journal of Genetic Psychology, l96l, 99, 59-64] suggest that intense, restrictive mother-child relationships are more likely to occur in societies in which there is relatively low father availability in childhood. Close binding mother-child relationships appear to be negatively related to sexual adjustment in adulthood."
Ibid., p. 66: "Juvenile delinquency can have many different etiologies, but paternal deprivation is a frequent contributing factor. Many researchers have noted that father-absence is more common among delinquent boys than among nondelinquent boys. Studying adolescents, Glueck and Glueck [Unravelling Juvenile Delinquency, l950] reported that more than two-fifths of the delinquent boys were father-absent as compared with less than one-fourth of a matched nondelinquent group. McCord, McCord, and Thurber ["Some Effects of Paternal Absence on Male Children," Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, l962, 64, 361-369] found that the lower-class father-absent boys in their study committed more felonies than did the father-present group, although the rates of gang delinquency were not different. Gregory [I. Gregory, "Anterospective Data Following Child Loss of a Parent: I. Delinquency and High School Dropout," Archives of General Psychiatry, l965, l3, 99-l09] referred to a large number of investigations linking father-absence with delinquent behavior and also detected a strong association between these variables in his study of high school students.
"Siegman [A. W., "Father-Absence During Childhood and Antisocial Behavior," Journal of Abnormal Psychology, l966, 254, 71-74] analyzed medical students' responses to a questionnaire concerning their childhood experiences. he compared the responses of students who had been without a father for at least one year during their first four years of life, with those of students who had been continuously father-present. The father absent group admitted to a greater degree of antisocial behavior during childhood. Other researchers relying on self-report procedures have also reported that individuals from fatherless families are more likely to engage in delinquent behavior [F. I. Nye, Family Relationships and Delinquent Behavior, New York: Wiley, l958; W. L. Slocum and C. L. Stone, "Family Culture Patterns and Delinquent Type Behavior," Marriage and Family Living, l963, 25, 202-8]. Anderson [L. M., "Personality Characteristics of Parents of Neurotic, Aggressive, and Normal Preadolescent Boys, Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, l969, 33, 575-81] found that a history of paternal-absence was much more frequent among boys committed to a training school. He discovered that father-absent nondelinquents had a much higher rate of father-substitution (stepfather, father-surrogate, etc.) between the ages of four to seven than did father-absent delinquents.
"Miller [W. B., "Lower-Class Culture as a Generating Milieu of Gang Delinquency," Journal of Social Issues,, l958, l4, 5-19] argued that most lower-class boys suffer from paternal deprivation and that their antisocial behavior is often an attempt to prove that they are masculine. Bacon, Child and Barry [Bacon, M. K., Child, I. L. and Barry, H. III, "A Cross-Cultural Study of Correlates of Crime," Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, l963, 66, 291-300], in a cross-cultural study, found that father availability was negatively related to the amount of theft and personal crime. Degree of father availability was defined in terms of family structure. Societies with a predominantly monogamous nuclear family structure tended to be rated low in the amount of theft and personal crime, whereas societies with a polygamous mother-child family structure tended to be rated high in both theft and personal crime. Following Miller's hypothesis, Bacon, Child and Barry suggested that such antisocial behavior was a reaction against a female-based household and an attempted assertion of masculinity. A large number of psychiatric referrals with the complaint of aggressive acting-out are made by mothers of preadolescent and adolescent father-absent boys and clinical data suggest that sex-role conflicts are frequent in such boys."
Harvey Kaye, Male Survival (New York: Grosset and Dunlap, 1974), p. 155: "Facing economic hardship and a much higher problem of a broken home, brittle family relationships, and an absentee father, the mere struggle for existence becomes a major preoccupation, and the niceties of psychological development may become negligible or coarsened in the process. Growing up deprived also often means growing up with little impulse control. Since the capacity to internalize one's impulses is a prerequisite for progress, handicaps mount. Fragmented families frequently germinate rage-filled children; and rage plus poor impulse control equals confrontation with the law. A sorry case, calling for any bright innovations which a boy's nimble brain can devise."
Patricia Cohen and Judith Brook, "Family Factors Related to the Persistence of Psychopathology in Childhood and Adolescence," Psychiatry, Vol. 50, Nov., l987, p. 344: "One-parent families and families with multiple marital disruptions are apparently unable to mount effective means of counteracting pathological reactions that have developed in their children."
Barry Siegel, Los Angeles Times, 3 Nov., l985: "Most of the young convicts' stories, full of parents who ran off and unguided lives on the streets, evoke pity. Most of their deeds, full of rapes and beatings and murders, evoke horror."
Ross L. Matsueda and Karen Heimer, "Race, Family Structure, and Delinquency: A Test of Differential Association and Social Control Theories," American Sociological Review, 52 [Dec., l987], 826-40; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, March, l988: "Teenagers from broken homes are much more likely to become delinquents than are teens from intact families, particularly if they are black....Given the family roots of black delinquency, the authors of this new study find it 'not surprising that simplistic policies of rehabilitation and deterrence have failed to stem the tide of rising rates of delinquency.'"
Phyllis Chesler, Mothers on Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody (New York: McGraw-Hill, 1986), p. 291: "Who are the women in prison?...More than half are single mothers living on welfare."
Bill Hazlett and David Shaw, Los Angeles Times, 31 December, l972, citing the views of Dr. Chaytor Mason, clinical psychologist at USC: "But many mothers just can't cope with growing boys alone--especially not with growing boys who are already frustrated by the uncertainty of their own masculinity. The boys misbehave, and the mother tells them how bad they are, and the boys, in effect, tell themselves, 'If I'm going to be bad, at least I'm going to be good at it.'"
Tamara Jones, Los Angeles Times, 19 December, 1988: "Favoring shaved heads and crisp, military-style clothing, skinheads are thought to have doubled their ranks over the last nine months alone to claim an estimated 2,000 to 3,500 hard core members nationwide. Some even carry business cards with their particular gang's name, post office box number and racist motto....
"'What you have here is not the last, dying remnants of an old problem' says Lenny Ziskind of the Center for Democratic Renewal. 'What we have here is just the embryo of a future problem.'...
"[Eric Anderson, a Yakima, Wash., anthropologist] described the skinheads as ranging from 14 to 27, from largely middle-class neighborhoods and broken, unstable families.
"'Most are dumber than bricks, but some are real sharp," Anderson said. 'They're openly trying to recruit all the time, and oftentimes it's runaway kids or punks who are looking for some family unit."
Gary Bauer, "Report to the President from the White House Working Group on the Family," quoted in Phyllis Schlafly Report, February, l988: "A study by Stanford University's Center of the Study of Youth Development in l985 indicated that children in single-parent families headed by mothers have higher arrest rates, more disciplinary problems in school, and a greater tendency to smoke and run away from home than do their peers who live with both natural parents--no matter what their income, race, or ethnicity."
Margaret Cambric, Executive Director, Jenesse Center, Los Angeles, quoted in Los Angeles Times, 27 February, 1988: "When you're dealing with gang activity, you're dealing with the family structure. People don't tend to see it that way....All of it is domestic violence....gang violence stems from the home."
Neal R. Peirce, citing William Haskins, National Urban League Director of Human Services, quoted in Los Angeles Times, 30 June, 1982: "[T]here is a strong correlation between the single-parent family and child abuse, truancy, substandard achievement in school and high unemployment and juvenile delinquency. Fatherless boys figure heavily in crimes, according to police officials....Young girls are almost ostracized if they're not ready for sex. Young men won't use [contraceptives]. They say, 'That's a reflection on my manhood.'"
Dr. Carlo Abbruzzese, M. D., FASFP Chairman, Human Rights Commission , M.E.N. International, Box 6185 Santa Ana, CA 92706, unpublished memo: "The Hon. S. L. Vavuris, Judge of the San Francisco Superior Court, stated in open Court that '90 percent of all of the children in trouble are from broken homes' (Loebenstein v. Loebenstein #648527, S. F. Superior Court, July 3, l974. And Judge Arnason of the Contra-Costa Superior Court, speaking more recently to an 'Equal Rights for Fathers' meeting in Berkeley, CA, said '70 percent of male youth offenders committed to correctional institutions are from divorce-torn homes.'"
Anthony L. Pillay, "Psychological Disturbances in Children of Single Parents," Psychological Reports, 61, [October, l987]: 803-6; excerpted in The Family in America: New Research, April, l988: "Children raised in a single-parent household are much more likely to suffer psychological disturbances and break the law than children from intact families....[Of 147 children taken to a psychological clinic] 89 of them--six out of every ten--came from nonintact families....[C]hildren- -both male and female- -are more likely to turn to drugs when they have only one parent. But problems are most serious among fatherless boys, who 'exhibited less self-control, delay in gratification, and internalized standards of moral judgement than did boys whose families remained intact,' and were 'more antisocial, impulsive and likely to belong to delinquent groups.' Because 'boys reared without their fathers appear to be substantially disadvantaged' by the 'lack [of] a significant model for sex-appropriate behavior, the current trend in awarding custody almost automatically to mothers' should be reexamined."
Henry Biller and Dennis Meredith, Father Power (Garden City, New York: Anchor Books, 1975), p. 341: "People with emotional disorders manifested in criminal behavior are likely to have been inadequately fathered. A study of murderers by Boston psychiatrist Shervert H. Frazier revealed that father absence or brutalization was frequent in the killers' backgrounds. Eighteen of the thirty-one murderers he studied had either suffered father absence for significant periods or had been the subject of repeated violence from the father. Many other histories of assassins and mass murderers suggest that they suffer similar backgrounds of father absence or abuse."
Dr. Bernard Laukenmann, Newsletter of Fathers United for Equal Rights of Baltimore, Maryland, February, l973: "A memorandum of a rehabilitation program from the Florida Ocean Sciences Institute (compiled in l970) revealed that 75 percent of the law offenders were from broken homes. Florida's Division of Youth Services acknowledges that this situation is state wide: more than two thirds of the criminal minors that the agency has been handling are from broken homes....Recently a public statement showed that 70 percent of all crimes in the city of Baltimore, Maryland, are committed by juveniles, and of that number 60 percent come from broken homes....Of the 70 percent juvenile criminals out of broken homes [most] live with their divorced, separated or abandoned mother or other female relative. News releases have it that Oswald (J. F. Kennedy's assassin) Sirhan (R. F. Kennedy's assassin), and Bremer (attempted assassin of Gov. Wallace) came from broken homes...."
Urie Bronfenbrenner, "The Psychological Costs of Quality and Equality in Education," Child Development, 38 [1967], 914f.: "A growing body of research evidence points to the debilitating effect on personality development in Negro children, particularly males, resulting from the high frequency of father absence in Negro families....In seeking an explanation for this relationship, several of the major investigators have concluded that the exaggerated toughness, aggressiveness, and cruelty of delinquent gangs reflect the desperate effort of males in lower-class culture to rebel against their early overprotective, feminizing environment and to find a masculine identity. For example, Miller [W. B., "Lower Class Culture as a Generating Milieu of Gang Delinquency," Journal of Social Issues, 1958, 14, (3), 5-19] analyzes the dynamics of the process in the following terms:
The genesis of the intense concern over "toughness" in lower class culture is probably related to the fact that a predominantly female household, and lack a consistently present male figure with whom to identify and from whom to learn essential components of a "male" role. Since women serve as a primary object of identification during preadolescent years, the almost obsessive lower class concern with "masculinity" probably resembles a type of compulsive reaction-formation....A positive overt evaluation of behavior defined as "effeminate" would be out of the question for a lower class male."
Ibid., p. 914, quoting T. F. Pettigrew, A Profile of the Negro American, 1964, p. 18: "[F]ather-deprived boys are markedly more immature, submissive, dependent, and effeminate than other boys....As they grow older, this passive behavior may continue, but more typically, it is vigorously overcompensated for by exaggerated masculinity. Juvenile gangs, white and Negro, classically act out this pseudo-masculinity with leather jackets, harsh language, and physical 'toughness.'"
William McCord, Joan McCord with Irving Zola, Origins of Crime: A New Evaluation of the Cambridge-Sommerville Youth Study New York: Columbia University Press, 1959), p. 169: "The father's personality had an important bearing on criminality. We established that warm fathers and passive fathers produced very few criminals. Paternal absence, cruelty, or neglect, however, tended to produce criminality in a majority of boys."
Ibid., p. 170: "Paternal absence resulted in a relatively high rate of crime, especially in drunkenness."
Robert Zagar, et al., "Developmental and Disruptive Behavior Disorders Among Delinquents," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 28 [1989]: 437-440, epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, September, 1989: "Psychotic delinquents rarely come from intact families. Officials documented a familiar pattern in a recent survey of almost 2,000 children and adolescents referred by the Circuit Court of Cook County--Juvenile Division for psychiatric evaluation. This group of troubled children included 84 orphans (4 percent), 1,272 from single-parent homes (65 percent), 269 from stepparent families (14 percent), and just 331 from intact two-parent families (17 percent)."
Francis A. J. Ianni, The Search for Structure: A Report on American Youth Today (New York: The Free Press, 1989), pp. 207f.: "Yet in our observations of family life and in interviews we found that many of the members of disruptive groups and almost all of the street-gang members came from broken or severely disturbed and deprived homes....Many were from single-parent families where the mother had been unable or unwilling to establish adequate behavioral controls over her male children....They soon came to be considered rebellious, unruly, even dangerous troublemakers in the school as well as in the community. Welcome and 'understood' only among others like them, they sought out the structure and the often severe strictures of organized deviant peer groups, where fidelity is to the group or gang rather than to family or school."
Ibid., p. 76: "In Green Valley and other rural areas there were also frequent cases of missing fathers, not as much so as in the urban inner city, but with sufficient frequency among the 'old families' that 'not having a man around to straighten out the kids' was a frequent reason cited by criminal justice and social service professionals in the county seat whenever we asked about delinquency, teen pregnancy, or running away."
Robert J. Sampson and W. Byron Groves, "Community Structures and Crime: Testing Social-Disorganization Theory," American Journal of Sociology, 94, January, 1989, 774-802, epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, May, 1989: "The relationship between crime and family life recently came under the scrutiny of criminologists at the University if Illinois at Urbana- -Champaign and the University of Wisconsin- -Green Bay. After examining data from hundreds of communities in Great Britain, the researchers concluded that family disruption- -either through divorce or illegitimacy- -leads to mugging, violence against strangers, auto theft, burglary, and other crimes. The new study establishes a direct statistical link between family disruption and every kind of crime examined except vandalism. In large part, this linkage can be traced to the failure of 'informal social controls' in areas with few intact families. 'Two-parent households,' the authors of the new study explain, 'provide increased supervision and guardianship not only for their own children and household property, but also for general activities in the community. From this perspective, the supervision of peer-group and gang activity is not simply dependent on one child's family, but on a network of collective family control.' Particularly in poor communities bound together by few social ties, 'pronounced family disruption' helps to 'foster street-corner teenage groups, which, in turn, leads to increased delinquency and ultimately to a pattern of adult crime.'"
Bryce J. Christensen, "From Home Life to Prison Life: The Roots of American Crime," The Family in America, Vol 3, No. 4 [April, 1989], p.3: "...Professor Sampson established not only that single-parent households are likely targets for crime, but that the neighbors of single-parent households are more likely to be hit by crime than the neighbors of two-parent households. He concludes both that 'single-adult households suffer a victimization risk higher than two-adult households' and that 'living in areas characterized by a high proportion of [single-adult] households significantly increases burglary risk' for all types of households."
Ibid., p. 3: "In a 1987 study at the University of Toronto, sociologists noted particularly high rates of delinquency among female teens in two kinds of households: 1) single-parent households; 2) households in which the mother is employed in a career or management position. Maternal employment can affect the criminality of sons, too. 'It's tougher for mothers who are busy earning a living to control their teenage boys,' according to Professor Alfred Blumstein of Carnegie-Mellon University. Criminologist Roger Thompson believes that one of the primary reasons that young boys join gangs is that 'their parents work, and if they didn't have the gang, they'd just have an empty home.'
"But family disruption overshadows maternal employment as a cause of juvenile delinquency. In their landmark study of the problem the Gluecks found a strong correlation between delinquency and parental divorce and separation."
Ibid., p. 4: "[S]ociologists at the University of Washington and Vanderbilt University underscored the importance of the family in determining juvenile delinquency. 'That the family plays a critical role in juvenile delinquency is one of the strongest and most frequently replicated findings among studies of deviance,' write Professors Walter Gove and Robert Crutchfield. In their own examination of some 600 families in Chicago, Drs. Gove and Crutchfield again confirmed that 'boys in single-parent households are much more likely to be delinquent than boys from intact families.'...
"A young male lawbreaker will probably grow even more reckless if he fathers an illegitimate child....Since the sons of single-parent households are almost twice as likely as the sons of two-parent households to become an unwed father, this crime-producing pattern could spiral wider from generation to generation.
"Seedbed for gang activity, the broken home produces many of the nation's most violent young criminals. In a study of 72 adolescent murderers, researchers at Michigan State University found that 75 percent of them had parents who were either divorced or had never married."
Martin Kasindorf, "Keeping Manson Behind Bars," Los Angeles Times Magazine, 14 May, 1989: "Charles Manson, born illegitimate in Cincinnati, was placed by an uncaring mother with a series of foster parents. By 1967, he had spent 19 of his 32 years in penal institutions. On parole, Manson gravitated to San Francisco's pulsating Haight-Ashbury district. Through ready administration of LSD and a messianic message, he attracted a virtual harem of adoring women he called his 'young loves,' using offers of sex with them to draw men handy with guns and dune buggies."
Gary L. Cunningham, review of Manson in His Own Words by Nuel Emmons, Los Angeles Times, 5 July, 1987: "The man who would come to symbolize the end of the '60s and what went wrong with them was born 'no name Maddox.' Unwanted, he was reared with abuse and neglect. His unwed mother eventually gave him to the courts, not because he was unmanageable, but because he was a hindrance to her life style.
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"It was the spring of 1967, He went to San Francisco.
"There he found a 'convict's dream,' a world of drugs and sex and no rules. In it he sought and found young women who were desperately seeking someone or something to give them acceptance, direction and permission. With the help of drugs, he easily became a kind of fantasy father figure, exchanging unconditional love and binding the women to him. For the first time in his life, Charles Manson had love, acceptance, power and control. And he had a following."
History Book Club Review, September, 1989: "Billy the Kid, age 21, has killed four men personally and he shares the blame for the deaths of five others. He will not see his 22d birthday....Billy the Kid was born Henry McCarty, the son of Catherine McCarty, in New York City in 1859....The first certain record of Billy appears in Santa Fe, New Mexico where Henry McCarty and his brother Joe stood witness at the marriage of their mother Catherine to William Henry Harrison Antrim on March 1, 1873."
Robert Graysmith, Zodiac (New York: Berkeley Books, 1987), p. xiii: "After Jack the Ripper and before Son of Sam there is only one name their equal in terror: the deadly, elusive, and mysterious Zodiac. Since 1968 the hooded mass murderer has terrified the city of San Francisco and the Bay Area with a string of brutal killings. Zodiac, in taunting letters sent to the newspapers, has hidden clues to his identity by using cunning ciphers that have defied the greatest codebreaking minds of the CIA, the FBI, and NSA."
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"PSYCHOLOGICAL PROFILE OF ZODIAC
Paranoid delusions of grandeur.
"Psychotic.
"Sexual sadist: You will find that the Zodiac probably tortured small animals as a child, had a domineering mother, weak or absent father, strong fantasy life, confusion between violence and love, is the type of person who would be a police groupie, carry police equipment in his car, collect weapons and implements of torture."
Los Angeles Times, 8 December, 1989 [describing Marc Lepine, Canadian mass murderer who invaded a University of Montreal classroom, killed 14 women and wounded 13 others before committing suicide]: "Police say his father, whom they believe to be Algerian, left his family when son Marc was 7 years old."
Hans Sebald, Momism: The Silent Disease of America (Chicago: Nelson Hall, 1976), pp. 180ff. [concerning the case of Jacques Vasseur, a French collaborator with the Nazis, responsible for the deaths of 230 Frenchmen]: "Jacques's childhood was a classic example of Momistic upbringing: father-absence from the socialization process, an overindulgent mother who catered to every whim of the child, and isolation from other children, neighbors, and potential male models. His mother kept him to herself, gave toys (particularly dolls) for him to play with and provided only one companion for him- -herself....After the war ended and French sovereignty was reestablished, he was a hated and hunted criminal....It was not until l962 that he was discovered; his mother had hid him for seventeen years in a garret above her second-story apartment....Approximately 200 witnesses recited the horrors they had suffered under 'Vasseur the Terror,' recounting how he beat them, tortured them, and condemned their relatives and fiances to death. One witness said he had been bull-whipped for ten hours by Vasseur; a woman testified that he had burned her breasts with a cigarettes; and others told of the mercilessness with which he handed over to the executioners their fathers, brothers, and sisters....The attending psychiatrist...explained to the court that Jacques's subservience to the Gestapo was a transferred attachment from his mother to another powerful agent, that he embraced his grisly duties because he needed the approval of the Mom surrogate, and that his power over other humans gave him the opportunity to express his suppressed virility. The psychiatrist reminded the court that Vasseur still referred to his mother as "my Mummy" and that his greatest suffering during his imprisonment was caused by seeing 'Mummy' only once a week."
A two-hour NBC T.V. program on Jack the Ripper, October 28, l988, featured two FBI "crime profile" experts, John Douglas and Roy Hazelwood, who profiled Jack the Ripper as a single white male, with difficulty in interacting with people, especially women, of average intelligence, from a broken home, raised by a dominant female figure.
Judge Samuel S. Leibowitz, Senior Judge of Brooklyn criminal court, with A. E. Hotchner, "Nine Words that Can Stop Juvenile Delinquency," Reader's Digest, March, 1962; condensed from This Week, 15 December, 1957: "What Western country has the lowest juvenile delinquency rate? The answer, based on official reports, is Italy, where only two percent of all sex crimes and one half of one percent of all homicides are committed by children 18 and under. (The comparable figures for the United States are 13 and 9 percent.) But why is Italy's delinquency rate so low? For weeks I toured Italian cities, trying to get the answers. I was given remarkable cooperation. Police commissioners, school superintendents, mayors of cities told me what I wanted to know, took me where I wanted to go.
"An important police official wanted to know if it was really true that teen-agers assaulted police in America. I had to tell him it was.
"'Ah, this is very hard for us to believe,' he said. 'No Italian youth would ever lay hands on an officer.'
"A Naples school superintendent asked me if thrill murders are figments of journalists' imaginations. 'No, I informed him, 'they are all too true.'
"'We have no such crimes,' the superintendent said. 'We have the delinquency of stealing, of misbehaving, but boys in this country commit boy wrongs, within the bounds of the boy's world.'
"'But how do you keep the boy there?' I asked. And then I found what I was seeking: a basic, vital element of living that is disappearing in our country and which, to my mind, is the only effective solution to the malady of delinquency. From all parts of Italy, from every official, I received the same answer: Young people in Italy respect authority.
"And here is the significant thing: that respect starts in the home- -then carries over into the school, the city streets, the courts. I went into Italian homes to see for myself. I found that even in the poorest family the father is respected by the wife and children as its head. He rules with varying degrees of love and tenderness and firmness. His household has rules to live by, and the child who disobeys them is punished. Thus I found the nine-word principle that I think can do more for us than all the committees, ordinances and multimillion-dollar programs combined: Put Father back at the head of the family."
ASSASSINS:
James F. Kirkham, Sheldon G. Levy and William J. Crotty, Assassination and Political Violence: A Report to the National Commission on the Causes and Prevention of Violence (New York: Bantam Books, 1970), pp. 65f.: "Although we cannot unravel the significance of the similarities between the assassins, we could make this statement: we could predict after President Kennedy's assassination that the next assassin would probably be short and slight of build, foreign born, and from a broken family--most probably with the father either absent or unresponsive to the child."
Patricia Cayo Sexton, The Feminized Male (New York: Random House, 1969), p. 4: "Sirhan and Oswald, both reared under the maternal shadow, grew to be quiet, controlled men and dutiful sons. Estranged from their fellows, fathers, and normal male associations, they joined a rapidly growing breed--the 'feminized male'--whose normal male impulses are suppressed or misshaped by overexposure to feminine norms. Such assassins often pick as their targets the most virile males, symbols of their own manly deprivation. The assassin risks no contest with this virility. His victim is caught defenseless by the sniper's bullet and is unable to strike any blows in self-defense. A cheap victory--no challenger and no risk of defeat. Their desire to get out is simply the natural male impulse to cut maternal ties and become a man. The black revolt is a quest by the black male--whose social impotence has exceeded even that of the white woman--for power, status, and manhood. He does not want to be a 'boy' any longer: I am a man is the slogan of his revolt. These rebellions are alarms, alerting us to the social forces that dangerously diminish manhood and spread alienation and violence."
Ibid., p. 67: "David Rothstein, for example, has analyzed twenty-seven inmates of the Medical Center for Federal Prisoners in Springfield, Mo., who had indicated an intention to attack the President. The threatmakers bore similarities to Lee Harvey Oswald. Most came from unhappy homes. They had domineering mothers and weak, ineffectual fathers. Most joined the military service at an early age, yet their experiences proved to be unhappy. Rothstein interprets their actions in threatening the President as the manifestation of a hostility towards their mother redirected against authority symbols--the government and, more specifically, the President."
Dr. Fred B. Chartan, "A Psychiatric History: What Assassins Have in Common,"
The Birmingham News, 7 July, l968: "The [U.S. presidential] assassins
were all men (there has never been a woman political assassin[437), all loners, and all lacking fathers through
death, divorce, work schedule, or at least through a very poor parental
relationship. It is also significant that the assassins were either bachelors
or did not get along with women."
]
RAPISTS AND CHILD MOLESTERS:
Michael Petrovich and Donald I. Templer, "Heterosexual Molestation of Children Who Later Became Rapists," Psychological Reports, l984, 54, 810: "Forty-nine [of 83] (59%) of the rapists had been heterosexually molested. Of these, 12 had been so molested by two or more females for a total of 73 'cases' of heterosexual molestation. In 56 (77%) of these cases, the molesting person did so on more than one occasion. The ages at the time of molestation ranged from 4 to 16 yr.; the ages of the older persons ranged from 16 to 54 yr....Note that in 15 (21%) of the cases the women who molested had a special mission to nurture, counsel or protect."
Los Angeles Times, 16 December, 1986: [According to researchers at North Florida Evaluation and Treatment Center] "The pattern of the child molester is characterized by a singular degree of closeness and attachment to the mother."
Raymond A. Knight and Robert A. Prentky, "The Developmental Antecedents and Adult Adaptations of Rapist Subtypes," Criminal Justice and Behavior, Vol 14 [Dec., l987], 403-26; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, April, l988: "As families have broken down, rape has become an increasingly frequent crime. That is no coincidence, according to information in a new study. In a recent survey of l08 violent rapists--all of them repeat offenders--researchers found that a sizable majority of 60 percent came from single-parent homes. The authors state that single-parent households account for 60 percent of those rapists described as 'sadistic' and nearly 70 percent of those described as 'exploitative.' Exploitative rapists display 'the most antisocial behavior in adolescence and adulthood,' while the sadists are marked by 'both more aggressive and more deviant sexual activity.' Among rapists motivated by 'displaced anger,' fully 80 percent come from single-parent homes, and over half were foster children."
SUICIDE:
S. C. Bhatia, et al., "High Risk Suicide Factors Across Cultures," The International Journal of Social Psychiatry, 33, [1987], 226-236; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1988: "Weaker family ties are apparently one reason that suicide occurs more frequently in the United States than in India. In a recent analysis, a team of Indian psychiatrists tried to account for the difference between a suicide rate of 12.2 suicides per 100,000 Americans and a rate of only 6.5 suicides per 100,000 per 100,000 Indians. While conceding that the official statistics were unreliable because of underreporting in both countries, the psychiatric team cited 'lack of family and social support' as a primary reason that suicide now ranks eighth among causes of death in America.
The Indian researchers found it particularly striking that while suicide rates run higher among married Indians than among the unmarried, the American pattern is very different, with suicide rates running twice as high among singles as among the married and four to five times as high among the divorced and widowed as among the married."
Evangelos Papathomopoulos et al., "Suicidal Attempts by Ingestion of Various Substances in 2,050 Children and Adolescents in Greece," Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 34, 1989, 205-209; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1989: "The divorce of parents often pushes teenagers into suicidal despair. In a paper recently presented to the Canadian Psychiataric Association, medical authorities from Greece reported their investigation of suicidal attempts by ingestion of drugs or other chemicals among Greek children and adolescents. In an analysis of 600 such cases, the Greek researchers found that family conflict was the reason for 353 (59 percent) of the attempted suicides."
Professor Victor R. Fuchs, Stanford University, Los Angeles Times, 24 October, l988: "Compared with those of the previous generation, today's children are more than twice as likely to commit suicide, perform worse at school and use much more alcohol and drugs; they are twice as likely to be obese, and show other signs of increased physical, mental and emotional distress. The poverty rate among children (under age 18) is almost double the rate for adults--a situation without precedent in American history....If Americans do not have enough children (the fertility rate has been below replacement level every year since l973) and if children do not become healthy, well-educated adults, the country's future is bleak, regardless of progress with other issues."
Carmen Noevi Velez and Patricia Cohen, "Suicidal Behavior and Ideation in a Community Sample of Children: Maternal and Youth Reports," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 273 [1988]: 349-356; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, Sept, 1988: "The latest evidence is found in a new study by psychiatrists at the New York State Psychiatric Institute. Upon surveying 752 families at random, the researchers divided the children into those who had never attempted suicide and those who had done so at least once. The two groups, they found, differed little in age, family income, race, and religion. But those who attempted suicide were 'more likely to live in nonintact family settings than were the nonattempters. More than half of the attempters lived in households with no more than one biological parent, whereas only about a third of the nonattempters lived in such a setting.'"
John S. Wodarski and Pamela Harris, "Adolescent Suicide: A Review of Influences and the Means for Prevention," Social Work, 32, No. 6 [November/December, 1987] 477-84; epitomized in The Family in America, May, 1988: "'The growing incidence of family dissolutions, and the resulting single-parent households along with the attendant life-style, makes childhood a difficult period.' Increasingly, sociological researchers 'view the phenomenon of adolescent suicide as a reflection of this turmoil in American families....There is a trend toward devaluation of family and children and an atmosphere that lacks intimacy and affection. Experiences in environments that are nonsupportive and overtly hostile contribute to the development of suicidal personality characteristics.' This view is borne out, [Wodarski and Harris] note, by studies comparing youths who attempt suicide with those who do not. Among those who attempted suicide, 'family disruption and disintegration played a significant role' with the suicidal often feeling that their mothers were less interested in them than did the non-suicidal."
Lynda W. Warren and C. Tomlinson-Keasey, "The Context of Suicide," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 57, No. 1 [January, 1987], p. 42; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, May, 1987: "In an in-depth analysis of eight women suicides, Lynda W. Warren and C. Tomlinson-Keasey state that one of their 'most striking findings' is 'the strong influence exerted by mothers, coupled with lack of involvement of fathers in the subjects' lives. Absence of paternal involvement was characteristic of all eight cases....When a parent played a critical role in the subjects' lives, it was the mother who did so.' Drs. Warren and Tomlinson-Keasey stress that 'this finding of a high incidence of early father loss is consistent with previous reports of an association between early father loss and adult depression and suicide.'"
SEXUAL CONFUSION:
Sara S. McLanahan, "Family Structure and Dependency: Reality Transitions to Female Household Headship," Demography 25, Feb., l988, 1-16: "Daughters from female-headed households are much more likely than daughters from two-parent families to themselves become single parents and to rely on welfare for support as adults....[L]iving with a single mother at age l6 increases a daughter's risk of becoming a household head by 72 percent for whites and 100 percent for blacks. The contrast becomes even sharper if the comparison is between daughters continuously living in two-parent families with daughters living with an unmarried mother at any time between ages 12 and 16: 'Exposure to single motherhood at some point during adolescence increases the risk [of a daughter's later becoming a household head] by nearly 1-1/2 times for whites and...by about 100 percent for blacks.' The public costs of this differential emerge in figures showing that a daughter living in a single-parent household at any time during adolescence is far more likely (127 percent more likely among whites, 164 percent among blacks) to receive welfare benefits as an adult, compared to daughters from two-parent households."
Brent C. Miller and C. Raymond Bingham, "Family Configuration in Relation to the Sexual Behavior of Female Adolescents," Journal of Marriage and the Family 51, 1989, 499-506; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1989: "Among young women reared in single-parent households, sexual intercourse outside marriage occurs much more often than among young women reared in intact families."
William Marsiglio, "Adolescent Fathers in the United States: Their Initial Living Arrangements, Marital Experience and Educational Outcomes," Family Planning Perspectives, 19, November/December, 1987, 240-51; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, May, 1988: "Researchers have known for some time that girls raised in a female-headed household are much more likely to become unwed teen mothers than are girls raised in two-parent families. In a major new study, Professor William Marsiglio of Oberlin College has documented a parallel pattern for unmarried teen fathers. In a survey of more than 5,500 young American men, Dr. Marsiglio found that 'males who had not lived with two parents at age 14 were overrepresented in the subsample of teenage fathers. Only 17 percent of all young men surveyed lived in one-parent households at age 14; yet, among boys who had fathered an illegitimate child as a teenager, almost 30 percent came from single-parent households. In other words, teen boys from one-parent households are almost twice as likely to father a child out of wedlock as teen boys from two-parent families."
Suzanne Southworth and J. Conrad Schwarz, "Post-Divorce Contact, Relationship with Father, and Heterosexual Trust in Female College Students," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 57, No. 3 [July, 1987], 379-381; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, October, 1987: "In surveying 104 female college students from divorced and intact families, Drs. Suzanne Southworth and J. Conrad Schwarz discover evidence that 'the experience of divorce and its aftermath have long-term effects on young college women's trust in the opposite sex and on their plans for the future.' Particularly, the [University of Connecticut, Stors] team find that 'daughters from divorced homes are more likely to anticipate cohabitation before marriage' than are daughters of intact marriages. Among daughters of intact homes it was found that 'only daughters who had a poor relationship with the father planned to cohabit,' while among daughters of divorced parents 'plans to cohabit were uniformly high and unrelated to the father's acceptance and consistency of love.'"
Single mother quoted in SMC (Single Mothers by Choice newsletter), January, 1987: "Most of us were raised by our mothers alone."
Allan C. Carlson, "School Clinics Don't Prevent Pregnancies," Human Events, 31 January, 1987: "Researchers have discovered, for instance, that black girls from father-headed families were twice as likely to be 'non-permissive' compared to those from mother-headed units."
Beverly Beyette, Los Angeles Times, 10 April, 1986: [Girl mothers at Los Angeles's El Nido Services, a child and youth counseling agency]: "They are rather casual about pregnancy--no, they would not choose not to be pregnant. And, no, they do not expect, nor do they want, to marry their babies' fathers. Camilla, a sophomore, said, 'I tell him it isn't his baby so he won't call.'...
"For most girls, counselor Mathews said, 'There's very little awareness of the responsibility--and the consequences. Their mothers become the mothers. And they keep on doing what they're doing.'...
"Almost 70% of the girls lived with their single mothers while pregnant and, both during pregnancy and after the birth of their babies, their parents, welfare and the baby's father were their primary sources of financial support, with welfare the number one source after birth of the baby....
"[Stacy] Banks [project director] said the nature of the problem is somewhat different in South Central, where 'family violence is a big issue' and where the maternal grandmother is commonly the head of household, and often a resentful one. It is not unusual, said Banks, to learn that the grandmother had herself been a teen parent, that she had hoped to go back to school but is now expected to take care of a grandchild while the mother goes to school.
"Sometimes, Davis [Fritzie Davis, project director] said, 'The grandmother is 30 years old. She's asking, 'What's in it for me?' They're angry. They still have needs but don't know how to articulate them.'
"In 1986, social stigma is not the problem. Indeed, Leibowitz [Paul Leibowitz, project director] noted, 'Over 90% have made the decision they're going to keep their babies.'"
Henry B. Biller, Paternal Deprivation: Family, School, Sexuality, and Society (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath, 1974), p. 114: "Inappropriate and/or inadequate fathering is a major factor in the development of homosexuality in females as well as in males."
Yuko Matsuhashi et al., "Is Repeat Pregnancy in Adolescents a 'Planned Affair?'" Journal of Adolescent Health Care, 10 [1989], 409-412; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, December, 1989: "The [University of California at San Diego] researchers discovered that most of the teen mothers in their study had neither a father nor a husband in their lives. Among the girls pregnant for the first time, only 14 percent lived with both parents; among the girls in a repeat pregnancy, only 2 percent lived with both parents."
Henry B. Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath, 1971), p. 47: "Imitation of masculine models is very important. The development of a masculine sex-role adoption, especially in the preschool years, is related to imitation of the father. A young boy's masculinity is positively related to the degree to which his father is available and behaves in a masculine manner (decisionmaking, competence, etc.) in his interaction with his family."
Ibid., p. 58: "A later study with kindergarten boys indicated that father-absent boys had less masculine sex-role orientations and sex-role preferences than did father-present boys, even though the two groups were matched in terms of IQ [Biller, H. B., "Father-Absence, Maternal Encouragement, and Sex-Role Development in Kindergarten Age Boys," Child Development, l969, 40, 539-46]. Also, matching for IQ in a study with junior high school students, we found that boys who became father-absent before the age of five had less masculine self-concepts than father-present boys [Biller, H. B. and Bahm, R. M., "Father-Absence, Perceived Maternal Behavior, and Masculinity of Self-Concept Among Junior High School Boys," Developmental Psychology, l97l, 4, l07].
Ibid., p. 71: "The paternally deprived boy's search for a father-figure can often be involved in the development of homosexual relationships. West [West, D. J., "Parental Relationships in Male Homosexuality," International Journal of Social Psychiatry, l959, 5, 85-97] and O'Connor [O'Connor, P. J., "Aetiological Factors in Homosexuality as Seen in R. A. F. Psychiatric Practice," British Journal of Psychiatry, l964, ll0, 381-391] found that homosexual males, more often than neurotic males, had histories of long periods of father-absence during childhood. West [D. J., Homosexuality, Chicago: Aldine, l967] reviewed much evidence which indicates that paternal deprivation is a frequent precursor in the development of homosexuality....Difficulty in forming lasting heterosexual relationships often appears to be linked to paternal deprivation."
Henry B. Biller and Richard S. Solomon, Child Maltreatment and Paternal Deprivation: A Manifesto for Research, Prevention and Treatment (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath and Company, 1986), p. 140: "Difficulty in forming lasting heterosexual relationships often appears to be linked to father-absence during childhood. Andrews and Christensen's (l95l) data suggested that college students whose parents had been divorced were likely to have frequent but unstable courtship relationships....Jacobson and Ryder (l969) did an exploratory interview study with young marrieds who suffered the death of a parent prior to marriage. Death of the husband's father before the son was twelve was associated with a high rate of marital difficulty. Husbands who had been father-absent early in life were described as immature and as lacking interpersonal competence. Participation in 'feminine' domestic endeavors and low sexual activity were commonly reported for this group. In general, their marriages were relatively devoid of closeness and intimacy....Other researchers have reported evidence that individuals who have experienced father-absence because of a broken home in childhood are more likely to have their own marriages end in divorce or separation....Research by Pettigrew (l964) with lower-class blacks is consistent with the supposition that father-absent males frequently have difficulty in their heterosexual relationships. Compared to father-present males, father-absent males were 'more likely to be single or divorced--another manifestation of their disturbed sexual identification' (p. 420)....A great deal of the heterosexual difficulty that many paternally deprived, lower-class males experience is associated with their compulsive rejection of anything they perceive as related to femininity. Proving that they are not homosexual and/or effeminate is a major preoccupation of many lower-class males. They frequently engage in a Don Juan pattern of behavior, making one conquest after another, and may not form a stable emotional relationship with a female even during marriage. The fear of again being dominated by a female, as they were in childhood, contributes to their continual need to exhibit their masculinity by new conquests. The perception of child rearing as an exclusively feminine endeavor also interferes with their interaction with their children and helps perpetuate the depressing cycle of paternal deprivation in lower-class families....[E]arly father-absence particularly seems to interfere with the development of a secure sex-role orientation."
Ibid., p 147: "There is anthropological evidence suggesting that low father availability in early childhood is associated with later sex-role conflicts for girls as well as for boys....In Jacobson and Ryder's (l969) interview study, many women who had been father-absent as young children complained of difficulties in achieving satisfactory sexual relationships with their husbands....Case studies of father-absent girls are often filled with details of problems concerning interactions with males, particularly in sexual relationships....The father-absent girl often has difficulty in dealing with her aggressive impulses....In a clinical study, Heckel (l963) observed frequent school maladjustment, excessive sexual interest, and social acting-out behavior in five fatherless preadolescent girls. Other investigators have also found a high incidence of delinquent behavior among lower-class father-absent girls....Such acting-out behavior may be a manifestation of frustration associated with the girl's unsuccessful attempts to find a meaningful relationship with an adult male. Father-absence generally increases the probability that a girl will experience difficulties in interpersonal adjustment.
"The devaluation of maleness and masculinity so prevalent in paternally deprived, matrifocal families adversely affects many girls as well as boys."
Ibid., p. 150: "Daughters of divorcees were quite low in self-esteem, but daughters of widows did not differ significantly in their self-image from daughters from father-present homes. nevertheless, both groups of father-absent girls had less feeling of control over their lives and more anxiety than did father-present girls....The daughters of divorcees seemed to have especially troubled heterosexual relationships. They were likely to marry at an earlier age than the other groups and also to be pregnant at the time of marriage. After a brief period of time, some of these women were separated or divorced from their husbands."
Diane Trombetta and Betsy Warren Lebbos, "Co-Parenting: The Best Custody Solution," Los Angeles Daily Journal, June 22, l979, p. 20: "Delinquent girls, and those pregnant out of wedlock, are also more likely to come from broken homes, in most cases meaning father-absent homes. Girls from father-absent homes have been found to engage in more and earlier sexual relationships than father-present girls.
"Insecurity in relating to males has been reported among girls who became father-absent before the age of five....
"Among males, father-absence and resulting maternal dominance has been associated with secondary impotence, homosexuality, alcoholism, and drug abuse."
Neil Kalter, "Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Developmental Vulnerability Model," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 57 (4), October, l987: "The weight of evidence suggests that boys who do not have an ongoing and close relationship with their fathers are more vulnerable to encountering difficulties related to the development of a stable and valued internal sense of masculinity. Problems bearing this stamp have been associated with boys growing up in post-divorce households. They include inhibition of assertiveness, deficient impulse control, and lowered academic performance. Research and clinical evidence indicate that a boy's identification with father is the primary vehicle for the internalization of an appropriate sense of masculine identity. Further, it has been suggested that the absence of an appropriate male model for such identification leaves a boy open to developing pronounced feminine identifications which, in most instances, must be defended against vigorously in adolescence. In sum, the position of a father in his son's development appears crucial, and disruptions in the father-son relationship have been linked to a multitude of developmental interferences."
Los Angeles Times, l7 October, l986: "Planned Parenthood has identified teens at highest risk for becoming pregnant: those with mothers or sisters who became pregnant while teen-agers, those reared in single-parent homes, those who do not do well in school and seek self-esteem elsewhere."
Eleanor J. Bader, The Guardian, l April, l987: "'Glamor was a great reason to have a baby. It works at first. People say "Oh, that's great." You're famous. Then you're nine months pregnant, waddling around, and after the baby's born they put their eyes down. You're on your own. After the baby's born the only one who sticks around is welfare.'
"The woman speaking is l6, Black and angry. She had to drop out of school, she says, to care for her son, and has to subsist on less than $400 a month, a sum that is mostly gobbled up by diapers, formula, baby clothes and rent.
"But these dire conditions are not the only reasons for her anger. 'When you're a young mother people look at you like you're bad.'"
Los Angeles Times, 10 April, l986: "Almost 70% of the girls [teen-aged mothers] lived with their single mothers...."
Susan Newcomer and J. Richard Udry, "Parental Marital Status Effects on Adolescent Sexual Behavior," Journal of Marriage and the Family, 49, No. 2 [May, l987], pp. 235-40; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, August, l987: "Daughters in one-parent homes are much more likely to engage in premarital sex than are daughters in two-parent homes....Adolescent girls reared without fathers are much more likely to be sexually active than girls raised by two parents. Girls raised in single-parent homes are also much more likely to be involved in 'other age-graded delinquencies' than are girls in two-parent homes....The research team also found that the sexual activity of sons increases markedly when a two-parent home breaks up through divorce or separation."
Los Angeles Times, l6 May,, l988: "Ed Griffin, planning officer at the [Los Angeles] Housing Authority, said that at the poorest projects, 'a young woman's idea of upward mobility is having a baby and getting her first welfare check from Aid to Families with Dependent Children. Then she leaves her mom's and gets a place of her own--in the project, of course.'"
Bettye Avery, off our backs, April, l986: "Girls who refuse to have sex are accused of being virgins or dykes."
Henry Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath and Company, 1971), p. 129: "[P]aternally deprived individuals are overrepresented among individuals with psychological problems."
George A. Rekers, "Inadequate Sex Role Differentiation in Childhood: The Family and Gender Identity Disorders," The Journal of Family and Culture, 2, No. 3 [Autumn, 1986], 8-31; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, March, 1987: "...George A. Rekers, professor of neuropsychiatry at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine, reports on the findings of the Gender Research Project he has directed for the National Institute of Mental Health. As part of his research, Dr. Rekers and his colleagues performed comprehensive psychological evaluations of 70 boys suffering from 'gender disturbance,' manifest in 'cross dressing [transvestism]' play with cosmetic articles; "feminine" appearing gestures; avoidance of masculine sex-typed activities; avoidance of male peers; predominant ratio of play with female peers...and taking predominantly female roles in play.'
"Upon examination, 'all 70 of the gender-disturbed boys were found to be normal physically...with the single exception of one boy with one undescended testicle.' However, in assessing the family backgrounds of the 70 boys, Dr. Rekers and his colleagues found 'a consistent picture' of father absence or father neglect:
In the boys who were classified as the most profoundly disturbed, father absence was observed for all cases. In the remaining less disturbed cases father absence was found in 54% of the cases.
Helen Colton, Sex After the Sexual Revolution (New York: Association Press, 1972), p. 140: "Next to punishment and guilt, a common reason for premarital pregnancy is the need of the male to prove his masculinity. Reuben Pannor, a social worker at Vista Del Mar Child Care Center in West Los Angeles, author of notable studies on the young unwed father, has found that many of them came from homes that were female-dominated due to death or divorce or because the father had abdicated his responsibility, leaving the son with 'weak or distorted masculine identity.' Such boys often become involved in sexual relationships 'to prove their manhood.'"
Monica Sjoo and Barbara Mor, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth (San Francisco: Harper and Row, 1987), p. 67: "Indeed, the further back one goes in time the more bisexual, or gyndndrous, is the Great Mother. As Charlotte Woolf says in Love Between Women, perhaps the present-day Lesbian woman is the closest in character to ancient women- -with their fierce insistence on strength, independence, and integrity of consciousness.
"The first love-object for both women and men is the mother; but in patriarchy, the son has to reject the mother to be able to dominate the wife as 'a real man'- -and the daughter must betray her for the sake of "submitting to a man." In matriarchal society this double burden of biological and spiritual betrayal does not occur. For both women and men there is a close identification with the collective group of mothers, with Mother Earth, and with the Cosmic Mother. And, as psychoanalysts keep repeating, this identification is conducive to bisexuality in both sexes. But homosexuality in tribal or pagan men was not based on rejection of the Mother, or the female, as is often true in patriarchal culture; rather, it was based on brother-love, brother-affinity, as sons of the mother. And lesbianism among women was not based on a fear and rejection of men, but on the daughter's desire to reestablish union with the Mother, and with her own femaleness."
Itabari Njeri, Los Angeles Times, 25 July, 1989: "Perhaps the crucial message in her book [Bebe Moore Campbell's Sweet Summer]- -one still not fully understood by society, Campbell says- -is the importance of a father or a father-figure in a young girl's life.
"'Studies show that girls without that nurturing from a father or surrogate father are likely to grow up with damaged self-esteem and are more likely to have problems with their own adult relationships with men,' Campbell says."
Peter M. Weyrich, The Human Costs of Divorce: Who Is Paying? (Washington, D. C.: Free Congress Foundation, 1988), pp.33f., citing George Rekers, "The Formation of a Homosexual Orientation," presented at the Free Congress Foundation "Hope and Homosexuality" Conference, 1987: "Research suggests that in order for boys to develop their masculine identity properly, they need a strong male role model, such as a father (biological or substitute) or an older brother. In 1983, Rekers, Mead, Rosen, and Brigham studied a group of gender-disturbed boys, and found a high incidence of absent fathers. The average age of the boys when they were separated from their fathers was approximately 3.5 years old. Eighty percent were 5 years old or younger when the separation took place, and the reason for the fathers' absence was separation or divorce in 82% of the cases. The male gender disturbances varied from moderate to severe in the study, but those who showed deep gender disturbances had neither a biological father nor a father substitute living at home. Of the fathers who did live at home, 60% were described as psychologically remote or apart from the other members of the family."
Kathleen Fury, "The Troubling Truth About Teen-Agers and Sex," Reader's Digest, June, 1980 [Condensed from Ladies' Home Journal, March, 1980], pp. 153f.: "Demographers at Johns Hopkins University have found that young, white, teen-age girls living in fatherless families were 60 percent more likely to have had intercourse than those living in two-parent homes."
EDUCATIONAL UNDERACHIEVEMENT
Newsweek, l3 May, l985: "It is easy enough to spot them, the so-called children of divorce. Often, teachers say, the boys become extremely sloppy in their dress and study habits, even for boys--and former class clowns are given to spontaneous crying. Junior-high-school girls, on the other hand, sometimes begin wearing heavy makeup and jewelry, affecting a hard-bitten look, as if to advertise the current lack of parental attention. First graders suddenly forget that they're been toilet trained for years. And on any given day every single one of them, from kindergarten to high school, seems to have left home, wherever home may be at the moment, without lunch money.
"Nor is there anything mysterious about this behavior. As Chuckie Marshall, a fourth grader from Denver, recently told his divorced mother, 'I think about you and Daddy a lot at school'--and such thoughts lead inevitably to insecurity and anger, depression and, perhaps most often, guilt....[T]he Los Angeles County Board of Education now runs seminars to help teachers deal with the problems of children from 'reconstituted homes': their predictable academic declines and sudden behavior swings....[S]ome kids who appear to be coping eventually display 'time-bomb symptoms' such as drug use and precocious sexual activity years after a family has broken up and resettled."
B. Sutton-Smith, B. G. Rosenberg and Frank Landy, "Father-Absence Effects in Families of Different Sibling Compositions," Child Development, 39 (1968), p. 1213: "In general, father absence has a depressive effect throughout, with the greatest effects during the early and middle years; boys without brothers are more affected than those with brothers, girls with a younger brother more affected than other girls, and only girls more affected than only boys."
Rex Forehand, et al., "Family Characteristics of Adolescents Who Display Overt and Covert Behavior Problems," Journal of Behavior Therapy and Experimental Psychiatry, 18, [December, 1987]: 325-328; epitomized in The Family in America, April, 1988: "The kid who causes the most trouble in school most likely comes from a divorced family. In a new study of 23 white adolescents, their mothers, and their teachers, researchers set out to examine two types of antisocial behavior in children--'overt' (fighting, temper tantrums) and 'covert' (stealing, lying, truancy, falling in with bad companions). Their findings: the worst troublemaker, the child who engaged in both kinds of behavior (both fighting and stealing, for instance) was far more likely to come from a broken home than was the child who engaged in only one type or was well-behaved. Out of seven of the worst troublemakers in this survey, six came from divorced families."
Paul G. Shane, "Changing Patterns Among Homeless and Runaway Youth," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 59, April, 1989, 208-214: "In general, homeless youth are more likely to come from female-headed, single-parent, or reconstituted families with many children, particularly step-siblings."
R. F. Doyle, The Rape of the Male (St. Paul, Minn: Poor Richard's Press, 1976), p. 145, citing Starke Hathaway and Elio Monachesi, Adolescent Personality and Behavior, p. 8l: "More than one in three children of broken families drop out of school."
Yochanan Peres and Rachel Pasternack, "The Importance of Marriage for Socialization: A Comparison of Achievements and Social Adjustment Between Offspring of One- and Two-Parent Families in Israel," in Contemporary Marriage: Comparative Perspectus of a Changing Institution, ed. Kingsley Davis in association with Amyra Grossbard-Schechtman (New York: Russell Sage Foundation, 1985), pp. 162ff.: "Table 6.2 shows that in all three subject matters [Arithmetic, English, Hebrew] children of matrifocal families have significantly lower scholastic achievement than children raised in two-parent families....
To make sure that these differences in achievement are not due to background factors, we applied a multivariate regression analysis to the data. Table 6.3 indicates that when many relevant background factors are controlled, children of intact families performed significantly better in arithmetic than children from matrifocal families....Similar regressions run on English and Hebrew scores also showed a highly significant new effect of parental marital status on achievement. In addition, regressions run on a sample from which children of hostile families and their controls were excluded (thus allowing us to assess the effect of 'pure' matrifocality) demonstrate that matrifocality has highly significant (negative) influence on all three measures of children's scholastic achievements. A similar overall detriment from father absence has been reported by several investigators over the last two decades.
Dale J. Hu et al., "Healthcare Needs for Children of the Recently Homeless," Journal of Community Health, 14, 1989, 1-7; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1989: "Homeless children are usually fatherless children as well. In a recent survey of thirty parents with children in a homeless shelter in San Diego, researchers talked with only two fathers and with relatively few married mothers. Nine of the homeless parents interviewed had never married, while ten were separated, divorced or widowed, making a total of 63 percent of the homeless parents interviewed who were living without a spouse."
James Coleman, "Educational Achievement: What We Can Learn from the Catholic Schools," Associates Memo, Manhattan Institute for Policy Research, No. 15, November 4, l988: "It is important to remember that schools as we know them have never been very successful with weak families. These days many more families have become weak, either because they are single-parent families or because both parents are working and the family cannot devote sufficient time and attention to children."
Henry B. Biller and Richard S. Solomon, Child Maltreatment and Paternal Deprivation: A Manifesto for Research, Prevention and Treatment (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath and Company, 1986), p. 136: "[C]omparison of children who have from an early age been consistently deprived of paternal influence with those who have had actively and positively involved fathers clearly reveals that the former are generally less adequate in their functioning and development."
Ibid., p 151: "The first investigator to present data suggesting an intellectual disadvantage among father-absent children was Sutherland (l930). In an ambitious study involving Scottish children, he discovered that those who were father-absent scored significantly lower than did those who were father-present....A number of more recent and better controlled studies are also generally consistent with the supposition that father-absent children, at least from lower-class backgrounds, are less likely to function well on intelligence and aptitude tests than are father-present children....
"Maxwell (l96l) reported some evidence indicating that father-absence after the age of five negatively influences children's functioning on certain cognitive tasks. He analyzed the Wechsler Intelligence Test scores of a large group of eight-to-thirteen-year-old children who had been referred to a British psychiatric clinic. He found that children whose fathers had been absent since the children were five performed below the norms for their age on a number of subtests. Children who had become father-absent after the age of five had lower scores on tasks tapping social knowledge, perception of details, and verbal skills. Father-absence since the age of five was the only family background variable which was consistently related to subtest scores....Compared to father-present students, those who were father-absent performed at a lower level in terms of verbal, language, and total aptitude test scores.
"In a related investigation, Landy, Rosenberg, and Sutton-Smith (l969) found that father-absence had a particularly disruptive effect on the quantitative aptitudes of college females. Total father-absence before the age of ten was highly associated with a deficit in quantitative aptitude. Their findings also suggested that father-absence during the age period from three to seven may have an especially negative effect on academic aptitude....
"For both boys and girls, father-absence was associated with relatively low ability in perceptual-motor and manipulative-spatial tasks (block design and object assembly). Father-absent boys also scored lower than did father-present boys on the arithmetic subtest....In a study with black elementary-school boys, Cortes and Fleming (l968) also reported an association between father-absence and poor mathematical functioning."
Ibid., p 154: "The high father-present group was very superior to the other three groups. With respect to both grades and achievement test scores, the early father-absent boys were generally underachievers, the late father-absent boys and low father-present boys usually functioned somewhat below grade level, and the high father-present group performed above grade level.
"The early father-absent boys were consistently handicapped in their academic performance. They scored significantly lower on every achievement test index as well as in their grades....
"Santrock (l972) presented additional evidence indicating that early father-absence can have a significant debilitating effect on cognitive functioning. Among lower-class junior high and high school children, those who became father-absent before the age of five, and particularly before the age of two, generally scored significantly lower on measures of IQ (Otis Quick Test) and achievement (Stanford Achievement Test) that had been administered when they were in the third and sixth grades than did those from intact homes. The most detrimental effects occurred when father-absence was due to divorce, desertion, or separation, rather than to death....
"Hetherington, Cox and Cox...also reported data indicating that early father-absence can impede cognitive development. They found differences between the cognitive functioning of young boys (five- and six-year-olds) who had been father-absent for two years because of divorce and that of boys from intact families Boys from intact families scored significantly higher on the block design, mazes, and arithmetic subtests of the WIPSI as well as achieving higher Performance Scale Intelligence scores and marginally higher Full-Scale Intelligence scores. Other data from this study clearly suggest that the decreasing availability of the divorced fathers for their sons during the two years following the divorce was a major factor in these boys' lower level of performance compared with boys from intact families."
Ibid., p. 155: "There is evidence that early paternal deprivation has a cumulative impact as the child grows older. In her excellent review, Radin (l98l) noted several studies that indicated few if any cognitive differences associated with father-absence for black children entering first grade, but evidence of clear-cut superiority of father-present children by the later elementary-school years. Differences in academic performance as a function of variations in the quality of early father involvement seem to become more apparent as children grow older...."
Henry B. Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath and Company, 1971), p. 57: "Investigators have found that among lower-class black children, those who are father-absent score lower on intelligence and achievement tests than do those who are father-present."
Ibid., p. 59: "Boys from high father-present families are more likely to actualize their intellectual potential than are boys from families in which the father is absent or relatively unavailable."
Ibid., p. 60: "Barclay and Cusumano's data [Barclay, A. G. and Cusumano, D., "Father-Absence, Cross-Sex Identity, and Field-Dependent Behavior in Male Adolescents." Child Development, l967, 38, 243-50] point to difficulties in analytical functioning being associated with father-absence. Using Witkin's rod and frame procedure, these investigators found that, among adolescent males, those who were father-absent were more field-dependent than those who were father-present. Field dependence relates to an inability to ignore irrelevant environmental cues in the analysis of certain types of problems."
Ibid., p. 63: "For example, among children in the lower class, father-absence usually intensifies lack of exposure to experiences linking intellectual activities with masculine interests. Many boys, in their intense efforts to view themselves as totally masculine, perceive intellectual tasks and school in general as feminine. When the school presents women as authority figures and makes strong demands for obedience and conformity, it is particularly antithetical to such boys' desperate attempts to feel masculine."
John Guidubaldi and Joseph D. Perry, "Divorce, Socioeconomic Status, and Children's Cognitive-Social Competence at School Entry," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry 54 (3). July, l984, 459-68: "The direction of the relationships indicates that children from single-parent homes tended to have significantly lower academic and personal-social competencies than did children from two-parent families....This study provides evidence that children from divorced family homes enter school with significantly less social and academic competence than those from intact families....[S]ingle-parent status resulting from divorce predicts poor academic and social school entry competence in addition to and independent of SES [socio-economic status]."
Rex Forehand, et al., "Adolescent Functioning as a Consequence of Recent Parental Divorce and the Parent-Adolescent Relationship," Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology, 8, [l987], 305-15; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, June, l988: "University of Georgia researchers found that those from broken homes had greater difficulties both with their classes and with their relations with their peers. 'Adolescents from intact homes had higher grades and were perceived as more socially competent by teachers,' the authors report. Their explanation: 'When parents divorce, their use of effective monitoring and disciplinary procedures, as well as their positive relationship with their children, may diminish. As a consequence, the social competence and cognitive performance of the child...may deteriorate.'"
Patricia Moran and Allan Barclay, "Effects of Fathers' Absence on Delinquent Boys: Dependency and Hyper-masculinity," Psychological Reports 62 [l988], ll5-121; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, June, l988: "[W]hen the father is absent from the home, young black males experience 'less internalization of society's norms.' Drs. Moran and Barclay suggest that it is precisely this 'lack of internalized norms' which may be responsible for 'behavior of an antisocial and delinquent nature.'
"Intriguingly, the new study found that black delinquents whose fathers were absent were 'more overtly masculine in their expressed interests and behavior' than were black adolescents whose fathers were present.' The authors speculate that 'delinquency represents defensive coping' among black youth who develop attitudes of 'hypermasculinity' to compensate for the absence of their fathers."
David H. Demo and Alan C. Acock, "The Impact of Divorce on Children," Journal of Marriage and the Family, 50 [August, 1988], 619-48; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1988: "Young children, particularly boys, are hard hit by divorce. Children of various ages are disadvantaged in school performance. Children 'in disrupted families experience problems in peer relations, while adolescents in such families tend to be more active in dating and sexual relations.' And 'research on antisocial behavior consistently illustrates that adolescents in mother-only households and in conflict-ridden families are more prone to commit delinquent acts.'"
Gary Bauer, "Report to the President from the White House Working Group on the Family," quoted in Phyllis Schlafly Report, February, 1988: "A two-year study funded by Kent State, the William T. Grant Foundation and the National Association of School Psychologists, found that there were substantial differences between children of intact families and those of divorced families. "Children of divorce also are absent from school more frequently and are more likely to repeat a grade, to be placed in remedial reading classes and to be referred to a school psychologist,' says the study of 699 randomly chosen first, third and fifth graders in 38 states. In addition, John Guidubaldi, Professor of Early Childhood Education and director of the study, noted 'far more detrimental effects of divorce on boys than on girls. Disruptions in boys' classroom behavior and academic performance increased 'noticeably' throughout elementary school. Boys, he speculated, are much more affected by their parents' divorce because children fare better with single parents of the same sex, and 90 percent of all custody rights go to mothers."
Gilbert C. Hentschke [dean of the school of education, USC] and Lydia Lopez, co-chairpersons of the Education Working Group of the 2000 Partnership, Los Angeles Times, 30 August, 1989: "After several years of education reforms, it is more evident than ever that our Los Angeles public schools are failing....About 60% of the district's children come from impoverished families. While some poor children do succeed, poverty is closely correlated with failure, especially for children from single-parent families, according to a recent national study. The study also notes that poor students are three times more likely than others to become dropouts.
"These children who are failing swell the ranks of functionally illiterate adults (now estimated to be 20% of the population in Los Angeles County). They enter the economy at the bottom where they are likely to stay."
Henry Biller and Dennis Meredith, Father Power (Garden City, N. Y.: Anchor Books, 1975), p. 236: "The high father-present boys consistently received superior grades and performed above grade level on achievement tests. The late father-absent and low father-present boys scored a little below grade level on achievement tests. The lowest scores were achieved by the early father-absent group."
Maxine Thompson, Karl L. Alexander, and Doris R. Entwisle, "Household Composition, Parental Expectations, and School Achievement," Social Forces, 67, Dec., 1988, 424-451; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, April, 1989: "Married black couples expect better school performance from their children than do single black parents- -and their children respond accordingly. In a recent study conducted at the Johns Hopkins University and North Carolina State University, researchers found that black first-grade students from married-couple households outperform their peers from single-parent households....The researchers stress that these gaps cannot be explained by economic differences nor by any discernible differences in initial ability levels."
Frank J. Sciara, "Effects of Father Absence on the Educational Achievement of Urban Black Children," Child Study Journal, 5, No. 1, 1975, p. 45: "The analysis of variance revealed significant differences favoring the academic achievement of both boys and girls from father present homes in the two test areas. Father absence had a much greater effect on the achievement scores of boys and girls in this study whose IQ was above 100."
Ibid., p. 52: "From the analysis of the results, it would appear that for the 1,073 fourth grade Black children represented in this study, those from father present homes attained a significantly higher educational achievement level than those children from the same group coming from father absent homes.. This finding was consistent in both the reading and the arithmetic tests, affecting both boys and girls. When the group was analyzed by the three levels of IQ, the father absent children achieved lower reading and arithmetic scores than those from father present homes."
Betty Arras, California Monitor of Education [now National Monitor of Education], February, 1985: "As a kindergarten teacher in the late fifties in a ghetto school in Oakland, California, I can personally testify to the negative impact of the broken home upon school achievement and emotional stability. My observation shared by virtually all my colleagues in that school was that broken homes hurt children in every way- -emotionally, academically, and socially. Obviously, there are children from single parent homes who grow up with few emotional scars but generally speaking, the elements for personality disintegration are more common in the broken home. Because of increasing numbers of families in which both parents work spending less time at home, children in both these and single-parent homes tend to experience a lack of nurturing. All children need psychological nourishment whether it be in the form of supporting them in their feelings, soothing their anxieties, helping them with homework, or just sharing conversation. What is frequently missing in the broken home is a lack of parental supervision which can result in feelings of isolation, excessive freedom or responsibility which the child cannot handle, and/or lack of attention and affection. In broken homes of the welfare variety there is the problem of no father figure with whom the sons can identity.
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"On February 5, ABC-TV national news aired the first in a series about violent crime in the cities. A New York City policeman who was interviewed pointed out that nearly all juveniles who commit violent crimes come from broken homes."
PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS
Neil Kalter, "Long-term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Developmental Vulnerability Model," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 57 (4), October, l987: "A large national survey revealed that more than twice as many children of divorce, compared to youngsters from intact families, had seen a mental health professional. In a representative national sample, men and women who were l6 years of age or younger when their parents divorced reported significantly higher divorce rates, more work-related problems, and higher levels of emotional distress than did their counterparts who grew up in intact families. In addition to these rigorous cross-sectional studies, recent findings from two conceptually and methodologically diverse longitudinal research projects also indicate that divorce-related difficulties persist over time for many children....Clinical and research investigations have indicated that children of divorce constitute a population at risk for developing particular emotional, social, and behavioral problems that either persist or first appear years after the marital rupture. Prominent among these are aggressive and antisocial (externalizing) problems, sadness, depression, and self-esteem (internalizing) problems; and difficulty establishing and maintaining mutually enhancing heterosexual relationships."
Adelaide M. Johnson and S. A. Szurels, "The Genesis of Antisocial Acting Out in Children and Adults," Psychoanalytic Quarterly, 1952, 21: 323-343; quoted in Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique (New York: W. W. Norton, 1963), p. 297: "Regularly the more important parent- -usually the mother, although the father is always in some way involved- -has been seen unconsciously to encourage the amoral or antisocial behavior of the child. The neurotic needs of the parent...are vicariously gratified by the behavior of the child. Such neurotic needs of the parent exist either because of some current inability to satisfy them in the world of adults, or because of the stunting experiences in the parent's own childhood- -or more commonly, because of a combination of both of these factors."
Carol Z. Garrison, "Epidemiology of Depressive Symptoms in Young Adolescents," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 28, 1989, 343-351; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1989: "Teens living in single-parent or step-family households are more likely to suffer from depression than teens living in intact families.... Persistent symptoms of depression showed up significantly less often among young teens living with both natural parents than among peers living with only one parent or with one parent and a stepparent."
John Beer, "Relation of Divorce to Self-Concepts and Grade Point Averages of Fifth Grade School Children," Psychological Reports, 65 [1989], 104-106; quoted in The Family in America: New Research, December, 1989: "Children from divorced homes score lower on self-concept than do children from nondivorced homes."
Berthold Berg and Lawrence A. Kurdek, "Children's Beliefs About Parental Divorce Scale: Psychometric Characteristics and Concurrent Validity," Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 55, [October, 1987], 712-18; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, January, 1988: "In a recent study of 170 children (ranging in age from six to 17) with divorced parents, psychologists at the University of Dayton and Wright State University uncovered a disturbing pattern. The research team found that many of the children surveyed expressed one or more 'problematic beliefs' about their parents' divorce. Over one-fourth of the children blamed themselves for their parents' divorce and suffered 'low self-concepts.' Over one-fourth of children also harbored illusory hopes that 'once my parents realize how much I want them to, they'll live together again.' Approximately one-third express 'fear of abandonment' by their parents, a fear which actually appears higher among children whose divorced mothers have remarried than among children whose divorced mothers have not remarried."
Tony Campolo, "Too Old, Too Soon: The New Junior Higher," Youthworker, 4, [Spring, 1987], 20-25; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, August, 1987: "...Dr. Compolo observes that young Americans now 'do things in their early teens that a generation ago were reserved for older high schoolers.' The primary reason for this 'transformation of junior highers,' he believes, is the 'diminishing presence of parents' in the lives of young adolescents. Because many of them live in single-parent homes or in two-income homes where both parents are 'out of their homes much of the time,' young teenagers are 'left with the freedom to do what they want to do.'...Dr. Campolo reports that many young teenagers become 'emotionally disturbed and psychologically disoriented' when given personal autonomy prematurely."
Carolyn Webster-Stratton, "The Relationship of Marital Support, Conflict and Divorce to Parent Perceptions, Behaviors, and Childhood Conduct Problems," Journal of Marriage and the Family, 51 [1989], 417-30, quoted in The Family in America: New Research, October, 1989: "Compared with the maritally distressed [households in which couples reported relatively unsatisfactory marriages] and supported [households in which mothers reported satisfactory marriages] mother groups, single mothers reported more parenting stress and perceived their children as having significantly more behavior problems."
Robert Zagar, et. al., "Developmental and Disruptive Behavior Disorders among Delinquents," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 28 (1989), 437-440; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, September, 1989: "Psychotic delinquents rarely come from intact families. Officials documented a familiar pattern in a recent survey of almost 2,000 children and adolescents referred by the Circuit Court of Cook County- -Juvenile Division for psychiatric evaluation. This group of troubled children included 84 orphans (4 percent), 1,272 from single-parent homes (65 percent), 269 from stepparent families (14 percent) and just 331 from two-parent families (17 percent).
"As the court officials noted in reporting their findings, there was nothing new about the linkage between delinquency and broken homes."
Statement of William P. Wilson, M. D., Professor of Psychiatry, Duke University Medical Center, Durham, N. C. to the House Select Committee on Children, Youth, and Families, 10 November, 1983; printed in Paternal Absence and Fathers' Roles, U. S. Government Printing Office, 1984, pp. 12ff.: "As you know, it is estimated that 40 percent of children born in America today will grow up in a broken home. In 1974 only 14 percent of children could anticipate this fate. At that time 18 million children experienced a disruption of parental relationship. Since 85 percent of the parents remarried, and of these 40 percent divorced a second time, a huge percentage of children could expect to experience the trauma of a broken home more than twice.
"These children are at risk psychiatrically. The risks are as follows: First, the child may become psychiatrically disturbed; second, that they may turn away from marriage as a satisfactory mode of human relationships; and third, the children of divorce can develop psychiatric disorders in later adult life that have as their origin the broken home which is at the least a contributing factor.
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"Now, after children of divorce marry many problems arise in role modeling. Young men often have problems because the mother projects a variety of role models. Sometimes she has turned her son into a substitute husband. Other times she takes out all of her hostility and anger on him and attributes to him the same problems that his father had, the same personality patterns. If he tries to live up to her expectations he finds that it is beyond his capacity. Children of divorce also have poor impulse control.
"Many mothers feel incapable of administering firm discipline. If you have a 6 foot 2 son and the mother is 5 foot 4, it is difficult for her to discipline that child and deal with him in a way that is effective.
"Since the behavior of parents before, during, and after divorce most often reflects a disparate value system, the child also grown up with poorly defined values.
"In the past our interest has been in comparing the homelife of normal people with people with mental problems. We came to the conclusion that normal people come from homes where there is a stable, harmonious marriage of the parents, where there is love and order in the home, where there is administration of consistent and just discipline, where roles are well defined, and where the presentation of a traditional value system is presented, and where there is a philosophy to live by, this gives some structure to their thinking and to their lives.
"The studies of people like Grinker, Valliant and ourselves have clearly demonstrated the influence of these particular basic principles of home life.
"In contrast, the observations of Sheldon and Eleanor Glueck of people who have been delinquent- -have clearly demonstrated that you can grow up in the ghetto, and if you have a well-structured home life, your chances of being a normal person and being out of that ghetto in a few years- -is extremely high. Whereas if you grow up in a broken home with an harassed mother where value systems are poorly presented and where discipline is often harsh and unjust and inconsistent, you will grow up to be delinquent. At the end of 20 years' followup, you will still be delinquent and still living in the ghetto.
"The same thing can be said to be true about heroin addicts and alcoholics. In our study of over 450 alcoholics and 80 heroin addicts--we found that the absent father is a very common phenomenon. As a matter of fact, it is the rule rather than the exception.
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"We find also that there is enormous distortion in the structure of the homes of manic depressive patients and schizophrenic patients. There father operates in roles which are grossly distorted. Many times they are emotionally absent.
"In a different version, Frances Welsing had emphasized that the biggest problem facing blacks in America today is the absence of the father from the home and the role reversals found in the black family. Her observations now are beginning to apply equally to all families, whether they are black or white or other racial origins.
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"Finally I would add that we also have looked at the family structure of abused children who have grown up. Most of these children are now what we call borderline personality disorders. They too often have a father who is in and out of the home or is not available on a consistent basis.
"Now, just to summarize what I had to say, and I did not prepare any long statements because I think the data and the literature speaks for itself. The absence of the father from the home has the following effects on a growing child:
"After the second year of life it profoundly distorts the development of normal role assumption. A person really does not come to know who he is within his own sex. Second, it is a primary cause of low self-esteem....[Coopersmith's] work and the work of Rosenberg has shown that the father's presence in the home is an absolute necessity for the development of good self-esteem in males. Our own studies have demonstrated quite clearly that it is also necessary for the mother to be in the home for a female to develop good self-esteem.
"Third, it created a model of separation and/or divorce for the management of marital conflict in their own lives as they become adults.
"Fourth, it also distorts values development so that the child has a tendency to adopt peer values rather than the conventional values of the parent with whom they continue to live. We find this very frequently among heroin addicts and alcoholics."
Ibid., p. 97: "[A]bout half of the kids who come from broken homes end up with a broken home fairly promptly after they contract their first marriage."
Ibid., pp. 79ff.: Statement of Henry B. Biller, Ph.D, Professor of Psychology, University of Rhode Island to House Committee on Children, Youth, and Families, 10 November, 1984: "There is much evidence that paternally deprived children are more at risk for cognitive and behavioral adjustment difficulties and are more vulnerable to negative developmental influences than are adequately fathered children.
................................................................. "Father-absent males seem particularly likely to develop insecurity in their self-concept and sexuality. There is some evidence that males are more affected by father absence than are females, but there is a growing body of research which supports the conclusion that by adolescence, females are at least as much influenced in their interpersonal and heterosexual development by father absence as are males.
"Research points to a particularly high frequency of early and continuing father absence among emotionally disturbed children and adults. Of course, in some cases constitutionally atypical children contribute to the development of marital stress, conflict and parental separation.
"Some data indicate that individuals who suffered early father loss because of their father's death are more likely to show symptoms of inhibition, lack of assertiveness, anxiety and depression, but are less likely to have the cognitive, academic and impulse control problems often found in children of divorced parents.
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"Much of the interest in paternal deprivation has been an outcome of growing concern with the psychological, social and economic disadvantages often suffered by fatherless children. There is much evidence that paternally-deprived children are more at-risk for cognitive and behavioral adjustment difficulties, and are more vulnerable to negative developmental influences than are adequately fathered children.
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"Father absence before the age of four or five appears to have a more disruptive effect on the individual's personality development than does father absence beginning at a later period. For example, children who become father absent before the age of four or five are likely to have more difficulties in their sex role and sexual adjustment than either father-present children or children who become father-absent at a later time. Father-absent males seem particularly likely to develop insecurity in their self-concept and sexuality even though they may strive to be highly masculine in more manifest aspects of their behavior.
"Other data have indicated that early father absence is often associated with difficulties in intellectual and academic functioning (particularly analytical and quantitative abilities), a low level of independence and assertiveness in peer relations, feelings of inferiority and mistrust of others, antisocial and delinquent behavior, and difficulties in later occupational performance.
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"Both boys and girls need to learn how to relate with adult males. Many children who are paternally deprived become enmeshed in a cycle of difficulty in establishing intimate relationships that continues into adulthood and interferes with the development of a stable family life. The experience of divorce is likely to be a family heirloom that extends into the next generation. Growing up with divorced parents does relate to increased risks in development, although certainly some children who have been subjected to divorce, and broken homes, strive and succeed as adults to have very stable, positive marital and family relationships.
"But in a general way there may be a kind of generation-to-generation effect relating to the divorce experience not only in disadvantaged families, but also among the affluent."
Ibid., pp. 86ff., Statement of Michael E. Lamb, Professor, Department of Psychology, Psychiatry and Pediatrics, University of Utah to House Select Committee on Children, Youth, and Families, 10 November, 1984: "As Dr. Biller reported, it appears in general that boys whose fathers are absent, usually due to divorce, tend to manifest problems in the areas of achievement, motivation, school performance, psychological adjustment, and heterosexual relationships. They also tend to manifest less stereotypically masculine sex roles and may have difficulties in the areas of self-control and aggression.
"The effects seem to be most marked when the father's absence begins early, and at least some effects can be ameliorated by having substitute relationships with males such as stepfathers, grandfathers, and so on. At least in the areas of sex role and achievement, the effects of psychological father absence appear qualitatively similar to, although quantitatively less than, the effects of physical father absence.
"The effects of father absence on girls have been less thoroughly studied and appear to be less severe than the effects on boys. Problems in heterosexual relationships may emerge in adolescence even though, as in boys, the effects again are more severe when father absence began earlier.
Ibid., p. 111. Statement of David W. Bahlmann, Executive Vice President of Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America, and Chair of the National Collaboration for Youth: "Present research indicates that children from one-parent homes show lower achievement and present more discipline problems than do their peers. It also shows that they tend to be absent from school more often, late to school more often, and may show more health problems than do their peers."
Ibid., p. 128. Statement of Rev. Herman Heade, Jr., National Director of Urban Affairs and Church Relations, Prison Fellowship, Washington,D.C.: "[P]aternally deprived individuals are overrepresented among individuals with psychological problems."
Heather Munroe Blum, et al., "Single Parent Families: Academic and Psychiatric Risk," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 27 [1988], 214-219; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1988: "The children of broken homes are frequently emotionally disturbed and academically incompetent. In a new study of nearly 3,000 Canadian children (ages 4-16), researchers found that 'children with psychiatric disorder are 1.7 times more likely to be from a single-parent family than a two-parent family.' One major disturbance--'conduct disorder'--was found to be well over twice as common in children of single parents. The same children who are suffering emotionally are also suffering educationally: 'single-parent children are 1.7 times as likely to demonstrate poor school performance as are two-parent children.'
"Perhaps fearful of antagonizing some feminists, the authors suggest that it is poverty, not divorce and illegitimacy, that is the cause of the children's problems. They state that, when household income is allowed for, single-parent family status 'does not have a significant independent relationship with either child psychiatric disorder or poor school performance, except in particular subgroups'(emphasis added). But the list of 'particular subgroups' who suffer in one-parent homes regardless of income turns out to be surprisingly inclusive: "rural children, girls, and older boys.' Since when were girls merely a 'particular subgroup' of the young population? Furthermore, the authors concede, 'the younger boys might also develop problems' in later years."
Richard Polanco, Los Angeles Times, 7 May, 1989: "As of 1988, more than 35,000 adolescents nationwide were in psychiatric treatment in the private sector. This figure has doubled since 1980, and the numbers are growing....The absence of involvement of the father in so many post-divorce families, coupled with the overburdened state of many single mothers, seems at least partly responsible for the prevalence of externalizing, aggressive behavior problems among children of divorce."
Elyce Wakerman, Father Loss: Daughters Discuss the Man that Got Away (Garden City, N. Y: Doubleday, 1984), p. l09: "A study of teenage girls by Dr. E. Mavis Hetherington revealed that daughters of divorced parents had lower self-esteem than those of intact or widowed families. By aligning with mother's anger, they may have blunted the reconciliation wish, but it was at the cost of their own self-image. Describing the self-defeating pattern, Deidre Laiken writes, 'Being one with Mother means relinquishing our natural and necessary longings for Father...[But] low self-esteem is a natural and very evident result of a merger with the...parent who was left...' Identifying with the rejected female, as most daughters of divorce do, has two other, far-reaching influences on the young girl's developing attitudes. First, she may incorporate her mother's bitterness and distrust of men. And she is reluctant to succeed where her mother has failed. Having lost her father, she is acutely dependent on her mother's continued affection, and to surpass her in the romantic arena would be to risk separation from her one remaining parent."
Ibid., p. 169: "It is little wonder that fatherless girls are visibly anxious around men. In fact, both fatherless groups in the Hetherington study scored a higher overall anxiety level on the Manifest Anxiety Scale than did girls with fathers at home. Craving male attention, they are equally resolved to remain invulnerable. They would like to be loved, without the threat posed by loving. That way, the need for approval may be safely gratified and the attachment to father unrelinquished."
Sara McLanahan and Larry Bumpass, "Intergenerational Consequences of Family Disruption," American Journal of Sociology 4 [July, l988], l30-52; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, October, l988: "In a new study at the University of Wisconsin, sociologists found that daughters raised in single-parent households do not do well in building successful family life as adults. A particularly striking pattern emerged among white women who had lived in a single-parent family created through divorce or illegitimacy. Compared to white women raised in intact families, these women were '53 percent more likely to have teenage marriages, 111 percent more likely to have teenage births, l64 percent more likely to have premarital births, and 92 percent more likely to experience marital disruptions.' Overall, 'there appears to be some lower family orientation associated with one-parent childhood experience.'...The study concludes that the present upheaval in the American family is liable to have aftershocks which will be felt for generations to come: 'More than half of today's children will have had family experiences that are likely to have negative consequences for their
subsequent marital and fertility life courses.'"
Alfred A. Messer, "Boys' Father Hunger: The Missing Father Syndrome," Medical Aspects of Human Sexuality, 23, January, 1989, 44-47, epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1989: "Nightmares often trouble the sleep of young boys who have lost their fathers. A psychiatrist at Northside Hospital in Atlanta, Georgia, Alfred A. Messer describes 'father hunger' as 'the newest syndrome described by child psychiatrists.' Dr. Messer reports that this syndrome, which occurs in boys ages 18 to 36 months, 'consists primarily of sleep disturbances, such as trouble falling asleep, nightmares, and night terrors, and coincides with the recent loss of the father due to divorce or separation....In boys who exhibit the father-hunger syndrome, these sleep disturbances usually begin within one to three months after the father leaves home.'
"Young boys suffer from troubled sleep because of 'the abrupt loss of a father' during a 'critical period of gender development.' Dr. Messer explains that 'children recognize the difference between maleness and femaleness as early as 14 months of age' and that between the ages of 18 to 36 months, a young boy 'learns to establish his physical and gender role identity.' 'If the young boy is deprived of the father's presence, the result can be deeply traumatic,' Messer emphasizes. When the father is absent, the young boy may 'remain in a prolonged state of dependence on the mother, with "sissy" behavior often a concomitant.'"
Henry Biller, Father, Child and Sex Role (Lexington, Mass: D. C. Heath and Company, 1971), p. 3: "In a very thorough investigation, Stolz et al. [Stolz, L. M., et al. Father Relations of War-Born Children. Stanford: Stanford University Press, l954] gathered data concerning four- to eight-year-old children who from approximately the first two years of their lives had been separated from their fathers. Interview results revealed that the previously father-separated boys were generally perceived by their fathers as being 'sissies.' Careful observation of these boys supported this view. They were less assertively aggressive and independent in their peer relations than boys who had not been separated from their fathers; they were more often observed to be very submissive or to react with immature hostility."
Ibid., pp. 6f.: "A study of lower-class fifth grade boys by Santrock [Santrock, J. W., "Influence of Onset and Type of Paternal Absence on the First Four Eriksonian Developmental Crises," Developmental Psychology, l970, 3, 273-4.] revealed that boys who became father-absent before the age of two were more handicapped in terms of several dimensions of personality development than were boys who became father-absent at a later age. For example, boys who became father-absent before age two were found to be less trusting, less industrious, and to have more feelings of inferiority than boys who became father-absent between the ages of three to five. The impact of early paternal deprivation is also supported by Carlsmith's findings [Carlsmith, L., "Effect of Early Father-Absence on Scholastic Aptitude," Harvard Educational Review, l964, 34, 3-21] concerning cognitive functioning. Additional evidence is consistent with the supposition that early father-absence is associated with a heightened susceptibility to a variety of psychological problems."
Ibid., p. 14: "However, many boys separated from their fathers between the ages of 6 and 12 exhibited a feminine-aggressive pattern of behavior. A feminine-aggressive pattern of behavior can be a consequence of sex-role conflict and insecurity. It is interesting that Tiller [Tiller, P. O., "Father-Absence and Personality Development of Children in Sailor Families," Nordisk Psyckologi's Monograph Series, 1958, 9, 1-48] described a somewhat similar pattern of behavior for Norwegian father-separated boys."
Ibid., p. 18: "Comparisons of father-absent and father-present boys suggested that availability of the father is an important factor in the masculine development of young boys. There is evidence that the young father-absent boy is more dependent, less aggressive, and less competent in peer relationships than his father-present counterpart. He seems likely to have an unmasculine self-concept."
Ibid., p. 65: "In societies in which fathers have little contact with their young children, there is more of a tendency to blame others and/or supernatural beings for one's illness. Blaming one's self for illness was strongest in nuclear households and least in polygamous mother-child households. Such evidence is also consistent with the view that paternal deprivation can inhibit the development of trust in others."
Ibid., p. 65: "Father-absent boys consistently scored lower than father-present boys on a variety of moral indexes. They scored lower on measures of internal moral judgement, guilt following transgressions, acceptance of blame, moral values, and rule-conformity."
Ibid., p. 65: "A number of clinicians including Aichorn [Aichorn, A., Wayward Youth, New York: Viking Press, l935] and Lederer [Lederer, W. "Dragons, Delinquents, and Destiny," Psychological Issues, l964, 4, (Whole No. 3)] have speculated about inadequacies in the conscience development of the father-absent boy. In his experience as a psychotherapist, Meerloo [Meerloo, J. A. M., "The Father Cuts the Cord: The Role of the Father as Initial Transference Figure," American Journal of Psychotherapy, l956, l0, 471-80] found that a lack of accurate time perception is also common among father-absent children. Meerloo assumed that the father represents social order and that his adherence to time schedules gives the child an important lesson in social functioning. The paternally deprived boy may find it very difficult to follow the rules of society. Antisocial acts are often impulsive as well as aggressive, and there is evidence that inability to delay gratification is associated with inaccurate time perception, lack of social responsibility, low achievement motivation, and juvenile delinquency....the father-absent boy may lack a model from whom to learn to delay gratification and to control his aggressive and destructive impulses. A boy who has experienced paternal deprivation may have particular difficulty in respecting and communicating with adult males in positions of authority. There is some evidence that perceived similarity to father is related to positive relationships with authority figures....The boy whose father has set limits for him- -in a nurturant and realistic manner- -is better able to set limits for himself. Investigators have found that boys who receive appropriate and consistent discipline from their fathers are less likely to commit delinquent acts even if they are gang members."
Irma Moilanen and Paula Rantakallio, "The Single Parent Family and the Child's Mental Health," Social Science and Medicine, 27 [l988], l8l-6; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, October, l988: "The evidence mounts that children without two parents are much more likely to develop psychiatric problems....Finnish researchers found that children from single-parent homes were at significantly greater risk from most psychiatric disorders than children from intact homes. Those who had only one parent through the child's life were at greatest risk: boys were three times as likely to be disturbed as their counterparts from intact families, and girls were four times as likely to be disturbed. Nor was the harm strictly mental."
Patricia Cohen and Judith Brook, "Family Factors Related to the Persistence of Pshchopathology in Childhood and Adolescence," Psychiatry 50 [November, 1987]: 332-345; quoted in The Family in America, April, 1988: "One-parent families and families with multiple marital disruptions are apparently unable to mount effective means of counteracting pathological reactions that have developed in their children."
R. G. Robertson, et al., "The Female Offender: A Canadian Study," Canadian Journal of Psychiatry, 32 [December, 1987], 749-755; epitomized in The Family in America, April, 1988: "Two thirds had children, but almost as many had never been married, and less than one in 10 was married at the time of her arrest. The majority...were single or divorced mothers. Most came from broken homes...."
Viktor Gecas, "Born in the USA in the 1980's: Growing Up in Difficult Times," Journal of Family Issues 8 [December, 1987], 434-436; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1988: "'What are the consequences of these family trends [rising levels of divorce, illegitimacy and maternal employment] for child rearing? Not good. At the very least, these trends suggest decreasing contact between parents and children, and decreasing parental involvement in child rearing....Poor cognitive and emotional development, low self-esteem, low self-efficiency, antisocial behavior, and pathologies of various kinds are some of the consequences.'
"Professor Gecas blames family breakdown for the disturbing levels of drug use, teen pregnancy, teen suicide, delinquency, and academic failure now found in America. Nothing, he urges, could be more important than to strengthen the family 'if the next generation is to have much of a chance.'"
Richard Dalton, et al., "Psychiatric Hospitalization of Preschool Children: Admission Factors and Discharge Implications," Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, 26, No. 3 [May, 1987], 308-12; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, August, 1987: "When preschoolers end up in psychiatric wards, they typically come from homes where there is no father and where the mother is herself mentally disturbed....In assessing the 'family situation' of all of the preschool children admitted to the psychiatric units of two New Orleans hospitals over a 34-month period, [Dalton's] study found a depressingly uniform pattern. When preschool autistic patients were excluded from the sample, it was found that the fathers were not living in the homes of almost 80 percent of the preschool patients and that the mothers suffered with 'major psychiatric disorders' in over 90 percent of the homes. The authors of the study observe that 'the data reflect the fact that most of the preschoolers were hospitalized because their severe symptoms could be neither contained nor successfully treated within their disturbed and unsupported family settings.'"
Boris M. Segal, "A Borderline Style of Functioning--the Role of Family, Society and Heredity: An Overview," Child Psychiatry and Human Development, 18 [Summer, 1988], 219-238; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1988: "According to psychiatrist Boris M. Segal, the 'borderline style of functioning' (a diagnosis used 'to describe conditions which lie between psychosis and neurosis') should be understood as a symptom of a broader social malaise. Dr. Segal concludes that 'borderline organization' is increasing among Americans in part because of the 'decline of paternal authority.' 'The decline of the father-centered family...has left children to develop their own standards of behavior. This new freedom has been conducive...to such modern phenomena as lack of discipline and lack of a feeling of duty, overindulgence, narcissism, hedonism, sexual permissiveness, intolerance to frustration, [and] sex role confusion....All these behavioral patterns meet certain criteria of borderline organization.' Dr. Segal observes that 'disorganization of the family lead[s] to the loss of its protective functions....Children who have been brought up in "broken homes"...tend to develop a high rate of borderline pathology.'"
Irwin Garfinkel and Sara S. McLanahan, Single Mothers and Their Children: A New American Dilemma (Washington, D. C.: The Urban Institute Press, 1986), pp. 1f.: "Half of all American children born today will spend part of their childhood in a family headed by a mother who is divorced, unwed, or widowed....About half of them are poor and dependent on welfare. The mothers and children in such families also have poorer than average mental health and use a disproportionate share of community mental health services. Most important, perhaps, compared with children who grow up in two-parent (husband-wife) families, the children from mother-only families are less successful on average when they become adults. They are more likely to drop out of school, to give birth out of wedlock, to divorce or separate, and to become dependent on welfare."
Paul G. Shane, "Changing Patterns Among Homeless and Runaway Youth," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 59, 1989, 208-214; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1989: "Teenagers who turn to state officials for shelter typically come from broken families. In a recent study of over 500 homeless and runaway youth in New Jersey, Paul Shane of Rutgers University discovered a clear pattern implicating 'family breakdown as a major cause of homelessness among youth.' Professor Shane found that a remarkably low 14 percent of the youth in his study come from 'a family with both biological parents.'"
Betty Friedan, The Feminine Mystique (New York: W. W. Norton, 1963), p. 288: "[I]n recent years the "symbiosis" concept has crept with increasing frequency into the case histories of disturbed children. More and more of the new child pathologies seem to stem from that very symbiotic relationship with the mother, which has somehow kept children from becoming separate selves. These disturbed children seem to be 'acting out' the mother's unconscious wishes or conflicts- -infantile dreams she had not outgrown or given up, but was still trying to gratify for herself in the person of her child....Thus, it would seem, it is the child who supports life in the mother in that 'symbiotic' relationship, and the child is virtually destroyed in the process."
HEALTH PROBLEMS
Ronald Angel and Jacqueline Lowe Worebey, "Single Motherhood and Children's Health," Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 29 [March, 1988], 38-52; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1988: "[S]ingle mothers report poorer health in their children than do mothers in intact marriages. The authors cite a number of factors to account for this disparity. Living in poverty, many children of single mothers decline in health because of simple deprivation. Because many were low-birth-weight babies, they suffer from chronic illnesses. And some may be developing psychosomatic illnesses owing to the general misery of their lives."
Nicholas Eberstadt, researcher at Harvard's University's Center for Population Studies and the American Enterprise Institute, Los Angeles Times, 3 November, 1989: "An enormous- -and growing- -number of American children suffer from a serious health threat inflicted on them by their parents. Bluntly put, their health is at risk because they have been born out of wedlock.
"In some circles, it is fashionable to see illegitimacy merely as an 'alternataive life style,' as good as any other. From the standpoint of the children in question, this view is tragically wrongheaded. Illegitimacy, and the parental behavior that accompanies it, directly endangers the newborn and may even cost a baby its life....
"Indeed, if it were a medical condition rather than a social disorder, illegitimacy would be seen as one of the leading killers of children in America today."
Sara A. Mullett, et al., "A Comparison of Birth Outcomes by Payment Source," Minnesota Medicine, 72, [June, 1988], 365-69; Wilma Bailey, "Child Morbidity in the Kingston Metropolitan Area, Jamaica 1983," Social Science and Medicine, 26 [1988], 1117-1124; both articles epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, October, 1988: "In a new study at the University of Minnesota, researchers found that an infant's birth weight depends heavily on the mother's marital status. 'Single women,' they reported, 'had smaller infants, with a mean birth weight of 3,192 grams as compared with 3,534 grams for infants of married women.'
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"Mothers in Jamaica confront much harsher economic challenges than those in Minnesota. Yet in a recent study in Kingston, Jamaica, geographer Wilma Bailey at the University of the West Indies found a parallel pattern of impaired health among children in female-headed households compared to children in two-parent households. Dr. Bailey found a statistical correlation between the percentage of female-headed households in any given area and the hospital admissions of children in that same area. Her findings suggest 'that the children of young, unemployed and single women may be particularly vulnerable' to ill health and malnutrition. Dr. Bailey interprets her work in light of American studies which have 'documented the vulnerability of families of female-headed households in the U.S.A.'"
Lorian Baker and Dennis P. Cantwell, "Factors Associated with the Development of Psychiatric Illness in Children with Early Speech/Language Problems," Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 17 [1987], 499-507; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, July, 1988: "Children with speech problems, according to a growing body of evidence, are at risk of developing psychiatric problems. Now a new study suggests that broken homes are causing or aggravating speech-related problems. Researchers from the University of California at Los Angeles studied 600 children who were patients at a Los Angeles speech clinic, finding half of them to be psychiatrically ill. While the background of the ill children differed little from the mentally healthy in most respects--gender, parental education and occupation, birth order, language background, etc.- -one distinction stood out: the 'ill' children were nearly twice as likely to have unmarried parents."
DRUGS
Judith A. Stein, et al., "An 8-Year Study of Multiple Influences on Drug Use and Drug Use Consequences," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 53, No. 6 [December, 1987], 1094-1105; epitomized in The Family in America, March, 1988: "[N]ewer research...suggests that the family is often the most important factor in whether or not a teenager abuses drugs. In an eight-year study of 654 young people, psychologists at the University of California at Los Angeles found that early parental influence--especially parental drug use--'exerted a potent and pervasive influence on a teenager that apparently continues for many years into adulthood.' The authors also suggest that 'inadequate family structure and a lack of positive familial relationships' often lead to 'substance use...as a coping mechanism to relieve depression and anxiety.' The study stresses that parental divorce can often foster teen rebelliousness, which leads to poor selection of friends and to social perceptions conducive to drug use."
Bryce Christensen, "From Home Life to Prison Life: The Roots of American Crime," The Family in America, April, 1989, pp. 5f.: "In two new studies on drug use conducted at the University of California at Los Angeles, researchers have provided new evidence of the importance of the family. In 1987, UCLA psychologists published an eight-year study of 654 young people. Their findings demonstrate that 'inadequate family structure and a lack of positive familial relationships' often caused young people to use drugs as 'a coping mechanism to relieve depression and anxiety.' The authors also stressed that parental divorce can foster teen rebelliousness, leading to poor selection of friends and self-destructive attitudes. In a different study published just last year, UCLA psychiatrists examined drug use among 443 young people, concluding that paternal authority was decisive. In families with strict fathers, only 18 percent of the youth studied used drugs and alcohol, compared to 27 percent where fathers were less strict and 40 percent in homes with permissive fathers. Frequent drug use occurred in 35 percent of mother-dominant homes. Overall, the UCLA researchers concluded that 'with regard to youthful drug use, fathers' involvement is more important' than mothers'."
Clarence Lusane, staff aide to Rep. Walter Fauntroy, and Dennis Desmond, staff aide to D. C. Counmcilmember Hilda Mason, The Guardian, 25 October, 1989: "Women, particularly women of color, are disproportionately victimized by the drug epidemic. For the first time, health officials see more women drug users than men. In New York, Washington, D.C., Kansas City and Portland, women outnumber men in drug abuse. Girls as young as 12 trade sex for crack as prostitutes in crack houses.
"This has led directly to the rise in boarder babies- -abandoned babies born of drug-addicted parents. According to the Wall Street Journal, about 375,000 babies a year are born exposed to drugs. D.C. General, Harlem Hospital and other hospitals nationally have opened prenatal clinics for women addicts. At some Washington, D.C. hospitals, 40% of women having babies are drug addicts. This has resulted in the highest infant mortality rate in the nation at 32 per 1000 live births. In central Harlem, 21% of all pregnant crack users receive no prenatal care. Howard University hospital had no boarder babies until May, 1988; this year it had 21 in one week, five with AIDS.
"These infants' care costs $100,000 each per year. More than half of these babies develop smaller heads and smaller abdomens. They sometimes suffer strokes in the womb. Boarder babies stay in the hospital an average of 42 days while the normal stay is three days. At the human level, these children will probably grow up without love or closeness."
Carmen N. Velez and Jane A. Ungemack, "Drug Use Among Puerto Rican Youth: An Exploration of Generational Status Differences," Social Science and Medicine 29, 1989, 779-89; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, November, 1989: "Researchers from Columbia University and the University of Puerto Rico recently took a hard look at the drug problem among Puerto Rican youth in Puerto Rico and in New York City. They discovered more drug use among Puerto Rican students living in non-intact households than among students living in intact homes. Among students living in a nonintact household, three quarters live in female-headed households, suggesting to the researchers that greater vulnerability to drug use may be one 'effect of living in a female-headed family.'"
CHILD ABUSE
Los Angeles Times, 16 December, 1986: "Child molesters have a stronger relationship to their mothers during childhood than rapists do, a study of sex offenders suggests.
"Researchers at the North Florida Evaluation and Treatment Center interviewed 64 convicted sex offenders- -21 rapists and 43 child molesters, Psychiatric News has reported.
"'Whereas the general pattern with both groups is characterized by a lack of fathering,' the study said, 'the pattern of the child molester is characterized by a singular degree of closeness and attachment to the mother.
"'Almost 83% of this group claimed to have had a close or very close relationship with their mothers.'"
L. Mitchel, "Child Abuse and Neglect Fatalities: A Review of the Problem and Strategies for Reform," Working Paper 838. Monograph of the National Center on Child Abuse Prevention Research, National Committee for the Prevention of Child Abuse, Chicago, Illinois, 1987, p. 6; quoted in R. L. McNeely and Gloria Robinson-Simpson, "The Truth About Domestic Violence Revisited: A Reply to Saunders," Social Work, March/April, 1988, p. 186: "Active victims are typically males, under two years of age, living in low socioeconomic status families with multiple young siblings, and who die at the hands of a single mother."
Terrence Cooley, Inter-Office Communication, County of Milwaukee, "AFDC/Child Abuse Information," [11 September, 1989]; epitomized in The Family in America: New Research, December, 1989: "Child abuse typically occurs in impoverished single-parent households. In a recent survey, social-service officials established that of all 1,050 ongoing substantiated child abuse and neglect cases in Milwaukee County in May 1989, 83 percent involved households receiving Aid to Families with Dependent Children (AFDC). Since AFDC goes predominantly to single-parent households (generally the households of unmarried mothers), this survey reveals a remarkably high risk of child abuse in such homes. This new survey also clarifies the great difficulty of curtailing child abuse without reducing illegitimacy and divorce."
Richard J. Gelles and Murray Straus, Intimate Violence: The Causes and Consequences of Abuse in the American Family (New York: Simon and Schuster, 1988), p. 112: "One skeptical reader of our study, Frederick Green, noted that he was seeing more child abuse now than ten years ago. Since he also reported that he sees a largely minority, single-parent, and poor population, this is not surprising."
Henry B. Biller and Richard S. Solomon, Child Maltreatment and Paternal Deprivation: A Manifesto for Research, Prevention and Treatment (Lexington, Mass.: D. C. Heath, 1986), pp. 21f.: "Upwards of 25 percent of children in our society do not have a father living at home. Children in such families are overrepresented in terms of reported cases of physical abuse and other forms of child maltreatment."
Persuasion at Work, August, l985: "The constant media focus on abusive parents from intact, suburban families belies the fact that a greatly disproportionate number of the serious physical abuse cases are found in the otherwise celebrated 'female-headed families,' commonly involving the illegitimate father or mother's current boy friend."
Los Angeles Times, l6 September, l985: "Most [victims of child molestation] were from single parent families or were the children of [pedophile] ring members."
ADDITIONAL NOTE
There has arisen a murmuring and a discontent among academic feminists who sense a threat to the feminist/sexual revolution in the public's awareness of the social pathology of female-headed families, a pathology whose existence they would like to deny. According to Terry Arendell,
The long-held view that the absence of a father adversely affects children has
increasingly been challenged. For example, a study of nearly nine hundred
school-aged children found that single-parent families were just as effective
in rearing children as traditional two-parent families. After controlling
for socioeconomic variables and matching groups of children in father-present
and father-absent families, they found no significant differences between
the two groups [Feldman, H. 1979. "Why We Need a Family Policy." Journal of
Marriage and the Family 41 (3): 453-455]. Another scholar argues:
"Studies that adequately control for economic status challenge the
popular homily that divorce is disastrous for children. Differences between
children from one- and two-parent homes of comparable status on school
achievement, social adjustment, and delinquent behavior are small or even
nonexistent" [Bane, M. 1976. Here to Stay: American Families in the
Twentieth Century, p. 111].[438
This is like saying that pygmies are no shorter than other people ]
Arendell's framing of her assertion contains the suggestio falsi that the problem of single women is wholly economic and that therefore it can be solved by further amercing the ex-husband or ex-boyfriend who, for the purpose of making him justifiably amerceable, must be misrepresented (by the gerrymandering of evidence discussed in Chapter VIII) as enriched by divorce or non-marriage.
What she is here acknowledging is that money, a good thing, commonly keeps company with other good things--high status, high educational achievement, social stability and so forth. She explains what happens when these good things are expelled along with Dad:
The children could not help being adversely affected by the reduced standard
of living and new economic stresses that confronted their mothers. They were
affected most directly by the conflict between their own needs and the demands
of their mothers' new jobs. Being put into child care, being without
supervision before and after school, having to remain home alone when ill, or
having to deal with mothers who felt chronically fatigued and overburdened were
all major adjustments for many of them.[439
The children suffer both paternal and maternal deprivation--paternal
deprivation inflicted by Mom's throwing Dad out of the house, maternal
deprivation by Mom's absenting herself as a wage earner because she no longer
has Dad as a provider.
"There is," say Henry B. Bi]
ample documentation of the association between socioeconomic status and various aspects of children's cognitive and social functioning. Many researchers have argued that the impact of father-absence and divorce on children's development is, for the most part, an artifact of lowered socioeconomic status. Some research, however, suggests that, in fact, single-parent status may actually be a more powerful predictor of the academic and social functioning of young children at school entry than is socioeconomic status or any other family background, developmental history, or health variable. Guidubaldi and Perry [Guidubaldi, J., and Perry, J. D. 1984. "Divorce, Socioeconomic Status, and Children's Cognitive-Social Competence at School Entry," American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 54, 459-468] reported striking evidence that single-parent status accounts for much statistically independent variance, and is highly predictive of performance on various indexes of academic and social competence, even when socioeconomic status is controlled through regression analyses. Although family structure in itself was not associated with intellectual ability measures, children from single-parent homes were found to be much more at risk for poor academic performance and sociobehavioral difficulties upon entering school than were children from two-parent families [Guidubaldi, J.. 1983. "The Impact of Divorce on Children: Report of the Nationwide NASP Study," School Psychology Review, 12, 300-323; Guidubaldi and Perry, 1984].
According to Elizabeth Herzog and Cecilia Sudia,
It is often implied or stated that the causal element in the reported
association of father's absence and juvenile delinquency is lack of paternal
supervision and control. Studies that inquire into family factors confirm the
importance of supervision, but not the indispensability of the father to
that element of child-rearing.[440
No one would assert the father's presence is ]
The same faulty logic occurs in the following:
The questions here are merely whether the father is the only available
source of masculine identity and whether absence of a father from the home
necessarily impairs a boy's masculine identity. The studies reviewed do
not, in our view, provide solid support for such a thesis.[441
No one would suppose the father was the "only" source or that his absence
"necessarily" impaired the boy's masculine identity. No one would suppose, in
other words, that there existed a hundred percent correlation between
father-absence and impaired masculinity in sons. But having thus triumphantly
disproved what was never asserted, Herzog and Sudia affect to believe that they
have disproved what ]
They continue:
Family-oriented studies usually include father's absence as part of the family
configuration rather than as a sole and separate factor. Some of them find
father's absence significantly related to juvenile delinquency and some do not.
A recurrent finding, however, is that other factors are more important,
especially competent supervision of the child and general family climate or
harmony.[442
The correlations established in the Annex show that the father's presence is
often not merely "another factor," but the most relevant factor, that the
absence of the father often means the absence of more competent supervision and
its replacement by less competent supervision. Herzog and Sudia's argument is
comparable to saying that the absence of the father's paycheck is not as
important as "other factors" such as adequate income. It is the father's
paycheck which commonly provides the adequate income children need; and it is
the father' socialization which commonly provides the competent supervision
children need.
It is often, say Herzog and Sudia,
difficult to know whether reported differences related more strongly to family
factors (including fatherlessness) or to SES [socioeconomic status]--the more
so since family factors and SES are intricately intertwined.443
They had better be. The intertwining of family factors and SES is an
essential part of the patriarchal system, which motivates males to create
wealth, in exchange for which it guarantees them a secure family role. It is
for this reason that families must be headed by fathers and why fathers must
not permit their paychecks to be taken from them for the purpose of subsidizing
ex-wives and fatherless families.
According to the feminist sociologists Patricia Van Voorhi]
Herzog and Sudia's insistence that father-absence is not of primary importance
because "other factors are more important, especially competent supervision of
the child and general family climate or harmony" is inconsistent with another
point they make when they are grinding a different axe and wish their readers
to believe in the ]
Is it any wonder that women family heads such as these generate a
disproportionate amount of social pathology?
When the single mothers do properly socialize children along patriarchal
lines, they fall foul of other feminists like Phyllis ]
Aren't patriarchal mothers still complicity [sic] in the reproduction
of sexism? Don't they, in Sarah Ruddick's words, carry out "The Father's
Will"--even or especially in His absence? Aren't patriarchal mothers, in Mary
Daly's words, their own daughters' "token-torturers?"[447
It is acknowledged that there is an "officially recognized" correlation
between delinquency and father-absence but this is said to be the result of
prejudice: police and social workers and teachers ]
are more likely to expect and ultimately perceive poor behavior from the
children of divorced parents.[448
"Since agencies of juvenile justice routinely include the stability of the
home as a criterion for legal intervention," says feminist Margaret
Farnswor]
such evidence may reflect a self-fulfilling prophecy.....That is,
decision-making policy based on the assumption that broken homes lead to
delinquency could, in itself, account for the higher official rate of
delinquency observed among juveniles from broken homes.[449
Why ]
]
"Assets of the marriage" 236, 240
"Family"
definition of 287
"Good" and "bad" women 69, 234, 285
"Marriage crunch" 36
"Marriage gradient"
see also hypergamy 185
"No fault" divorce
not a cause of feminization of poverty 242
"Occupation: housewife"
insufficiently challenging 246
"Our Paychecks" 104
"Peripheral- husband marriage"
the 255
"Sexual privilege or excuse" 249
"sisterhood means revolution" 59
"Thanks for My Child" 63
"Unpaid labor" of wives 239
Abbruzzese, Carlo 323
Abortion 34
Acedia 132
Ackworth, Evelyn 23
Affirmative action 149, 277
Agnation
kinship through males 275
Alimony 239
inconsistent with feminist ideals 237
other names for 110
Allen, Paula Gunn 207
American housewife
laziness of 105
Anderson, E. M. 63
Andreski, S. L. 194
Angel, Ronald and Jacqueline Lowe Woresbey 402
Arendell, Terry 238
Arendell, Terry 412
Arras, Betty 375, 422
Ashcraft, Laura 14
Assassins 4
Assissins 337
Authority, need for 337
Avery, Bettye 357
Avery, Byllye 45
Babylonia 28
Bachofen, J. J. 77
Backup System 43, 151, 286
Bader, Eleanor J. 356
Baegert, Fr. Jacob 190
Bahlmann, David W. 389
Baker, Lorian and Dennis P. Cantwell 404
Bakos, Susan Crain 125
Bane, Mary Jo 287
Bauer, Gary 322
Bauer, Gary 372
Bauer, Gary 34
Beena marriage 28
Beer, John 379
Bell, Carolyn Shaw 21
Benefits
conferred vs. earned 261
Berg, Berthold and Lawrence A. Kurdek 379
Bergmann, Barbara 197, 304
Pink People and Blue People 268
Bergmann, Barbara 26
Bernard, Jessie 137
Best interests of the children 251
Beyette, Beverly 348
Bhatia, S.C. 341
Biller, Henry 308, 316, 349, 357, 369, 385, 394
and Dennis Meredith 324, 374
and Richard S. Solomon 351, 365, 410, 414
Billy the Kid 332
Birth rate
fall from 1965- present 165
Birthrate of educated women
far lower than that of educated men 265
Blum, Heather 389
Blumenfeld, Samuel 75
Bodichon, Barbara Leigh Smith 120
Boulding, Elise 47 59, 266
Briffault, Robert 10, 131, 175, 202, 209
Broken homes 41
Bronfenbrenner, Urie 325
Bumpass, Larry 159
Bunch, Charlotte 77, 151
Cambric, Margaret 322
Campolo, Tony 379
Canter, Rachelle 312
Career women
less likely to marry, more likely to divorce 263
Carlson, Allan C. 347
Causes of family destruction 285
Cavin, Susan 49, 103, 234
Chambers, David 220
Chartan, Fred B. 339
Chastity
female and male 70
Chesler, Phyllis 38, 321, 420
Child abuse 21, 408
Child support payments 70
Childlessness of educated women 182
Chopin, Kate 187
Christensen, Bryce 329, 406
Civilization
a male creation 176
artificiality of 163
built on repression and frustration 165
Clark, Ramsey 3, 26, 196, 307
Class position of women
depends on men 233
Cohen, Patricia and Judith Brook 320, 398
Coleman, James 365
Colton, Helen, 358
on Promiscuity Principle 275
Commitment
men's unwillingness to make 284
Comparable worth 277
Contract of marriage 275
Cooley, Terrence 409
Cornell, Dewey 309
Coronary heart disease
among husbands of emancipated women 184
Cosmic Mother and bisexuality 359
Creation of patriarchy 233
Crime 274
increase in 277
Cunningham, Gary 332
Cuomo, Governor Mario 146
Custody Trap 150
Dalton, Richard et al. 399
Daly, Mary 59, 128
De Roquefeuil
on female promiscuity in Marquesas Islands 229
De- regulation of female sexuality 140, 275
Dear Abby 85, 159, 197
Decline of fatherhood 194
DeLeeuw, Hendrik 84
Delinquency 21, 274
Demo, David and Alan C. Acock 372
Divorce, economics of 256
greater likelihood for working women 262
increasing 165
more damaging to men 219
reasons for 241
usually initiated by the wife 203, 240
Divorce rate
low under patriarchy 296
Divorced women
low income of 156
Dollard, John 174
Domestic violence 128
Domination
absence of in primitive societies 177
Double standard
essential to patriarchy 282
reward for accepting 283
Doyle, R. F. 363
Drug addiction 4
Drugs 274
Dumas, Alexandre 177
Dworkin, Andrea 130
Eberstadt, Nicholas 403
Educational failure 4
and mother- custody 160
Educational underachievement 275, 361
Eggan, Fred 16
Ehrenreich, Barbara 60
Barbara, Elizabeth Hess and Gloria Jacobs 192
Eisenstein, Zillah 243
Enforcing child support payments 220
Engels, Frederick 193
Enormous potential counterforce resisting patriarchy 181
Evans, Arthur 13, 291
Family breakdown 275
Farnsworth, Margaret 421
Father custody 153, 164, 199, 283
economic benefit to children 239
the norm in most civilized societies 215
Father's paycheck as stabilizer of marriage 295
Father's role
weak link in family 303
Female role 5
a "biological fact" 164
Feminine mystique 48, 72
Feminism 275
Feminist movement
as evolutionary breakthrough 280
Feminist- sexual revolution 9, 166
Fertility goddess 53
Field direction 88
Firestone, Shulamith 155
First law of matriarchy 22, 41, 49
Fisher, Helen 6, 48, 305
Forehand, Rex 363
et al. 371
Free ride 299
as affliction 137
following divorce 251
French, Marilyn 17, 59, 146, 181
Freud, Sigmund 59, 164, 215
Friedan, Betty 43,48, 58, 100, 150, 152, 156, 160, 200, 237, 241, 244, 279, 307, 402
on money as a love- spoiler 183
on Promiscuity Principle 230
women's need to trust themselves 245
"Society asks so little of women" 239
Fuchs, Victor 342
Fury, Kathleen 361
Gangs 4
Garbage Generation 72
and female- headed households 165
Garden of Eden 53
and male dominance 82
Garfinkel, Irwin and Sara S. McLanahan 401
Garrison, Carol Z. 378
Gates, Daryl, L. A. Police Chief 277
Gecas, Viktor 399
Gelles, Richard and Murray Straus 410, 118
Gelpi, Barbara 157
Geyer, Georgie Anne 36
GI Bill for Women 134
Gilder, George 33, 52, 92, 97, 170
condemns secular, rationalist moral codes 205
Gilman, Charlotte Perkins 302
Gilson, Edith 263
Glendon, Mary Ann 166, 283, 297
Goldberg, Herb 184
Goodman, Ellen 196
Government as "family" 146
Great Mother 82
Greene, Irene 116
Guidubaldi, John and Joseph D. Perry 370
Hahn, Emily 60
Haiti
poverty and matriarchy 276
Hall, Wes 66
Hammurabi 30, 279
legislation beneficial to women 279
Hartsock, Nancy 157
Haskins, William 322
Hathaway, Starke and Elio Monachesi 308
Hawkes, Jacquetta 13
Hazlett, Bill and David Shaw 321
Heade, Herman 389
Heilbrun, Carolyn 122
women's delayed adolescence 124
Henderson, Hazel 70
Hentschke, Gilbert C. 373
Herzog, Elizabeth and Cecilia Sudia 415
Hetherington, E. Mavis 158
Hierarchy of needs 132
Hirschensohn case 287
Hoffer, Eric 91
Hoffman, Lois 99
Hopi Indians 16
Horner, Mattina 99
Hosea 81
Hrdy, Sarah 8
Hu, Dale et. al. 365
Hunter, Rosemary 118
Ianni, Francis 327
IBM
subsidizes female engineers 258
Ibsen
A Doll's House 123
father custody in A Doll's House 215
Illegitimacy 5, 17, 34, 63
abolition of in Ireland 148
increasing 165
Impotence, among college males 96
Industrial revolution and male motivation 93
Intimacy, fear of in 1980s 192
Involutional melancholia of older women 48
ISD, inhibited sexual desire 96
Jack the Ripper 335
Jamaica 31
Japan, family stability 164
Johnson, Shirley 263
Johnson, Adelaide M. and S. A. Szurels 378
Jones, Tamara 321
Kalter, Neil 354, 377
Kaplan, Helen Singer 97
Kasindorf, Martin 331
Kaye, Harvey 319
Kelly, Joan 158
Kennedy, Flo 112
Kiefer, Otto 77
Kilstrom, Nancy 118
Kinship, female 10
in ghettos, etc. 275
Kinship, male 10
Kirkham, James, Sheldon Levy and William Crotty 337
Knight, Raymond A. 33
Knight, Raymond and Robert Prentky 340
Knowles, Caroline 58
Kung 6
Lamb, Michael 388
Landers, Ann 24, 177
Lasch, Christopher 123
Laukenmann, Bernard 324
Legal system, enemy of patriarchy 50
Legitimacy 161
Legitimacy Principle 23
undermining of 85
Leibowitz, Judge Samuel S. 335
Lentz, Bernard 265
Lepine, Marc, mass killer 334
Lerner, Gerda 27, 50, 174, 200, 233, 278
Lesbianism 78
Love, Barbara 20, 89
Lusane, Clarence 407
MacArthur, John 20
Madagascar, environmental massacre of 148
Mahabharata on female promiscuity 229
Male motivation
economic value of 240
Male role 5, 43
Mall, Janice 149
Manson, Charles 79, 331
Marital disruptions
more likely for fatherless girls 160
Marriage, women's antipathy to 177
Marriage gradient: women marry up, men down 260
Marsiglio, William 346
Mason, Mary Ann 153
Maternal tie
too sacred to be severed 302
Matriarchy 8, 47
Golden Age 47
Matriclan 146
Matrikinship 30
Matsueda, Ross and Karen Keimer 320
Matsuhashi, Yuko 349
Maysun 207
McCord, William, Joan McCord and Irving Zola 327
McGraw, Carol 129
McLanahan, Sara 159, 345
and Larry Bumpass 392
McLennan, John 10
McNamara, Edward 67
Mead, Margaret 5, 8, 100, 164
Men's fear of success 99
Menninger, Karl 118
Mernissi, Fatima 73
Mesopotamia 50
Messer, Alfred A. 393
Mill, John Stuart 80, 164, 214, 283
Miller, Brent and C. Raymond Bingham 345
Mitchel, L. 409
Mohammed 73
Moilanen, Irma 159
and Paula Rantakallio 397
Mor, Barbara 22, 212
Moran, Patricia and Allan Barclay 371
Morgan, Marabel 191
Morgan, Peggy 173
Morgan, Robin 131
Mother custody 160, 214
Motherhood
sacredness of 163, 300
Motherhood Card 244
negates the marriage contract 298
Motivation
male 273
Mullett, Sara et al. 403
Murphy, Kim 73
Murray, Charles 35
Mutatawa (religious police) 73
Mutilated Beggar argument 142, 243, 277
and Custody Trap 244
Mutilated Beggars
Myth of the monstrous male 132
Neal, Jerry 221
Newcomer, Susan and J. Richard Udry 356
Newland, Kathleen 156
Nickles, Elizabeth 14, 101
Njeri, Itabari 360
No- fault divorce 237
Norton, Lady Caroline 214
Novak, Clare 157
Nuclear family
women's dislike of 213
O'Connor, Sandra Day 68
Older housewives, predicament of 243
Oswald, Lee Harvey 338
Othello 24
Papathomopoulos, Evangelos 342
Paskowicz, Patricia 158
Paternity 12
Patriarchal system 9, 22, 275
based on chastity and loyalty 97
age of 49
Paychecks
men's control of 104
Peirce, Neal 21, 322
Peres, Yochanan and Rachel Pasternack 364
Petrovich, Michael and Donald Templer 339
Pettigrew, T. F. 326
Pillay, Anthony 323
Planned Parenthood 273
Playboy
views wives as parasites 108
Plebeians vs. Patricians 276
Polanco, Richard 390
Poverty
as hallmark of matriliny 277
Precivilized society
women in 59
Premarital births
more likely for fatherless girls 159
Prentky, Robert A. 33
Prison population
increasing 161
Problem that has no name, 132
Promiscuity Principle 8, 71, 173, 192, 230, 273, 289
Prostitutes
high status in primitive society 291
Psychological problems 377
Rantakallio, Paula 159
Rapists and child molesters 4, 339
Reed, Evelyn 18, 30, 193
Regulation of female sexuality 14, 49,174, 278
Reitzenstein, Freiherr F. von 76
Rekers, George 357
Ressler, Robert, Ann Burgess and John Douglas 312
Reverse- rites- of- passage 285
Rich, Adrienne, 19, 50 59, 90, 181, 200, 208
Richards, A. I. 16
Richardson, Laurel 34
Richmond- Abbott, Marie 90, 99, 182, 185
Rights of fathers ignored by the legal system 248
Robertson, R. G. 398
Robinson, Patricia 24
Roman society 276
Rossi, Alice 51, 155
Rothenberg, Charles 78
Rothstein, David 338
Roussel, Louis 165
Salk Lee 315
Sampson, Robert and Byron Groves 328
Sarri, Rosemary 157
Sawyer, Martha 22
Schlesinger, Steven 309
Schweinfurth, G. W. 91
Sciara, Frank J. 375
Scott, Janny 100
,Screwtape on marrying for love 285
Segal, Lynne 62, 130
Segal, Boris 400
Self- realization 132
Seneca Falls feminists
complaint that women were moral minors 124
Sex mis- education 286
Sexton, Patricia Cayo 338
Sexual anarchy 275, 345
Sexual Constitution 54
a male creation 175
Shane, Paul G. 363, 401
Shanklin, Elizabeth 20, 89
Siegel, Barry 320
Single Mothers by Choice 58, 347
Sirhan, Sirhan 338
Sjoo, Monica 212
Sjoo, Monica 22, 359
Smith, Adam 294
Smith, Douglas and G. Roger Jarjoura 314
Smith, Honor Ford 31
Smith, Richard and James Walters 310
Smith, W. Robertson 10, 76, 83
Social organization
based on male vs. female kinship 275
Socialization 3
Southworth, Suzanne and J. Conrad Schwarz 346
Spangler, Doug 315
Spencer, Herbert 145
Spender, Dale 130
,Spong, Bishop John 291
Status 57
Stein, Judith A. et al. 405
Steinem, Gloria 112, 240
Stern, Marilyn, John Northman and Michael Van Slyck 311
Stone, Merlin 81
Stone Age 7, 17, 47, 49
sexual promiscuity in 180
Strober, Myra 157
Suicide 341
Sutton- Smith, B, B. G. Rosenberg and Frank Landy 362
Taylor, Harriet 80
Teenage births
more likely for fatherless girls 159
Teenage marriages
more likely for fatherless girls 159
Tholmer, Brandon 38
Thompson, Maxine, Karl L. Alexander and Doris R. Entwisle 374
Trombetta, Diane and Betsy Warren Lebbos 354
Unchastity of women in primitive society 178
Urukagina, King of Lagash 229
Van Voorhis, Patricia et al. 418
Vargas, Gloria 129
Vasseur, Jacques, Nazi collaborator 334
Velez, Carmen and Jane A. Ungemack 408
Velez, Carmen and Patricia Cohen 343
Victorian age
stability of 164
Wages Due Lesbians 139
Wages for Housework 139
Wakerman, Elyce 391
Wallerstein, Judith 158
Ward, Ronald 311
Warfare between patriliny and matriliny 280
Warren, Lynda and C. Tomlinson- Keasey 344
Wattleton, Faye 273
Webster- Stratton, Carolyn 380
Weitzman, Lenore 160, 296, 413
spuriousness of her statistics 239
Welfare 5, 34
Weyrich, Peter 360
Wiggins, Ella May 143
Williams, Carl 33
Wilson, William P. 381
Witches, nine million allegedly killed 113
Wodarski, John and Pamela Harris 343
Woman
patriarchal image of her as dependent on man 243
Woman's extra load of economic dependency 137
Women
greater humanity of 131
Women as slaves 116
Women's "long- term sexual horizons" 172
Women's dislike of marriage 208
Women's Studies 286
Woolf, Virginia 265
Work, motivation of 92
Wrigley, E. A. 93
Wynn, Margaret 307
Zagar, Robert 327, 380
Zigler, Edward 118
Zinn, Deborah K. 157
Zodiac killer 333