Call to an Arlington, TX
March 22, 1998
A Call to Arlington, TX Women's Shelter March 22, 1998 5:05 PM
Phone answered by volunteer
Man: Uh-um. My wife and I just had an argument. She came at me with a frying pan. Is the Women's Shelter also available to men?
Volunteer: We wouldn't house you at the shelter itself sir. We might be able to house you somewhere else.
Man: OK. Here in Arlington?
Volunteer: Uh, yes sir.
Man: OK. Um How about my daughter?
Volunteer: Could you give me a little more information about what's going on?
Man: Well, I have a 17-year-old daughter. Would she be able to come down there? Pardon.
Volunteer: I'm having to think.
Volunteer: I'm not sure I've heard this one yet. (Pause) Are you working right now?
Volunteer: Ok. I'm Susan.
Man: Susan, I'm Roy.
Susan: Hi Roy.
Roy: But you don't have capabilities to help men?
Susan: Not here at the shelter. Now sometimes we help men as far as helping getting them into a motel room or something.
Roy: Do you have a counselor available for me?
Susan: We'd have a counselor available at our administrative office. Are you here in Arlington?
Roy: Yes. Umm. Would you have help for me for the court?
Susan: Have you called the police?
Susan: OK. Are you going to press charges?
Roy: I haven't decided. I don't know if this is a one-time argument that got out of hand or….
Susan: How long have you been together?
Roy: 20 years.
Susan: Oh my goodness! Anything like this ever happen before?
Roy: No. I just…. fear now just set in. Um All you can do is provide me a place to go is all. You don't have counseling available.
Susan: I'd have to check with our administrative offices as far as counseling men. I know Fort Worth has male counselors.
Roy: Aren't we the victims no matter what? I don't see what the difference is.
Susan: No sir a man that hits the woman…
Roy: No, no. I mean as far as a man being hit by his wife.
Susan: Oh exactly you are both victims. But a lot depends on how, you know, your funding is written. Um
Roy: Ok. You're only set up to handle women.
Susan: As far as shelter is concerned, yes sir. Like I said we could help you get set up in a motel room…. (Pause) [Tape stopped running} I checked with the other lady here…
[Tape malfunctioned…referred to Fort Worth Women's Haven that opens at 9:00 am tomorrow.]
Roy: Ok thank you very much.